Unanswerable.... you can nurture someone with every fiber of your being, but the essential nature of an individual (their DNA etc) will always be intact and unable to “out nurture” so to speak. Still, i say try anyway:)
Both. Depends on the reference. As a special education teacher, I have seen the lack of nurturing and what it does (negatively) to the soul. But ultimately, kids are born with abilities that are strengths and lack of abilities that are weaknesses. Otherwise, we would all be the same person. the degree of nurturing can affect the development of a person but also nature makes a person lean towards what is "natural" for them. I had a third grader once who was abused as a child. He wasn't born angry- he had a negative nurturing person/situation that caused him to become an angry, violent kid. Another child was the most violent, scary kid I have ever met. And looking in his eyes (as an 8 year old) I can tell you I think he was born lacking some sense of right from wrong (nature).
I was beat as a child (I’m not talking about being “reprimanded”, but being hit in the face/head until my mouth bled and having knives pointed at me at home by both parents). I would never do any of that to another person as an adult.
This reminds me of Nancy Spungen. Her family raised two well adjusted, nice kids, and then there was Nancy, the oldest, who was out of control since birth, no matter what they tried.
@rosie riveter You just made me smile BIG. I’m adopted and that’s what my mom says too🥂 Found my bio-mom years ago, blessed we all have a wonderful relationship. I can say in my experience there’s no denying nature, but nurturing is the special sauce.
Haha thanks Honey�� My dear son, ohhh he's WAAYYY cuter than me of course We see his birth mother too, monthly. He's only 3 1/2 now and from a pretty troubled, violent birth home where they dropped out of school by the 8th grade. I really didn't expect much, he was a sad baby, no emotion.. but we've worked hard and love each other and he is SMART and so sweet and affectionate now, already more than I could of expected in two short years So happy for you, and your moms. Adoption is the best thing that has ever happened for us
Agree with what was said by Teachermom & Do Tell - nature is strongest and nurture can have a dramatic impact but when it comes to sociopaths it's all nature all the way.
Nurture, or a lack of nurturing, can make or break someone but I see how different my children are from each other. They were born with such different and almost fully formed personalities.
Depends... it's nature when you're talking about homosexuality, but nurture when you're talking about crime statistics. (some people like to have it both ways.)
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ReplyDeleteOrdained by god is way more fun than a gutter species evolved to consume or destroy every other species it encounters, but people always go too far.
ReplyDeleteMostly nurture.
ReplyDeleteNurture the natural within yourself.
ReplyDeleteBit of both.
ReplyDeleteDepends on what you are talking about
ReplyDeleteUnanswerable.... you can nurture someone with every fiber of your being, but the essential nature of an individual (their DNA etc) will always be intact and unable to “out nurture” so to speak.
ReplyDeleteStill, i say try anyway:)
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ReplyDeletelol J. Too true.
ReplyDeleteBoth. Depends on the reference. As a special education teacher, I have seen the lack of nurturing and what it does (negatively) to the soul. But ultimately, kids are born with abilities that are strengths and lack of abilities that are weaknesses. Otherwise, we would all be the same person. the degree of nurturing can affect the development of a person but also nature makes a person lean towards what is "natural" for them. I had a third grader once who was abused as a child. He wasn't born angry- he had a negative nurturing person/situation that caused him to become an angry, violent kid. Another child was the most violent, scary kid I have ever met. And looking in his eyes (as an 8 year old) I can tell you I think he was born lacking some sense of right from wrong (nature).
ReplyDeleteI was beat as a child (I’m not talking about being “reprimanded”, but being hit in the face/head until my mouth bled and having knives pointed at me at home by both parents). I would never do any of that to another person as an adult.
DeleteThis reminds me of Nancy Spungen. Her family raised two well adjusted, nice kids, and then there was Nancy, the oldest, who was out of control since birth, no matter what they tried.
ReplyDeleteNeither can be completely overcome by any force.
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ReplyDeleteMy adopted child has my good looks and intelligence so, nurture ?
ReplyDeleteBoth. Nurture can help a lot, but, from experience, if someone is really mentally ill, it may not be enough.
ReplyDelete@rosie riveter You just made me smile BIG. I’m adopted and that’s what my mom says too🥂
ReplyDeleteFound my bio-mom years ago, blessed we all have a wonderful relationship. I can say in my experience there’s no denying nature, but nurturing is the special sauce.
Haha thanks Honey��
DeleteMy dear son, ohhh he's WAAYYY cuter than me of course
We see his birth mother too, monthly. He's only 3 1/2 now and from a pretty troubled, violent birth home where they dropped out of school by the 8th grade. I really didn't expect much, he was a sad baby, no emotion.. but we've worked hard and love each other and he is SMART and so sweet and affectionate now, already more than I could of expected in two short years
So happy for you, and your moms. Adoption is the best thing that has ever happened for us
My upbringing makes me want to say nurture, but in my gut I feel it's nature.
ReplyDeleteAgree with what was said by Teachermom & Do Tell - nature is strongest and nurture can have a dramatic impact but when it comes to sociopaths it's all nature all the way.
ReplyDeleteHopefully sociopathy doesn’t run in cats...
DeleteI've had Basketball coaches tell me that I was uncoachable.
ReplyDeleteMy response is and will always be: you're a horrible coach.
Well, both obviously.
ReplyDeleteI believe your nature will dictate how much affect nurture will have on you.
ReplyDeleteSo your combination of both, but everyone's combination is different.
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ReplyDeleteBoth.
ReplyDeleteNurture, or a lack of nurturing, can make or break someone but I see how different my children are from each other. They were born with such different and almost fully formed personalities.
ReplyDeleteNurture, hopefully...
ReplyDeleteDepends... it's nature when you're talking about homosexuality, but nurture when you're talking about crime statistics. (some people like to have it both ways.)
ReplyDeleteAre we remaking Trading Places?
ReplyDeleteIs the bet higher than the usual $1 this time?
Mostly nature.
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