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This flash in the pan, true definition of fifteen minute fame who has an A+list recognizable face from his character acting work has been spotted cruising around in places where children congregate. No one has actually caught him doing anything other than staring but parents who have seen him said it is really creepy. This will be revealed.
GRODY TO THE MAXIMUM. EFFIN REVEAL THIS ONE TO THE SEXUAL CRIMES UNIT ALREADY.
ReplyDeleteA minion from Despicable Me.
ReplyDeleteCall the police, Enty. NEXT!
Unless the guy has a criminal record as a sex offender with restrictions regarding his proximity to places where children gather, he isn't doing anything a sex crimes unit can do anything about. This is why parents always have to keep a close watch on their children.
ReplyDeleteRonald McDonald!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....stumped. But I admittedly really want this to be Dane Cook
ReplyDeleteAnd to think this Enty fkr does nothing but poison the pond.
ReplyDeleteJeffrey Jones, the principal from Ferris Bueller, who is a known pedo?
ReplyDeleteFerris Bueller's principle. That dude.
ReplyDeleteIt can't be someone that has any priors for kid diddling. While you can't bar creepy dudes from leering on kids at a park, you sure as shit can do something if they are a registered sex offender.
DeleteUff @Lady Heisenberg, that was Jeffrey Jones, from Ferris Bueller. Done for child pornography and trying to arrange a young teen to 'pose' for special photographs. Grotesque.
DeleteBut I agree with you - this is not someone with form.
That said the blind here is obscure - it doesn't even say that there is anything other than the 'creepy' being at children's congregation points. I actually get a bit concerned when people consider the male gender to be either pedos or pedos-in-waiting just for being, you know, alive and male (or male at parks and thus 'creepy'). Exposition required.
I was so grossed out when I heard about that, RangersGirl..
ReplyDeletei hate aemish.
ReplyDeleteSo unnecessary and misguided.
DeleteGet over yourself.
Deleteheadrot, you seem much more pleasant on Twitter.
Delete@headrot. I used to work with someone like you...when she wasn't complaining about being abused she was stirring up trouble and insulting people. She just couldn't accept the kindness of others or peaceful situations! If you feel like you've been treated badly why would you say such hateful things to others?
DeleteHeadrot, I seen your blog. You are clearly depressed and are still being victimized. Please get help. If you dont, your abusers win. T. W.
DeleteDo people really want to live in a world where you can be arrested because a parent thinks you look creepy?
ReplyDeleteYes!!! Also snotty, snobby, annoyed or picking your nose. (Joking of course!!)
DeleteAnd don't forget loogie hocking! ;-D
DeletePredators of children are great at waiting for exactly the right moment. A person who has no reason to be around children, who is around children constantly is a person to be wary of, especially if they are taking photos.
ReplyDeleteSo glad you mentioned the photos. It's gotten to the point where taking my little one to the park or public pool is an act of endurance for my neck, constantly keeping one eye on him and the other out for pedos.
DeleteExactly, Alice Tate.
ReplyDeletePlease reveal soon
ReplyDeleteWow. Going by the info provided, absolutely nothing has happened, and no crime has been committed. Maybe the guy just likes kids. Maybe he is thinking about having kids and wanted to be around some. Maybe he was reminiscing about what his own life was when he was a kid, before he grew up and had people reminding him his "fifteen minutes" were over with. Who knows? All of the possibilities I just mentioned are at least AS valid as anything else at this point. "SEXUAL CRIMES UNIT"? "Call the police"? Seriously???
ReplyDeleteYou people should look up "Fundamental attribution error" and "Actor–observer asymmetry" on Wiki, I think. Jeez...
Jeff-it gets into a whole precrime thing. Like a stalker-you absolutely know its them but cant prove it. A whole nebulous area for which i dont have an answer. But i would say, protect the children at all costs. A grown man with no reason to hang around a playground can move on, he can enjoy the park away from the children.
DeleteHowever, if it is Jeffrey Jones, he is a well-known registered sex offender who I would bet has restrictions on his ability to get close to places where kids congregate. The parents shouldn't just gossip about his presence. They should call the police and let them handle it.
ReplyDeleteWhat Naughty Nurse said. It's implied the dude is creeping on the kids.
DeleteJeffrey Jones may be a pedo, but he had a solid list of credits before the case. And, as a registered sex offender, he would be arrested for this immediately.
ReplyDeleteThe description of the BI would be more something like Pedro from Napoleon Dynamite (Efren Ramirez, who was presented almost the same way in a BI from two or three years ago). Anyway, the guy would be an actor famous for one or two parts relying heavily on a distinctive look.
If you want to reminisce about your lost childhood, look at a fucking scrapbook, dude.
ReplyDeleteThey aren't always in the cities, where we might expect them to be (anonymity). Around here, ex-convicts of this type can be sent anywhere. There is a (convicted) pedophile in this town who was sent here to rehabilitate. Know where they put him? Right across the street from the fuckin school. In a ground floor apartment. The police know, but he hasn't re-offended.
ReplyDelete@Thomas, All of the possibilities you mentioned are valid, but most guys would understand how others would perceive them hanging around observing children - and they wouldn't do it.
ReplyDeleteHow about this: Enty, if you know a crime has been committed or you have witnessed some suspicious activity, call the police.
That is total crap. Dudes can't have eyes in the same vicinity of children?? That's the norm now?? Ftr, I go and talk to those dudes, I don't just assume they are trying to get my kids in a corner. But just in case,we've talked and I have fantastic facial recognition.
ReplyDelete@TTM I agree. I went to pick-up my niece and nephew from school a few weeks ago and was getting side-eyed by some soccer moms. I did not know if it was cause I am a little younger than some of the parents or what have you but it was very insulting considering most child predators are the ones that have jobs as a teacher, have jobs as a youth leader,have jobs of a minister etc. etc.
ReplyDeleteWe live in such a culture of fear it is insane sometimes.
Dereck et al-Please dont be insulted. It means oeople are looking out for each others children. Thats a good thing. Example:We have a suv. I went into school to read to grandsons class, my husband waited in car for me, reading the paper. After only 5 minutes or so, principal came out to ask him what he was doing there. He told him, principsl said he figured but had to check. Neither one of us was remotely upset, indeed, we were impressed.
DeleteCocoa my condolences close but not close enough! :(
ReplyDeleteIn any case what is said above is all correct.
I was sad for you too, doll. What an exciting game though. Miller had 5 minutes to plan that last play and THAT'S what he came up with??
DeletePlaying devil's advocate here but what if he is staring at one of the hot moms? How do they know he is staring at a kid?
ReplyDeleteThat's a great tactic, @TTM! I try making eye contact with suspected creeps to see if they look away or disappear. I'll remember them if I see them again.
ReplyDeleteI'm sick of these disgusting blinds, if Enty has the information then go to the Police. He is looking the other way which makes him an enabler.
ReplyDeleteI'm sick of these disgusting blinds, if Enty has the information then go to the Police. He is looking the other way which makes him an enabler.
ReplyDeleteI guess so. :(
ReplyDeleteIn any case in CDaN world grown men shouldnt be able to walk or drive around any place there might be kids including but not limited to sidewalks, pools, streets,apartment complexes, amusement parks. But our proprietor, when he has valid info about creeps, refuses to report them to the proper authorities.
Camera phone...that is all.
ReplyDeleteAlso, if it was a woman no one would say shit.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he has a gf who had a miscarriage, and he is longing for children that way? Or lost custody of a child?
ReplyDelete@Aunt I understand but that is pretty hard not to be insulted by. Maybe if one of them approached me to say hello or something it would have been better. Could be they just have poor social skills etc. and agree it is better to be safe than sorry but this blind is kinda dumb...
ReplyDeleteSome dude leering at a playground? Come on Fugazi Enty, yer droppin the ball with the Rape/Molestation/Incest posts. This wouldn't even get Detective Benson to leave a movie.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, when I took my boy for Santa Claus pics, there was an old, unshowered creep sitting at a table staring at all the kids in the Santa area. Soon as I noticed this, I started staring at him, trying to bug him out. Sick fuck never took his eyes off the kids to notice me, and I was sitting 3 feet from him, staring at him, for 5-10 minutes.
I said something to the chick at the register, when I picked up our photos. She had a look of horror in her eyes, and I turned and left.
Count, that was actually one of the guys I went and talked to. Waiting to see Santa and there was the sweaty dude (in the middle of a Canadian winter, no less, but it WAS inside) sitting on a bench watching all the kids.
DeleteIt turned out that he was waiting for his wife and daughter to finish shopping and he was missing his grandkids. Some people do not know how creepy they come off.
I know it happens. Statistics say much more about it being someone known. It is not protecting anyone to suggest that no men can ever be alone near any children ever without having nefarious intent.
Creepers are everywhere.
ReplyDeleteIf it walks like a duck and piss like a duck then it's a damn duck. I know there are some overtly suspicious parents out there, but I would be cautious too if this dude is cruising regularly for unknown reasons, always follow it intuition until proven otherwise. I saw confront this creep. He must also be aware of their states at him and dude keeps going back! Confront his ass
ReplyDeleteI really cant believe all this defense and sympathy for pediphiles and possible pediphiles. This isnt a made up thing, its not a witch hunt. Molesting if children does happen. We know how they operate. They go where the children are. They watch for the lonely, unsupervised one and then become their friend. They can be the creep in the schoolyard, your minuster, your scout leader , your teacher. Male or female. In almost all cases children are oroven NOT to have lied about abuse. So stop worrying about these poor put upon predators, and worry more about protecting your kids. Know where they are every minute if every day. They dont need to spend any lenghthy time with an adult without you there. If thats paranoid, too bad. The children come first.
ReplyDeleteWhat law enforcement would listen to this? "I heard ___ ___ was at a playground looking at kids and my readers want me to report it". Enty isn't even a witness, f,chrissake.
ReplyDeleteHow many of you have reported Dan Schneider or anyone else you read about online to the authorities?
The best advice is already given- engage a suspicious person, and get their license plate number. Openly, not surreptitiosly. How they react is more info.
Although if I was reading the paper outside of school in my car and someone came up and asked me what I was doing, I wou
Love reading the comments here and only occasionally chime in, but wanted to mention something here. It's very possible that "enty" has reported this to an authority. If not, than I certainly hope they do, but let's not assume it hasn't already happened. Especially if it's planned as a reveal.
ReplyDeleteauntliddy, with all due respect, but remember the McMartin Day School satanic abuse accusations that set off a witchunt worldwide. Turns out that those children did indeed lie, or more correctly, were led to believe that such abuse happened. And EVERYONE believed them, as if a child never ever lies. People's lives were ruined.
ReplyDeleteThis guy has been tried and convicted all because a couple of parents thought he was creepy. None of them pulled a TTM and went up and asked him why he was there? By all means keep a close eye on your kids (which you should be doing) but it isn't really fair to blame some guy who for all we know is mourning the loss of a child and going to places to hear children laugh might be therapeutic for him. Dunno. It's not black and white that's for sure.
This is why male teachers avoid elementary school which is unfortunate because positive male role models are desperately needed in many elementary schools but they have to mind everything they do lest it be misinterpreted by a society that has gone from ignoring this issue, sweeping it under the rug to being hypersensitive to it.
ReplyDeleteI believe there is no criminal offence for "possible" pedophiles.
The vast majority of crimes against children are committed by close friends or family members. Just keep that in mind next time you're freaking out about a guy on a park bench.
ReplyDeletePeople follow "head rot" on Twitter
ReplyDeletewhat for?
I really believe that the need to protect children outweigh the possible hurt feelings of the adults who are strangers to a situation. Yes, children have been known to lie about abuse, but hundreds of times the number of children have suffered in silence, or not been believed, than there are adults who have been falsely accused or made to feel uncomfortable.
ReplyDelete@Derek I wasn't addressing this to you in any way. If you don't usually pick up your niece and nephew, maybe the parents hadn't seen you before, or you aren't the usual person that picks them up.
Memo to guys: Correct. You are no longer allowed to stare into playgrounds alone on a park bench. Don't blame the moms, blame the pedophiles that sat there before you.
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@headrot I would have thought aemish was on your side, as he or she feels so strongly about abuse.
ReplyDeleteI might catch hell for this one....but my grandmother always said to maintain a "healthy distrust" of any man that chooses a child profession, or takes an overly-active interest in children. To be sure, there are those angels out there who truly love kids and choose to devote their lives to helping them.....but it is a rare trait in a man. We all know men that love their kids, but they aren't going to change a diaper, or change anything about their lives to accommodate a kid, and this is more the norm than not.
ReplyDeleteThree decades ago, at age 8, I sat in a courtroom describing to a room full of adults, mostly men, Judge, attorneys, detectives, police officers, psychologists, my own mother and father, etc., not to mention the defendant, what my best friend's father did to me. It turned out he had done it to all four of his sons and both of his daughters as well. He got 30 years.
ReplyDeleteOut of curiosity I clicked on Head Rot's blog. I was not impressed. Like any tragic event in one's life, there is a time to mourn and a time to move on.
Off topic, but you deserve a little beauty in your life today. I happen to have some extra. Please enjoy.
Cheer up, Buttercup
You are a strong person! I don't know what it is that allows some people to move on with their lives and others to stay stuck in such an unhappy state. Resilience perhaps ? Best of luck to you !
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ReplyDeleteAemerish, I admire your bravery and courage. Thank you for doing what needed to be done to put that monster away.
I know this is a little off topic, but I would also like to urge every single parent to PLEASE know and get to know well the person you are dating before you introduce your children. And NEVER leave them alone with your child until you have exhausted all research efforts (national searches not just statewide) and dated them for a VERY long time. People will pray on single parents with children and it is never who you think it is. And also be weary of family "friends" who want to take your children to activities alone.
@aemish That was a beautiful post. Headrot, I wish you would report these people to the police. It's never too late to report child abuse and stop them from doing it to anyone else. The fact that they got away with it, and you are still suffering, is what makes you so angry. If you've told professionals and they didn't act on it, if it's been several years, go back, and there will be different people there by now in those positions. I wish you would keep trying, because when they are punished, you won't feel so alone in your pain.
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ReplyDelete{^.*} xxoo
Benedict Cumberbatch?
ReplyDeletesidenote: that's supposed to be a heart, not my boobs in an ice cream cone
ReplyDelete..one guy got confused one time, that's all... :p
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ReplyDeleteYIKES!
ReplyDelete@aemish
Anyone see that picture of the pilot who groped a 14 year old girl on a flight? If you saw him hanging around staring at your kids, I think you would be creeped the f*ck out. Normal guys don't hang around where children play, ogling them, unless they're keeping an eye on their own kid.
ReplyDeletehahaha.. oh, 7.. do you wanna be gay with me? <3 :p
ReplyDeleteAnd let's just squash this all right now. If you couldn't defend the invite to a child's birthday bbq you extended to a childless stranger you met at the park to your husband, you have issues of your own.
ReplyDelete**dusts off palms**
oVeR It.
eh hem, if you believed that to be the case, would you have investiged in the first place, TTM?
ReplyDeleteCome on.
It never hurts to say "hey" aemish. I try to give the benefit of the doubt
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DeleteMiddle aged??? Leather skinned? Time to get your eyes checked hun! Why so you feel the need to be so hateful to people ?
DeleteMean Wendy is back! And now we know who wanton is?
DeleteAgreed. And as do I. I just don't have the luxury of innocence. Not that I'm complaining! It just is what it is. If I could conscientiously move to the land of your kind I would do it in a heartbeat.
ReplyDeleteDear @aemish: thank you for sharing your story in court as a child, and again on here now. I am so sorry and pained by what you went through, but I know you are aware of the fact that you likely prevented others from victimization. By coming forward, you are also increasing awareness of the problem, and helping to reduce the silence and stigmas associated with sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteAs for everyone screaming to involve the cops, I'm sure they have. But unfortunately, until he does something criminal, he is entitled to do as he pleases. As much as I hate that policing is reactive, prior restraints are still the greater evil.
Before I went back to school a few years ago, I was a actually a teacher and I worked mainly with at-risk and incarcerated youths. I spent almost a decade teaching kids in juvenile halls and group homes throughout Southern California. One of my worst experiences was with this kid I worked with on and off from ages 12-16. He would write the most disturbing violent shit and I always knew something was very off and different about him. I hated the way he looked at me. I knew what he was even back then, so I reported him for every single fucking thing I could, to no avail. The next year, during my first year of grad school, I read in the paper about a string of rapes and went cold when I saw the composite sketch. I reported that the sketch looked like my previous student, then 17, which was not taken seriously because initial reports placed the suspect in his 30s. They caught him several days later, only after he brutally raped and robbed a young girl. He was so strung out on drugs that he looked 15 years older than he was. Can't say I'm sad that he'll never seeing the light of day again.
And boo, haters are gunna hate but as @Alitatotle said, that's a reflection on them, not on you. Thank you for getting yet another sick fuck off the streets and for protecting those poor boys. XoXo
(And two girls, and....)
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DeleteI'm glad to see you are taking the steps you need, you fucking moron troll. And thanks for confirming that you support serial rapists. Good to fucking know. I was wondering how long it'd take you to troll my ass for posting this.
DeleteYour wheel may be turning, but that hamster died a long time ago.
#peace
#godbless
#KISSMYASS!!!
Yeah delete that comment you fucking idiot. I schooled your stupid ass and you know it!!!!
DeleteOffice hours are Thursdays from 2-4pm.
#STFU
#STFD
#blowmewendydavis
@LH, have you ever heard about people who have pent up aggression, and once it's released, they feel pure again? I surmise Madame Davis is one of those people, and playing Heather Chandler on CDAN helps her prepare for Sunday evening services.
DeleteDon't take it personally, she's an equal opportunity hater of people who don't have to wear momjeans.
Thanks @7. Don't worry about me. I have a perfect good idea of what is going on here.
DeletePretty good* fucking spellcheck!
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ReplyDeleteI live in Florida and in tube dresses.
ReplyDeleteGlad this helps
I don't know what just happened here.
ReplyDeleteMe either, TTM. Though I did laugh so hard I think my kidneys shut down. Sorry.
DeleteAemish shared a really important, personal story and somehow I feel like I've done something very wrong
DeleteYou've been Trick Trolled, TTM. Damn, I actually kind of like that.
DeleteI was never here. *jedi mind tricks*
Wendy Davis is emotional about something.
ReplyDeleteOkden, you're all caught up.
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ReplyDelete@TTM. No way. You rule. And can we please put that important, personal story away now.
ReplyDeletewho is Wendy Davis though?
@aemish she's a commenter who pops in to say some heinous bullshit every once in a while.
Delete(Ps that's sort of what I was laughing at. Certainly not you or any of the others)
You didn't do anything wrong. NOTHING. That was Wendy Davis's point. Many of us were abused as kids. That doesn't make all men abusers.
ReplyDeleteNo wonder so many kids are such scared little snowflakes today. All a man has to do is be around children and parents are screaming to call the police and calling him a pedophile. Sad.
ReplyDeleteI do like the tube dress.
ReplyDeleteI hear ya, Krissie. I told my kid not to talk to strangers, and he won't even say "Thank You" when the lady at the deli gives him a Peppermint Patty. Slowly breaking him of that.
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DeleteNobody is calling anybody a pedophile. The fact is that single, childless men are no longer afforded the luxury of lounging around playgrounds thanks to the sickos that preceded them.
ReplyDeleteWelcome to the new millennium. Too bad it didn't happen in the last millennium.
thank you, Naughty
ReplyDeleteit's super comfy, I live in these things.. and, hello pockets :D
I don't know what Regal Beagle era Wendy Davis is from from but I'd be interested to see photos of her and her own children, you know, just to compare :p
@aemish - thanks for sharing your story, and glad to know you're doing okay these days.
ReplyDeleteAlso, don't pay any attention to Wendy. She pops in and says the most inane things, stirs shit up, then goes back and deletes most of her posts.
@TTM - you rock. Pay absolutely no attention to you know who.
aemish, I have to ask…what do you wear under it to support the gals? I would love to wear a tube dress, but I think I'd constantly be re-racking!!
ReplyDeleteidiots.
ReplyDeleteMomjeans saying someone else has a "delusional sense of self" gives me the Mila Kunis giggles!
ReplyDeleteI don't understand a single thing about this thread....i hope if this is a genuine perv, not paranoia, it is quickly revealed. Otherwise, I hope all of you are well ^^^
ReplyDelete{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}
ReplyDeleteI love you all. My eye started twitching for a moment.. I hadn't thought about much less spoken about these things in so long
Let's not do it again sometime soon :p
And, naughty, I only wear undergarments for special occasions. Like an annual check-up. :o)
Let's end this all on a brighter note:
ReplyDeleteThis blind is total bullshit because we all know Enty just ripped off the storyline from
THIS movie!!!
The creeper just wanted to know the love of a family, Enty! Being a childstar is hard, yo!
Hugs aemish
Well, it looks like the CDAN field trip to Salem, MA didn't go as well as everybody had hoped it would. Live and learn.
ReplyDeleteThis rant demonstrates what I was talking about. Instead of doing the hard work and dealing with your issues, you create a chaotic environment because you don't know how to deal with non chaotic situations. I surely hope you get some help for your anger. BTW you can call me a moron all you want but it really won't make you feel any better about yourself. Why don't you get off your computer, drink some hot tea and meditate. I bet you'll feel better.
ReplyDelete@headrot
ReplyDeleteyour head is not rotten. but if you can't face it
you can't fix it
@tillie lol yeah ok. good luck with all that "thinking" you just did.
ReplyDeleteIs it Throat Punch Thursday yet?
ReplyDeleteNope. Looks like it's a swarm beating. Punches are being thrown errrrywhere up in this bitch today
DeleteMy violent self laughed pretty hard, @Dingle Barry. Thx!
Deleteheadrot, you don't like anybody here and the feeling is largely mutual. Why do you keep coming back?
ReplyDeletehurf, because i like enty's posts, derf
ReplyDeletehurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr what a concept, i keep coming back to a website, because i like the website!
wow. mindblown.
We parents are full of contradictions and bad advice. We tell our kids not to take candy from strangers and then we take them out trick or treating where in fact they get a ton of candy from people they don't know. We tell them not to talk to strangers, but line up every Christmas to get photos taken with Santa, who engages them in a conversation about their inner most wishes and desires. Do you know who is wearing that Santa suit? Do you know if he was checked out thoroughly before he was hired? Yeah--I am guilty of being a bad mom...How my kids survived their childhoods without serious damage is beyond me.
ReplyDeleteGurl, bye.
ReplyDeleteDamn. I'm offline for 2 weeks and come back to this?!
ReplyDelete@aemish, light and strength to you. *Hugs*
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ReplyDeleteIm way too sober for this.
ReplyDelete@headrot I don't know you at all., if I did, I'd give you a big hug and tell you life isn't all bad. If you need to talk to someone, even a compassionate stranger online...my email is countessedenofyore@gmail.com. I've been through depression, suicide attempts as a teen, all of it. Please reach out.
ReplyDeleteI hate to read your pain. Your anger, all anger, comes from pain. Please talk to a friend ASAP. You are loved by several people in your life....I'm sure.
@aemish...your story made me cry. My child was abused last year by a teenaged family member. It has been very difficult to process. I hope your life is full of joy now!
ReplyDelete@wendy where can i contribute?
ReplyDelete@Countess... and everyone, please and thank you from the bottom of my heart, but please and thank you for not getting too involved in what happened to me as a child three decades ago. I will forever maintain an open door to any individual, especially children. This is not something we should cry about! The fact that you guys would is extremely moving and lets me know I am on the right path. Thank you for caring, please continue to alert me to those who may need my attention as I will do the same
ReplyDelete@LadyHeisenberg that's an AMAZING story.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if you all have read Gavin DeBecker's book The Gift of Fear but it's all about trusting your gut instincts.
If your spidey senses start tingling in a situation - pay attention to it because they won't lead you wrong. Lady H's story illustrates that.
Having said that, as far as this famous or semi-famous person trolling children's playgrounds ... in this day and age of smart phones I wonder if anybody who has recognized him has taken photos.
I mean SOMEBODY recognized him, and told SOMEBODY who told Enty, right? Shouldn't be too tough to post photographic proof. Which isn't libelous because it's just a photograph.
As for telling your kids not to talk to strangers, unfortunately most child predators are NOT strangers.
I think the best thing you can tell your kids is if they are afraid, lost, in danger, GO TO A WOMAN.
The sad fact is that when kids are sexually abused, some of us never get over it. We have better days, but then it all comes back into your mind and ruins all the getting over it progress you've made. And you know what? It's okay. If someone is blogging their "bad", that's okay as well. It's healing.
ReplyDeleteHeadrot, Aemish, you get over what happened to you in the ways you see fit, for however long it takes.
Gavin DeBecker's take on kids talking to strangers.
ReplyDeleteI think his approach is - teach your child to refine and trust his/her instincts, rather than teaching rigid rules.
@Brenda {{{hugs}}}
ReplyDeletesometimes I think I could would the Academy Award
*win
ReplyDeleteHeya wendy, I am going to cut and paste your comment. It seems that the CDAN powers that be are deleting you and trying to act like you are the one doing it.
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Wendy Davis said...
I understand the constant tattling on a kid who you didn't like the way he looked at you. I am aceppting donations for my non profit for adults who are dumber than kids and need help. Thank you and God bless.
3:35 PM
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You're welcome.
Thanks @Bacon!
DeleteYour stupidity and pro-rape stance are now immortalized. Nice try, shithead. Maybe they can teach you how to fucking spell while you're there. Again, glad you finally recognize you need help. XoXo
Awww, Bacon, you are ever so considerate!
Delete@brenda i appreciate the sentiment, but i do not appreciate anything about me being referenced in relation to this. i did not bring it up and it really disgusts me that others saw fit to do so.
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ReplyDeletewhat 7 said
@LH i guess i miss interpreted Wendy's last post that Bacon reposted? I did not read it as pro-rape at all. did i miss something?
ReplyDeleteWendy is slamming me for ratting on a serial rapist. Allegedly because I didn't like how he looked at me. Has nothing to do with, say, I don't know, the fact that I watched this kid downward spiral over four years as he sexually harassed every female in the building and submitted really graphic journals about raping women and setting women on fire. Yeah stupid ole me, reporting all the well intentioned shit that this future serial rapist was doing, trying to interventions going. It's not like my job requires me to or anything either.
DeleteI'm lost.
ReplyDelete@7 really does know how to read
ReplyDelete@Marina
ReplyDeleteThanks for the book suggestion. I just requested Gavin DeBecker's book Protecting the Gift: Keeping Kids and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) from the library.
@headrot, Wendy Davis called LH a "tattletale" for reporting to the police that a composite sketch resembled one of her former students. Who turned out to be the serial rapist in the composite sketch.
ReplyDeleteOr that. I'm such an asshole for trying to stop a serial rapist.
DeleteI think I've shared this here before, but I used to be a freaking crazy magnet. Men whipping it out and jerking off in front of me multiple times, upskirted at work (back before cell phones), fondled at a movie theater and had a stranger break into my house to watch me sleep.
ReplyDeleteYou had better believe I don't take shit from anyone, don't worry about being polite if I feel that instinct kick in and I am aware of my surroundings 100% of the time. In fact, recently a guy followed me and my kids around Target for 45 minutes, no shopping cart/basket or items in his hands the whole time. I whipped around, looked him in the eye and said I was going to security. Of course he high-tailed it out of there immediately. My biggest regret was not taking his picture with my phone.
Lastly, I'm a big fan of the old "If you see something, say something". Twice I have hung out in the parking lot of my daughter's preschool because I saw men I didn't recognize hanging out long after drop-off. (Called the teacher to see if they knew why they were there). That may seem crazy to many people, but after Sandy Hook I couldn't live with myself if my gut pinged and I ignored it so someone wouldn't be inconvenienced
Getting into personal issues and arguments with people on an internet gossip site is foolish and inappropriate. Take a walk, have a coffee, call a friend, be a grown up.
ReplyDelete@Malibu Borebee, you must be new here.
DeleteHere you go Wnedy (just in case) never know with these Ents. They delete random posts at will.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with the boxing match. .
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Oh please. My schedule of people to box after church on Sundays (after eating a picnic basket I made with lime jello) is quite full. I am undefeated btw except for the prairie-skirt-wearing-know-it-all I plan to fight next week. Please pray for me and I will let you all know how it goes.
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Though I would skip the lime jello
Sunny, better to safe than sorry. I agree 100% with following your gut.
Lady H. it must have been awful KNOWING that eventually this kiddo was going to carry through with harm and not being able to do anything about it.
There is a difference between 'not liking the way someone looks' that you pass on the street and reading deranged,terrible writings over the course of not days,weeks,months but YEARS.
Thanks again @Marina, @7, @Bacon and @Leek. Dammit, now I want to cook my signature scallops with leek and pancetta! Anyways, @aemish is the winner here. Thanks everyone. I think I'm going to join Warecat for that drink now
Delete@Lady H What an amazing thing you did in providing your information. You saved lives and prevented a lifetime of heartache for the families of the victims he would surely have found.
ReplyDeleteSunny, you've just described my experiences! I've been chased in a car by a guy jacking off twice when I was in college. That's so disgusting. I'm followed around stores at least 1-2 times a year and I've been followed by scary men in cars several times. I go to public places like the police station or fire dept if possible or drive thru a pharmacy parking lot and around the hospital to lose them. I think the following thing is due to my possessions (handbag, ring, Mercedes) rather than me. I only started noticing it when my husband told me. He watched this guy follow me around a store for a long time and I had no clue.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine having someone watch me sleep. Aw hell naw. Before anyone says shit, I'm not bragging, I'm just saying that there are some sick puppies out there. I live in the suburbs too and it is deemed "safe" due to the median income, but crazy can have money too.
I try LowKey. Watching Thor (for the first time) right now and may I say your guy is a dick?
ReplyDeleteNo offense :)
@LH gotcha, i didnt read most of the thread so I didnt understand that. sorry for participating with that.
ReplyDeletei assumed the comment about idiots was a reference to the general lack of IQ and need for assistance that most people on here seem to have
ReplyDelete@Bacon Ranch What a great idea!! A little hatebox archive. Archive:Yes!
ReplyDelete@malibu here here!
ReplyDeleteWell it's obvious she is being sought out by some hater Entmod, Leek. That's one thing but to make it so it looks like she's deleting her comments, that's just cold.
ReplyDeleteHer voice should be heard, just like the rest of us.
i dont get the reposting of wendy's posts as anything other than continual instigation. idiocy.
ReplyDelete@headrot Excuse me for speaking to you, assuming I KNOW YOU, when your blog has minute details of your life. SO SORRY if I PRESUMED AN ACQUAINTANCE. You can't go around saying you hate people who are nice then expect not to be called on it. eg. 'I hate aemish' !!!!
ReplyDeleteIdiocy? I guess it's true that some folks can smell their own, headcase.
ReplyDeleteIf she wants to post hate, she can stand behind it instead of deleting it.
Fuck watching the Atlanta Housewives.
ReplyDeleteThis is so much better.
Fuck yeah Warecat!!!!!
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DeleteWarecat move yo ass over cuz I'm coming in for a landing.
Delete@Bacon Ranch Oh, I see!
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Ok
now just hear me out for a minute: my boxing matches occur between two consenting adults, ok? No flash photogrphy is allowed and no kids under 5'1" are allowed. My lime jello is gluten free but contains nuts and marshmallows. Best regards.
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Pineapple is good in that, too.
um. i wasnt really called out on that comment, foolish lady. most of the comments, yours included for the most part were about things that are not a part of, nor relevant to, anything posted on this site. yes, you mentioned my comment in your original post to me on this thread, but not really in a way that "called me out" on anything, so much as allowed you to bring up information that you had no business bringing up and is not yours to share.
ReplyDeletethese actions really do nothing but demonstrate to me that you, like so many others on here, are nothing but a busy-body who does not have my, or likely anyone else's, best interests in mind. only your own entertainment with my business.
if any of the comments directed at me really had really anything to do with my comment about aemish, i would have no problem with them. sadly, few if any of the comments were really relevant to my statement. your comments to me now have very little relevance to my comment about aemish except you reposted them tacked onto the end of your comment.
my blog does not have minute details of my life, even before i took down that one post. the fact that you think it did speaks to how little you know. nor did i invite you to read it. i realize it is public, but as it has its own comment section, if you really think something needs to be discussed, its a logical and not farfetched conclusion that that is the place to discuss it. not here, in an unrelated arena.
there is also a grand difference between speaking to them and offering them unsolicited, unwanted, unwarranted, and unappreciated "advice" and "insight" into things that you do not know anything about.
further, i did not realize that my blog was a part of this forum, as I was under the impression that it was not an extension of CDaN. i'll have to keep that in mind in the future.
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Delete@headrot I wasn't aware that helping someone who was suicidal was being a 'busybody', but whatever. The 'inter' part of internet means that everything is connected. This is a public gossip blog, not a private yahoo group. I wonder if you're not just an emo chick who thinks that suicide is romantic (I tried twice when I was drinking - it's not). Once I ended up on a ventilator, and the other, I ended up having my stomach pump and shat out charcoal for two days. People on here try to help you, and you have the fucking gall to play with their heads time after time, and try to make them feel like dicks? How fucking dare you!
ReplyDeleteyoure a fool, and while i could continue breaking about the idiocy and ignorant nature of your response, i have better things to do.
ReplyDeletethank you for continuing to demonstrate that youre beneath me. i hope you find something in the world to justify your existence, because based on our interactions, i cannot seem to find one within you.
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ReplyDeleteJust ignore her Leek.
ReplyDeleteShe has better things to do and I can guarantee you that one of those things isn't offing herself. She's too self absorbed and really, without her on this planet how will anyone else learn to be such a blatant attention whore?
You don't want people bringing up your blog headcase? Don't link it.
You don't want folks talking to you? Well, I think you are solving that problem just fine on your own.
Have fun having a play date with Wendy!
lmao! i didnt link it bacon. youre just as ignorant and foolish as she is. you two certainly deserve each other. you can both cry big self-righteous tears.
ReplyDeletebut by bringing up the fact that i didnt link it, you further justified my statements that people dont really have any business talking about it.
so thanks for proving my point!
@headrot Whatever, headrot. Take care.
ReplyDelete@Bacon Ranch I think I finally figured that out, Bacon.
Uh, may want to check your profile there heady.
ReplyDeletePeople noticed (and read) it when you were going into the suicide threads with your outdated emo/goth attitude.
nor have i ever claimed to be suicidal.
ReplyDeleteonce i claimed to be really depressed. that was it, and it was a good long while ago.
all claims about me being suicidal have been others, like Leek here, jumping to conclusions, making gross and outrageous assumptions and ignoring me saying that i am not.
further idiocy from the likes of all of you.
linked in my profile is not linked in the forum. i am sorry that that is a nuance that has gone over your head.
ReplyDeletemy attitude that i think suicide is acceptable? i'll stand by that. i'm sorry youre all so narrow minded and uneducated to the point where you cant distinguish between approving of suicide and being suicidal. but i guess that is to be expected when you cannot distinguish between something posted for discussion and something posted in a profile.
shame ya'll mommas never taught ya better.
Scoot over, Warecat!
ReplyDelete@7 lol
ReplyDelete@countess eden
ReplyDeleteOh goodness. In no way am I bragging about what's happened to me either. I consider it assault since the first 3 times people exposed themselves I was 7 on a trolley car, 13 in a parking lot and 16 surfing with my friend on a deserted beach. The last time it happened I was 29 on a train in Sydney, and by that time I was like "here we fucking go again" and calmly grabbed my bag and moved to the front of the train. It's wishful thinking, but I hope my kids never have to deal with this shit
My favorite Housewife of ATL is Ms. Lawrence!
ReplyDeleteMy apologies to everyone for my part in getting things so off-topic.
ReplyDelete@Lady H Enjoy that drink, you surely deserve it!
@Sunny I would say you had a guardian angel somewhere in there. A few of them move from flashing to touching.
Thanks leeks. This post is a bigger gorefrst than tonight's Walking Dead. Holyyyyy shit I can't believe what I just watched
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ReplyDeleteI think I've gone through an army of guardian angels. Any more details would just be depressing, but I'm grateful every day
On topic with respect to previous comments/off-topic in respect to current comments sequence. Sorry!
ReplyDeleteSomeone said above that a man who wants kids might go watch kids (due to his interest in having kids). I don't buy this at all. I am a woman who wants kids. While I love going to see my niece at her sporting events, I NEVER go watch kids' sporting events because I crave having a child. NEVER. This is weird to me. Even more weird if it's a man. Any single, childless man who goes to watch some children's event (without a kid or relative participating in said event) is weird. Off. Not normal. That is all.
{{{hugs 4 Sunny & Eden}}}
ReplyDeleteI woke up to potty but now I can't sleep craving scallops with leeks and pancetta.. :p
When I lived in LA, my two favorite places to hang out were Disneyland and the huge arcade at Ontario Mills.
ReplyDeleteGuess I'm a pedo, right?
Oy vey, you people.
You're a creeper all right. You just don't know it yet. But we do...
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ReplyDelete3:38 now there are adults that go to Disney, and they're called weirdos
ReplyDelete195 posts ≠ 57 channels and nothing's on.
ReplyDeleteNobody caught that this is the part of the plot of Little Children? http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0404203/
"The lives of two lovelorn spouses from separate marriages, a registered sex offender, and a disgraced ex-police officer intersect as they struggle to resist their vulnerabilities and temptations in suburban Connecticut."
ReplyDeleteThe sooner we can stop pretending this is normal, the better.
Sunny is right. Any questions. That was rhetorical.
ReplyDelete@Poor Justin-
ReplyDeleteI was totally messing with you per the "creeper" comment above. I was trying to be ironic and parodying the general attitude on this thread. But I read your blog and had second thoughts about even kidding about it, cuz, yep, some people here might actually think you are a pedo or rapist or whatever (due to your comment, and the post at the top of your blog.)
Clearly, you're a thoughtful (in the sense of thinking deeply) person and you have your own views, which may not coincide with those of the fucking nimrods on this thread and site. Seriously. Stupid fucking nimrods. A handful have common sense and/or seem to be decent, the rest are just pathetic, "co-sign"ing one another and dishing and being catty and using the latest memespeak/hivespeak and parroting one another's unoriginal observations/pontifications. Fifty years from now, people will look back at threads such as this and laugh their asses off at just how stupid, scared, judgemental and hateful most of us were.
You're on the wrong website, pal. Possibly even on the wrong planet...
Jon Heder
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