Last month, Stephanie Hayden, the oldest daughter of Sons Of Guns star Will Hayden defended her father against rape and molestation claims made by her 12 year old half-sister. Now, Stephanie is changing her story and if asked by police will tell them that she was molested and raped as a child and teen by her father. Stephanie's husband took to Facebook and posted a poem which was something he created and directed towards Will Hayden about Hayden molesting Stephanie. The post was later taken down but Stephanie admitted she gave her husband permission to post it because it helped him with his healing process after Stephanie told him what her childhood was like with her father. There has been no response from Will, who currently sits in jail, unable to make bond. He previously dismissed the other allegations as the ravings of an ex-girlfriend who was angry the pair split.
Scum, scum, scum, Will Hayden.
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ReplyDeletePiece of shit. Rot in your cell.
ReplyDeleteThis was news on FRIDAY
ReplyDeleteThis whole thing is disturbing. I'm inclined to believe the daughters, but with the changing stories, the behavior of the ex, and the age of the youngest girl, it's going to be difficult to get to the truth.
ReplyDeleteCases that involve children and molestation accusations are very tangled.
ReplyDeleteMy only comment is this line: "Stephanie admitted she gave her husband permission to post it because it helped him with his healing process after Stephanie told him what her childhood was like with her father". His healing process?
Exactly Seven. That stood out for me too. Another man that makes her suffering all about him.
DeletePerhaps Stephanie felt she had healed already. Though I don't think the husband is making it about him--I get the impression her healing process (geez I hate these phrases) is incomplete and that's why she let it ride.
DeleteIf you have ever been in a committed relationship/marriage and find out years later they were raped/molested, it can be terrible for that partner- man or woman- because by then youve probably interwoven your life with theirs, known the perpetrator, had years of holidays, birthdays, sunday meals with them.... im sure if this has never happened to someone, its easy to say WTH is he making it about him?? The emotions hes going through may be excruciating and he may need to get it off his chest- and along the way may say something cliche and dumb like "my healing process" my point is, like everything, unless youve been thru this, you really dont know the terrible feelings and hurt. But whatev.
DeleteEXACTLY Rosie! If you truly love someone - partner, child, parent or friend, you also feel things deeply that impact them. Seriously. For a man who loves his partner, and wants to protect her, finding out she was a victim of abuse would stir up an array of emotions.
DeleteWho the F are these people? Are we reporting again on yet another reality show? Reality people are not actors no matter how shitty they read the scripted moments.
ReplyDeleteDon't get me wrong, I'm sorry this POS molested his daughters or more specifically that they were abused but enough with the reality. Write something decent H'wd you lazy bastards.
I was skeptical of the orginial story, but with Stephanie coming forward I have to believe it.
ReplyDeleteA sorry situation all the way around. Just one thought for all of you who would have Will rot in jail or worse. Something more than 90% of child sexual abusers were abused as children.
@Hudson Joe - yes, but he is old enough to know right from wrong.
ReplyDeleteIJU & Seven - You've got to take into account that her husband, Kris, had worked with Will for years and looked to him as a father figure. When Stephanie told him that, I'm sure it was difficult for him to deal with, too. I don't think it was a matter of him trying to make the struggle about him, but he is allowed to struggle with that type of information as well.
ReplyDeleteNot to mention that when you open up to a loved one about suffering through rape and molestation, they experience hurt as well. No one the person they love to have experienced things like that.
ReplyDelete* No one wants the person they love to have experienced things like that.
ReplyDeleteOh WOW. This is beyond fucked. I can't even imagine what a holiday dinner with this family must be like. As Count likes to say, let's send that incestupedo straight to the woodchipper!!!
ReplyDeleteIf Stephanie was molested, when she was younger, too, why did she say there was no way her dad molested her younger sister?
ReplyDeleteMaybe she didn't want here Dad in jail bcuz the show prob wouldn't continue.
? ? ? Which is gross.
Why wouldn't she want to protect her little sister from the get-go?
Just some thoughts...
@SYF:
DeleteShe is also probably scared of retribution, embarrassed by being outted as her dad's sexual abuse victim, and is probably also traumatized from the abuse
And she might still love her father and thought he would never do it again and not want him in jail.
DeleteAbuse of children is awful, and has no rules, certainly not logical ones.
I've worked at a CASA and it is common for victims tears down the track to be fearful, full of shame, self blame, or in some cases, denial and repression of the abuse.
DeleteI am an incest victim. And while I sympathize with victims. True victims. I think Stehanie realized her paycheck stopped from the show and personal appearances. And she better hop on the band wagon and start getting paid for her story. In fact she has an appearance on Dr. Phil coming up. And let me tell you. It took me years to come out with what my brother did. And when I did most of the family disowned me. And blamed me. I was three when it started and he was 13. And being a victim and so ashamed. That I could barely talk about it. Do you honestly think a true victim would want a poem written about it..? After just coming out about it..? Come on. If Mr. Hayden did in fact do this to his 12 year old daughter may he rot in HELL. And May Stephanie, who jumps on the incest bandwagon for a paycheck...hopefully finds a one way ticket there also.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your story @Harvest Moon Cottage. You have a lot of courage and I am so sorry that happened to you. HeisenHugs
DeleteHugs to you harvest moon. I think the family disbelieved you because they kust cant or wont believe it. Screw them. A million hugs to you. Sometimes im life ya gotta make your own family. I hope you made a great one :)
DeleteHarvest Moon, I am so sorry and wish you nothing but the absolute best, whatever that may be for you and your healing. I agree with what you've said about the poem, I can't imagine a true victim wanting to have their business plastered all over the media. I've never understood people who make their horrible abuse so public like that (I obviously don't mean telling anyone, but telling the entire world). Not judging them or saying they're wrong to do it but it just seems like it would be a way of almost being re-victimized. But of course I don't know and everyone is different. Anyways, thank you for sharing your perspective and God bless.
ReplyDeleteThank You to the comments left for me. It means a lot.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to argue, about what I think about Stephanie. I'm going by what I went through, felt and dealt with. The friends that I have that went through it..also feel the same way..And yes, I do understand that everyone handles it differently. I still wake up in the middle of the night screaming. It's just a horrible thing to go through, live with and try to make a normal with. I have anxiety attacks. There is so much more than the abuse. I just want people to understand...not everyone is guilty..and not everyone is a victim.
Everyone heals and deals with being victimized in their own way. I would never judge anyone for how they make it through each day with that shadow hanging over them.
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ReplyDeleteI'm humbled by your choosing to share your experience with us at CDaN. I admire you so much.