A couple of weeks ago I had a chance to reminisce with someone I hadn't seen in five or six years. The last time we hung out was the year she won a Grammy. I doubt any of you will guess who she is. Unless you listen to a lot of CCM, you probably have no idea who she is. Let us call her BL.
BL got into the industry in her late teens. Right around her 18th birthday. BL has always been very religious and had the "look" most desired in the CCM industry. Blonde, with pale skin who every guy wanted to have sex with, but who the guy's significant other would not find threatening. She got her first job in a band because of those looks. Oh, sure she could play an instrument, but the band needed someone female and she fit the model. Some CCM labels have their models more defined. In addition to being blonde with pale skin, your measurements have to be within certain parameters. They don't want the women to be too sexy. Anyway, BL was on tour with the band that hired her and they opened for this A list singer who was A list back in the day when this happened and is A list now. Back in the day it was A list everywhere and now is probably A list in her world. Let us call her ES.
It was the first or second week, BL had been on tour and she had run into the husband of ES. He was also a singer. He began flirting with BL all the time. It was incessant. Just heavy heavy flirting and BL was really uncomfortable with it. First, she had led a very sheltered home schooled kind of life and she had just turned 18 and was on the road and this guy who she knew from his records was flirting with her. Plus, he was married and married to ES, who BL had worshiped for years.
BL confided in the leader of the group who she was playing for and he told her he would take care of it. The next thing you know, BL is being called to the suite of ES and ES yells at her for trying to steal the husband of ES. BL is crying and insisting she did no such thing. I mean, BL is totally unprepared for this type of situation. The berating goes on for almost an hour. During this she says that the opening band could get kicked off the tour because of the actions of BL. Finally, ES says she will pray about her decision and will call BL when she decides.
About an hour later, BL is called and told to go back to ES' suite. When she arrives, ES said that after praying about it, she decided that BL and the band could stay, but BL was going to have to prove herself. Again, BL is in way over her head here. ES says the flirting is causing a lot of tension and that ES's husband has not been able to focus and blames BL. In order to get all that out of the way, it would probably be a good idea for BL and ES; husband to have sex. ES will watch to make sure everything goes OK. Now, at this point, BL is saving herself for marriage and has no idea what to do. When she hesitated though, ES told her she didn't have to have sex but that BL and the band would be kicked off the tour. BL ended up having sex with the husband of ES and had to have sex with him every night of the tour while ES watched. BL was also coerced into doing some coke and booze and was told her parents and her church would be told of all of it if she ever said anything.
BL has never spoken to ES since the end of that tour. Apparently, there are thousands of women out there that have similar stories to BL. She runs into them all the time. Primarily they are hired as backup singers during summers between school years. The focus is always on women from college. No younger and no older.