This celebrity offspring of a former A list couple blew off an important night for her mother because she says the mom is a trigger for all of the daughter's addictions. I think she just hates her mom for calling her out on her issues.
I cannot think of a single celebrity mom who has called out her daughter for having issues....seems to me they always want to bury those kinds of things.
Dakota Johnson? The only thing close to a celeb mother publicly calling their kid out was Melanie Griffith's uncomfortable interview about 50 Shades at the Oscars.
Thank you @KnoWonUno for posting that link. I have only recently heard about "triggers" and "trigger warnings" and it all seems to come from a much younger generation (17 to 25 year olds) and seems to have really found a home among tumblr users. Growing up, never do I remember myself or any of my friends being so uncomfortable with something we read or saw as to become "triggered". Sure we may have had negative or other feelings towards something but not to the point that caused such anxiety that we had to engage in a kumbya group-hug moment. I think giving in to this namby-pamby b.s. behavior is stunting to the physical and emotional development of the ones claiming to be "triggered". In other words, they need to grow the f-up and start acting like adults. Mommy and Daddy won't always be there to comfort them when a "bad person" says something that upsets, er excuse me, "triggers" them.
The phrase "trigger" has been used for far longer than you realize (for example, I learned it in 1996), it's only because of social media that awareness of the term has become so prevalent for people like you. It's a legitimate psychological term, the shortened form of 'trauma trigger,' and specifically refers to experiences that trigger a flashback episode in those who suffer from PTSD.
Trigger is a very important word for those who suffer from PTSD, because identifying the things that quite literally trigger your flashbacks can help reduce the recurrences of said flashbacks. It can also be very helpful in managing the flashbacks when they happen. And by reducing the recurrence and difficulty of flashbacks, you can potentially save lives and/or livelihood. When a person suffers from a flashback, their awareness can reality shift, their mind and body reacting as though they are back in the traumatic event. This reaction is not their choice and they sure as shit aren't hoping for a Kumbaya moment. They just want to survive it.
By trivializing and demeaning those who use the term, you are trivializing and demeaning military veterans, childhood sexual abuse survivors, people (especially children) who witness a violent death, first responders of largescale disasters, etc etc. And yes it is completely possible to suffer a trauma or witness a traumatic event and not have PTSD - the above is just a list of the circumstances which are most often the cause of PTSD.
You are of course welcome to have your opinion, but now you can't hide your lack of compassion behind ignorance. Next time use fucking google before you insult millions of people who didn't do a damn thing to deserve it.
Thanks. I understand "trigger" as it refers to a military veteran that suffers from PTSD or a person who has had a legitimate traumatic experience in their life. Certainly in these cases and other similar cases where a person has been through a real-life physical or emotional tragedy then, yes, they should seek psychological counseling and treatment. What I take issue with and evidently didn't make clear in my earlier post is the people, especially in the 17-25 year old demographic who have not had a real-life traumatic event or served in a theater of battle, that have highjacked the word "trigger" and its true meaning. They claim to have anxiety triggers when exposed to a certain word or group discussion that differs from their own personal views or simply makes them feel uncomfortable, especially online (tumblr and other websites), and in the college classroom environment. THESE emotionally stunted young adults need to learn to start dealing with life and its challenges because the real-world outside of their online or college environment won't cater to their need to be treated like a toddler when facing real-life adult situations.
Here's the thing with trigger warnings. I see them a lot when people talk about the death of a child, or the abuse of a child, or anything that could be a traumatic event to anyone. You don't know who is going to read what you write. You don't know what anyone else has been through. Maybe they lost a child, or were abused as a child and don't want to read something that might remind them of that. So when someone says "trigger" before a story, that gives the reader a chance to scroll through without reading, because it is about something sad. Some people don't deal well with sadness the way others do. It's not about the fact that it doesn't bother you so you don't understand why people use it, it's just out of respect in case anyone reading it has been through something similar and doesn't want to read. And who is anyone to say that someone 17-25 hasn't gone through traumatic events in their lives? Children have traumatic things happen to them everyday. Just have a heart.
Ok, so say for example I'm a lecturer in American History at a college and I'm specifically discussing the Civil War and focusing on the brutality of the battlefield and the archaic forms of battlefield medicine and surgery that were practiced at the time. Before my lecture I say "Warning, today's discussion may contain Triggers". So the next question is: "Well, Professor Eddy, what exactly are the triggers contained in today's discussion?" and I proceed to list off the possible "triggers" that one may encounter. Haven't I now potentially caused a "trigger" by listing the "triggers"? I mean if the mention of a particular word or discussion of a particular scenario in and of itself can cue a "trigger" then the mere description of what "triggers" one may find in a given classroom lecture has now had the same effect as the lecture itself. Same goes for those who dare dissent with radical feminists online. By simply raising an opposing viewpoint to certain neo-feminist viewpoints, they are labelled oppressive patriarchs and other like-minded neo-feminists are warned to avoid the discussion because it contains "triggers". The point that I'm trying to make is that certain people (specifically in the 17-25 year old age group) have hijacked the word "trigger" and are using it as a cop-out and avoidance technique when they simply don't want to deal with certain material; Not because they have, themselves, experienced an actual traumatic event in their own life, but because they are simply uncomfortable with the material or message and too immature to rationally process it and participate in a civil discussion or debate about the topic at hand. In my opinion, these people fall into the same category of people that slap an orange vest on their household pet (not a professionally trained animal, mind you) and call it a "Service Animal" when, in fact, that person has no medical or psychological diagnosis that warrants the need for an actual, trained, service animal. They then expect their household pet (just because they have adorned it in an orange vest) to be given the same unencumbered access and treatment as one would give an actual professionally trained and qualified Service Animal.
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ReplyDeleteThe whole family was there even Bruce and his wife.
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ReplyDeletedunno, maybe Demi had a sobriety milestone? Or a kabbalah event.
ReplyDeleteI cannot think of a single celebrity mom who has called out her daughter for having issues....seems to me they always want to bury those kinds of things.
ReplyDelete"Trigger warnings, colleges & the *Swaddled Generation*"
ReplyDeletehttp://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/the-swaddled-generation/2015/05/19/162ea17a-fe6a-11e4-805c-c3f407e5a9e9_story.html
But that's not Demi's event.....
ReplyDeleteIreland sounds right
ReplyDeletethe entitlement and arrogance is strong there.
She makes no sense...Ireland has always pointed to Alec for her addiction problems. For obvious reasons...
ReplyDeleteDakota Johnson? The only thing close to a celeb mother publicly calling their kid out was Melanie Griffith's uncomfortable interview about 50 Shades at the Oscars.
ReplyDeleteHow do you know, bird brain
ReplyDeleteSeriously you are an adult and just attempted to insult someone by name calling? And you fucking used "bird brain" to do it?
ReplyDeleteWow. That's pathetic. Truly.
nobody asked you
ReplyDeletelets quit the name calling okay??
ReplyDeleteleave the name calling to the bi guesses
don't start
like this guess!! didn't melanie recently have a big birthday or something??
ReplyDeleteWell obviously Derek, I wasn't answering a question. So you're comment is once again useless. Keep making those great life choices though!
ReplyDeleteHa @Riven....wow, just got back here today~thank you.
ReplyDeleteBut you know better, one really cannot expect much acuity with certain people, can one?
Thank you @KnoWonUno for posting that link. I have only recently heard about "triggers" and "trigger warnings" and it all seems to come from a much younger generation (17 to 25 year olds) and seems to have really found a home among tumblr users. Growing up, never do I remember myself or any of my friends being so uncomfortable with something we read or saw as to become "triggered". Sure we may have had negative or other feelings towards something but not to the point that caused such anxiety that we had to engage in a kumbya group-hug moment. I think giving in to this namby-pamby b.s. behavior is stunting to the physical and emotional development of the ones claiming to be "triggered". In other words, they need to grow the f-up and start acting like adults. Mommy and Daddy won't always be there to comfort them when a "bad person" says something that upsets, er excuse me, "triggers" them.
ReplyDeleteThe phrase "trigger" has been used for far longer than you realize (for example, I learned it in 1996), it's only because of social media that awareness of the term has become so prevalent for people like you. It's a legitimate psychological term, the shortened form of 'trauma trigger,' and specifically refers to experiences that trigger a flashback episode in those who suffer from PTSD.
ReplyDeleteTrigger is a very important word for those who suffer from PTSD, because identifying the things that quite literally trigger your flashbacks can help reduce the recurrences of said flashbacks. It can also be very helpful in managing the flashbacks when they happen. And by reducing the recurrence and difficulty of flashbacks, you can potentially save lives and/or livelihood. When a person suffers from a flashback, their awareness can reality shift, their mind and body reacting as though they are back in the traumatic event. This reaction is not their choice and they sure as shit aren't hoping for a Kumbaya moment. They just want to survive it.
By trivializing and demeaning those who use the term, you are trivializing and demeaning military veterans, childhood sexual abuse survivors, people (especially children) who witness a violent death, first responders of largescale disasters, etc etc. And yes it is completely possible to suffer a trauma or witness a traumatic event and not have PTSD - the above is just a list of the circumstances which are most often the cause of PTSD.
You are of course welcome to have your opinion, but now you can't hide your lack of compassion behind ignorance. Next time use fucking google before you insult millions of people who didn't do a damn thing to deserve it.
Sigh. I swear I know how to use the return key. Thanks Cdan and apologies if that is just one gigantic block of runon paragraphs on your screen.
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ReplyDeleteThanks. I understand "trigger" as it refers to a military veteran that suffers from PTSD or a person who has had a legitimate traumatic experience in their life. Certainly in these cases and other similar cases where a person has been through a real-life physical or emotional tragedy then, yes, they should seek psychological counseling and treatment. What I take issue with and evidently didn't make clear in my earlier post is the people, especially in the 17-25 year old demographic who have not had a real-life traumatic event or served in a theater of battle, that have highjacked the word "trigger" and its true meaning. They claim to have anxiety triggers when exposed to a certain word or group discussion that differs from their own personal views or simply makes them feel uncomfortable, especially online (tumblr and other websites), and in the college classroom environment. THESE emotionally stunted young adults need to learn to start dealing with life and its challenges because the real-world outside of their online or college environment won't cater to their need to be treated like a toddler when facing real-life adult situations.
ReplyDeleteHere's the thing with trigger warnings. I see them a lot when people talk about the death of a child, or the abuse of a child, or anything that could be a traumatic event to anyone. You don't know who is going to read what you write. You don't know what anyone else has been through. Maybe they lost a child, or were abused as a child and don't want to read something that might remind them of that. So when someone says "trigger" before a story, that gives the reader a chance to scroll through without reading, because it is about something sad. Some people don't deal well with sadness the way others do. It's not about the fact that it doesn't bother you so you don't understand why people use it, it's just out of respect in case anyone reading it has been through something similar and doesn't want to read. And who is anyone to say that someone 17-25 hasn't gone through traumatic events in their lives? Children have traumatic things happen to them everyday. Just have a heart.
ReplyDeleteOk, so say for example I'm a lecturer in American History at a college and I'm specifically discussing the Civil War and focusing on the brutality of the battlefield and the archaic forms of battlefield medicine and surgery that were practiced at the time. Before my lecture I say "Warning, today's discussion may contain Triggers". So the next question is: "Well, Professor Eddy, what exactly are the triggers contained in today's discussion?" and I proceed to list off the possible "triggers" that one may encounter. Haven't I now potentially caused a "trigger" by listing the "triggers"? I mean if the mention of a particular word or discussion of a particular scenario in and of itself can cue a "trigger" then the mere description of what "triggers" one may find in a given classroom lecture has now had the same effect as the lecture itself. Same goes for those who dare dissent with radical feminists online. By simply raising an opposing viewpoint to certain neo-feminist viewpoints, they are labelled oppressive patriarchs and other like-minded neo-feminists are warned to avoid the discussion because it contains "triggers". The point that I'm trying to make is that certain people (specifically in the 17-25 year old age group) have hijacked the word "trigger" and are using it as a cop-out and avoidance technique when they simply don't want to deal with certain material; Not because they have, themselves, experienced an actual traumatic event in their own life, but because they are simply uncomfortable with the material or message and too immature to rationally process it and participate in a civil discussion or debate about the topic at hand. In my opinion, these people fall into the same category of people that slap an orange vest on their household pet (not a professionally trained animal, mind you) and call it a "Service Animal" when, in fact, that person has no medical or psychological diagnosis that warrants the need for an actual, trained, service animal. They then expect their household pet (just because they have adorned it in an orange vest) to be given the same unencumbered access and treatment as one would give an actual professionally trained and qualified Service Animal.
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