This A- list mostly movie actress who was married forever to the drunk A+ list mostly movie actor has been regularly visiting a fertility doctor because she wants to have a baby with the guy she is going to marry.
It's REEEALLY hard to have toddlers running around after a certain age, don't do it Jen! Actually, she has the money for nannies I guess I'd totally do it If I was her. I'm me and did it, and O.M.G.
For realz Rosie -Mine are 5 and 3 now and in school but even when out they bounce off walls, and it takes a stamina of an Olympian at times lol. Summers are looooong.
Good for Jen. After dealing with Affleck's drama it's time she had some goodness in her personal life. There are very few in Hollywood that I actually like now but she appears to be the real deal.
Those people just can't accept their age. The men all seem to date 20-year-olds, and the women try to get pregnant at 45+.
I'd understand it if she didn't have kids yet, or maybe only one child that she doesn't want to grow up without siblings. But she has 3! And the new guy isn't childless either if I remember correctly.
People that have kids over 45 piss me off. You’re gonna be dead by the time your child is 40. So selfish, not caring or thinking about how your kids will feel having way older parents. Unfair and so selfish
You don't always know the situation, notthisagain... People come into parenthood in many different ways. My son's biological mother is 21 years old, and SHE won't be alive to see 40. That's a fact.
"By the time your child is 40," they are approaching middle age and may well have school age kids of their own. I see no problem with people having kids in their 40's if they think they have the energy.
Jeez folks need to relax. People can be great or shitty parents at any age. I once asked an older scientist father at a bbq party how he managed his young kids' energy. Easy he said, kids are stupid, like morons. To demonstrate he called one of his sons over and excitedly said he bet the son couldn't run around the house four times quicker than before, and got his watch out. That kid took off like the roadrunner. The father admitted he never bothered timing them, just told them they were a minute behind or a minute ahead of their last run. And the father said he did that kind of sh!t all the time. Chores, meaningless tasks, stupid activities, he always smiled and loved them but he held children's intelligence in total contempt. I stood in awe. Older parents may have less energy, but they're a lot smarter.
Also enough with this bullshit about parents not living long enough to see their children cure cancer. After the kids are eighteen, dying before your children is a privilege. I've known more than a few parents that had to put their children in the ground and it's f*cking heartbreaking. It's probably the worst experience one can have in life besides maybe being tortured or suffering childhood abuse, and I think the parents would argue even against that.
@notthisagain - how narrow-minded. I am a woman in my late 20s engaged to a 40 year old wonderful man who didn't find the right person to have children with until I came along 3 years ago. The world and my future children should be robbed of an amazing father simply because he might experience health problems in 40 years? That is like saying its inconsiderate to have children because there's a chance you ~might~ get cancer at some point and die prematurely. People should focus much more on their emotional and mental health when evaluating whether or not to have children. I would rather my children spend 40 years with an incredible dad than 60 with a mediocre one.
My issue with this is more the unwillingness of those actresses to accept the natural aging process. If you get pregnant naturally after 45, fine. And I'm not against IVF in general, but I think it should be confined to people of 'normal' childbearing age. If you have had 3 children, and then at what, 46? you don't get pregnant anymore, your body is telling you something.
I think some women are actually addicted to having babies. It makes them feel young or gives them a sense of self-worth or whatever.
Some of us haven't been lucky enough to find anyone when we were younger. To bar us from the possibility of ever having children seems cruel. And before the 20th century it was common for parents to die before their children were grown. It can still happen today. My sister died when her kids were still teenagers. So the idea that not having kids when you're older because you'll die when the children are 40 is ridiculous.
@ itsamanda May I ask how you met your fiance? Just curious :) I have a friend close to 40 who really wants to start a family but lives in an area where there aren't very many single women over 30, so he's looking for someone a bit younger.
why put it all on Jen, maybe the guy is wanting a child, or it is a mutual decision? maybe she wants the experience of having a stable family, not one with a alcoholic cheater?
Why shouldn't rich women pay poorer younger women to carry their fetuses for them? That fits perfectly well within a matriarchy. You've got the queen bees on top while all the female worker bees are too busy running everything for them.
@Huckleberry - unfortunately we met boringly and organically through work. I had never dated someone older before and was not seeking it out. I just graduated from law school though and met a lot of women my age who did seek out relationships with older men as they found them more mature, secure, and stable - perhaps your friend should frequent bars around local law schools :)
All this Jen is a saint is bullshit, she was cheating on her husband with Ben. She’s not all that sweet and I know it takes two to tango, but all the living wife stories are bullshit from her PR team. I know she did everything she could do but you can’t help an addict or drunk unless they actually want help.
Some women seem to think that if she has a baby with a guy, he's more likely to stick around. Garner should have learned her lesson the first time -- this didn't work with Affleck even with her adding more and more to their litter. She's so dumb.
Lol Brayson. I could tell my kid, "Bet you can't..." and she'd be like, "Yah, you're probably right," and go back to whatever she was doing. Kid doesn't do anything she does not deem important.
If people want to do fertility treatments and all that, well it’s their money. But I find it so strange that so many people put off kids “because I’m not financially ready”, then have to spend all that money they presumably saved, to be able to afford kids, on fertility treatments. This isn’t everyone (duh) but it’s just a good example of how you can plan all you want but it doesn’t always work out.
The idea of a surrogate grosses me out. I wouldn’t want my baby being incubated in some stranger’s body. Their blood and fluids and so forth, are building your baby, even if it’s your egg and your husband’s sperm. I wonder what type of weird stuff we will find out because of that, later on down the road?
I wish more people who already have kids and are wealthy enough to be thinking of adding to their family would stop and consider fostering or adopting - from within their own country. Its a crying shame that such a great nation like the US has so many kids in care.
Not a fan of Garner. The woman seems to have no chill. Just go go go go go. All the time. Hires a ton of PR. Also has a hired internet army. Garner Bots . Maybe let your kids recover from divorce, Jennifer? Before putting New Guy and New Baby upon them. After all, this will be hubby number three. Or is it four? Just a thought.
My dad was 48 having me and I'm the oldest. He lived to be almost 90 and he was SO active when we were young. Skied with us, played basketball, tennis. We had friends whose sedentary dad's at heart attacks etc. Age is a number. Take care of yourself.
If he is on board with the plan then I think Jen should do whatever the fuck she wants. She may be photographed with her kids but I feel she is a good mother. I mean really should we duck in back alley's and send decoys out? That is no way to raise a kid about the reality of the world they live in. Outside of that, she was ride or die for that drunk. Will be forever. Let her have some happiness.
Acupuncture is AMAZING. I absolutely 100% agree with this and highly recommend it to everyone. It works for so many issues. If you have good insurance it might even cover it (and massages and the chiropractor).
Brayson, it's true. I have buried two children. Our youngest son had an undetected chromosonal defect. I was under 35 so didn't get tested. We had him for 27 hrs. I literally nearly collapsed on the way to the gravesite & tried to talk my husband & minister into going for drinks. We buried our #2 son in Sept 2017. VERY unexpected. 3 wks before his 30th BD & 8 months after he got married. Absolutely the hardest thing in the world. And I want to slap the shit out of anyone who claims their pet is their child. NO comparison.
Jen Garner
ReplyDeleteIt's REEEALLY hard to have toddlers running around after a certain age, don't do it Jen!
ReplyDeleteActually, she has the money for nannies I guess I'd totally do it If I was her.
I'm me and did it, and O.M.G.
For realz Rosie -Mine are 5 and 3 now and in school but even when out they bounce off walls, and it takes a stamina of an Olympian at times lol.
DeleteSummers are looooong.
Just ignore the kids and hook up with their teachers.
ReplyDeleteGood for Jen. After dealing with Affleck's drama it's time she had some goodness in her personal life. There are very few in Hollywood that I actually like now but she appears to be the real deal.
ReplyDeleteI would think her children count as "goodness in her personal life" but thats just me.
DeleteHow is affleck A+
ReplyDeleteBen has 2 Oscars. And is a movie star. Both for reasons I cant determine.
DeleteIs her boyfriend still married?
ReplyDeleteThose people just can't accept their age. The men all seem to date 20-year-olds, and the women try to get pregnant at 45+.
ReplyDeleteI'd understand it if she didn't have kids yet, or maybe only one child that she doesn't want to grow up without siblings. But she has 3! And the new guy isn't childless either if I remember correctly.
People that have kids over 45 piss me off. You’re gonna be dead by the time your child is 40. So selfish, not caring or thinking about how your kids will feel having way older parents. Unfair and so selfish
ReplyDeleteSo selfish, to give life
DeleteYou don't always know the situation, notthisagain...
DeletePeople come into parenthood in many different ways.
My son's biological mother is 21 years old, and SHE won't be alive to see 40. That's a fact.
My husband and I are in our late 30s and trying for our first. How are we selfish that we waited until we grew up, have stable jobs, and money?
DeleteI can't imagine having kids again after a certain age. To get started on all that again? No thanks. It was a lovely time, but it's over.
ReplyDelete"By the time your child is 40," they are approaching middle age and may well have school age kids of their own. I see no problem with people having kids in their 40's if they think they have the energy.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't imagine being a parent when I was 25, I sure don't wanna be one now, even a step parent.
ReplyDeleteThis is great news because Earth doesn't have enough people.
ReplyDelete@DoTell
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i can't stand her.
How is Jen A- list? Her best work is in commercials.
ReplyDeleteJeez folks need to relax. People can be great or shitty parents at any age. I once asked an older scientist father at a bbq party how he managed his young kids' energy. Easy he said, kids are stupid, like morons. To demonstrate he called one of his sons over and excitedly said he bet the son couldn't run around the house four times quicker than before, and got his watch out. That kid took off like the roadrunner. The father admitted he never bothered timing them, just told them they were a minute behind or a minute ahead of their last run. And the father said he did that kind of sh!t all the time. Chores, meaningless tasks, stupid activities, he always smiled and loved them but he held children's intelligence in total contempt. I stood in awe.
ReplyDeleteOlder parents may have less energy, but they're a lot smarter.
Also enough with this bullshit about parents not living long enough to see their children cure cancer. After the kids are eighteen, dying before your children is a privilege. I've known more than a few parents that had to put their children in the ground and it's f*cking heartbreaking. It's probably the worst experience one can have in life besides maybe being tortured or suffering childhood abuse, and I think the parents would argue even against that.
ReplyDelete@notthisagain - how narrow-minded. I am a woman in my late 20s engaged to a 40 year old wonderful man who didn't find the right person to have children with until I came along 3 years ago. The world and my future children should be robbed of an amazing father simply because he might experience health problems in 40 years? That is like saying its inconsiderate to have children because there's a chance you ~might~ get cancer at some point and die prematurely. People should focus much more on their emotional and mental health when evaluating whether or not to have children. I would rather my children spend 40 years with an incredible dad than 60 with a mediocre one.
ReplyDeleteAlso, she couldn't keep the family together for the first kids, so no doubt that won't happen again.
ReplyDeleteSo the wife is responsible if her man is addicted to outside poon (and gambling and alcohol)? Do you live in 1950?
DeleteYes. She's supposed to protect her kids, right? Well, she did a piss-poor job choosing a father for them.
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ReplyDeleteMy issue with this is more the unwillingness of those actresses to accept the natural aging process. If you get pregnant naturally after 45, fine. And I'm not against IVF in general, but I think it should be confined to people of 'normal' childbearing age. If you have had 3 children, and then at what, 46? you don't get pregnant anymore, your body is telling you something.
ReplyDeleteI think some women are actually addicted to having babies. It makes them feel young or gives them a sense of self-worth or whatever.
Having large families is now a status symbol for rich and upper-middle class white people.
ReplyDeleteSome of us haven't been lucky enough to find anyone when we were younger. To bar us from the possibility of ever having children seems cruel. And before the 20th century it was common for parents to die before their children were grown. It can still happen today. My sister died when her kids were still teenagers. So the idea that not having kids when you're older because you'll die when the children are 40 is ridiculous.
ReplyDeletefnchrstphr, data disagree:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/05/07/childlessness-falls-family-size-grows-among-highly-educated-women/st_2015-05-07_childlessness-12/
@J Yutz you didn't even read the article did you???? It proves exactly what I wrote!
DeleteThe results are in the URL you posted for God's sake!
@ itsamanda
ReplyDeleteMay I ask how you met your fiance? Just curious :)
I have a friend close to 40 who really wants to start a family but lives in an area where there aren't very many single women over 30, so he's looking for someone a bit younger.
why put it all on Jen, maybe the guy is wanting a child, or it is a mutual decision? maybe she wants the experience of having a stable family, not one with a alcoholic cheater?
ReplyDelete@gauloise: let's not forget that she cheated on her first two husbands.
ReplyDeletegauloise, if she wanted that she wouldn't have married Ben Affleck.
ReplyDeleteAssuming she's bright enough to know anything about human nature, that is.
Why shouldn't rich women pay poorer younger women to carry their fetuses for them? That fits perfectly well within a matriarchy. You've got the queen bees on top while all the female worker bees are too busy running everything for them.
ReplyDelete@Huckleberry - unfortunately we met boringly and organically through work. I had never dated someone older before and was not seeking it out. I just graduated from law school though and met a lot of women my age who did seek out relationships with older men as they found them more mature, secure, and stable - perhaps your friend should frequent bars around local law schools :)
ReplyDeleteAll this Jen is a saint is bullshit, she was cheating on her husband
ReplyDeletewith Ben. She’s not all that sweet and I know it takes two to tango,
but all the living wife stories are bullshit from her PR team. I know
she did everything she could do but you can’t help an addict or drunk
unless they actually want help.
I look a lot younger (~34) than my true age (42) and people are always assuming or encouraging me to have kids.
ReplyDeleteFuck. That. Shit.
Talk about a thankless, neverending task. I applaud and respect anyone ELSE who takes on that role.
Some women seem to think that if she has a baby with a guy, he's more likely to stick around. Garner should have learned her lesson the first time -- this didn't work with Affleck even with her adding more and more to their litter. She's so dumb.
ReplyDeleteLol Brayson. I could tell my kid, "Bet you can't..." and she'd be like, "Yah, you're probably right," and go back to whatever she was doing. Kid doesn't do anything she does not deem important.
ReplyDeleteIf people want to do fertility treatments and all that, well it’s their money. But I find it so strange that so many people put off kids “because I’m not financially ready”, then have to spend all that money they presumably saved, to be able to afford kids, on fertility treatments. This isn’t everyone (duh) but it’s just a good example of how you can plan all you want but it doesn’t always work out.
ReplyDeleteThe idea of a surrogate grosses me out. I wouldn’t want my baby being incubated in some stranger’s body. Their blood and fluids and so forth, are building your baby, even if it’s your egg and your husband’s sperm. I wonder what type of weird stuff we will find out because of that, later on down the road?
and i have never heard that HE wants to marry HER?? all i hear is that she "wants" to marry him.
ReplyDeletewhat does "the guy" have to say about all this?
she's crazy - like stalkerish crazy.
This has been another episode of "As the Trailer Rusts"
ReplyDeleteDiane Lane/Josh Brolin
ReplyDeleteSuch sexism. If she wants one then why not. She certainly can afford it.
ReplyDeleteWho gives a shit if she wants kids? Good for her.
ReplyDeleteI wish more people who already have kids and are wealthy enough to be thinking of adding to their family would stop and consider fostering or adopting - from within their own country. Its a crying shame that such a great nation like the US has so many kids in care.
ReplyDeleteNot a fan of Garner.
ReplyDeleteThe woman seems to have no chill. Just go go go go go. All the time.
Hires a ton of PR. Also has a hired internet army.
Garner Bots .
Maybe let your kids recover from divorce, Jennifer? Before putting New Guy and New Baby upon them.
After all, this will be hubby number three. Or is it four?
Just a thought.
@ComeThe, Stray dogs are more popular than orphans in America.
ReplyDeleteMy dad was 48 having me and I'm the oldest. He lived to be almost 90 and he was SO active when we were young. Skied with us, played basketball, tennis. We had friends whose sedentary dad's at heart attacks etc. Age is a number. Take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf he is on board with the plan then I think Jen should do whatever the fuck she wants. She may be photographed with her kids but I feel she is a good mother. I mean really should we duck in back alley's and send decoys out? That is no way to raise a kid about the reality of the world they live in. Outside of that, she was ride or die for that drunk. Will be forever. Let her have some happiness.
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ReplyDeleteSomeone tell her that acupuncture works great for fertility issues.
ReplyDeleteAcupuncture is AMAZING. I absolutely 100% agree with this and highly recommend it to everyone. It works for so many issues. If you have good insurance it might even cover it (and massages and the chiropractor).
Deletewhat was the creeper story about herself and casey
ReplyDeleteI'd love to know
Omg relax. Ffs
ReplyDeleteBrayson, it's true. I have buried two children. Our youngest son had an undetected chromosonal defect. I was under 35 so didn't get tested. We had him for 27 hrs. I literally nearly collapsed on the way to the gravesite & tried to talk my husband & minister into going for drinks. We buried our #2 son in Sept 2017. VERY unexpected. 3 wks before his 30th BD & 8 months after he got married. Absolutely the hardest thing in the world. And I want to slap the shit out of anyone who claims their pet is their child. NO comparison.
ReplyDeleteDon't do it. You will regret it unless you really like parenting.
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