"I read about the two men I fell for while working on films. I was sure each was my soul mate, a belief fueled by sexual attraction that made me certain I was in love, only to find that when the filming ended, so did the relationship. And I read about the man who asked me to marry him four years ago over the phone, before we had even kissed. Three months later we were in his kitchen throwing steaks at each other’s heads in anger"
In the article she discusses the fact that she almost died this previous summer and that it was a very close call.
"This past summer I was very ill. At one point it looked as if I might not survive."
Look for some blind item reveals about the amazing Maria Bello in the next week.
Good for her and can't wait!!
ReplyDeleteBlinds about the one being so sick? That's sad if so.
ReplyDeleteI thought she came out as bi?
ReplyDeleteI think she said she didn't want a label it. However someone wants to 'classify' her I hope she is happy - it is probably nice to have that kind of weight lifted off.
ReplyDeleteWho and who cares.....sounds like someone is trying to boost their career.
ReplyDelete@ The Dude: those were my first thoughts too.
DeleteI loved her in A History of Violence. NSFW steamy sex scene on the stairs with Viggo Mortenson (I wonder if he's one of the guys mentioned?)
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ReplyDeleteThank you, @7! :D
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ReplyDelete@seven, I know...that was one hell of a scene...and getting it on with Viggo makes me envious.
ReplyDeleteI can't remember the specifics but I wonder if she is the answer to the blind about an actress that was very sick?
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing what a brush with death will do to us - getting priorities right. We should all live like that every day.
I always thought she was gorgeous. Glad she is happy.
ReplyDeleteShe didn't come out as gay. Why must people still insist that gay and bi are the same? It is not.
ReplyDeleteShe seems like the type that would be most comfortable being label-less or, if one was needed, pansexual or bi. She was engaged to a man before this and was with her child's father for a long time. So she's definitely not gay and says nothing about being so here, just that she's now dating a woman.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm hoping to see a kindness! I watched a video of her and her partner (Clare munn, an activist) and Maria has apparently been doing service for womens' issues and rights for TWENTY-SEVEN YEARS. That's very impressive.
ReplyDeleteShe came out as Bi…
ReplyDeleteI don't think she came out as anything. She just said she is in a relationship with a woman and that she doesn't understand people's need to assign a label to you based on who you are having sex with. Which it looks like a lot of us are happy to do. I thought her piece was well done and her thoughts on partnership, which were the real gems of it, are being overshadowed by people's fixation on the sexual aspect of it.
ReplyDeleteNice to see an article about loving people raising a family. I'm cringing waiting for the idiot extremists to have an opinion on what is clearly becoming commonplace, much to their vehement denial.
ReplyDeleteLucas, agreed. Let the labeling begin!
ReplyDeleteThere's no need to be a simpleton about this, Enty. Sexuality isn't a binary switch, with "Gay" on one setting and "Straight" as the other. Ms. Bello doesn't define herself that way, so why should Enty say she "came out as gay," or anyone else say she "came out as bi?"
ReplyDeleteShe's a human being, not a series of sex acts, and she loves who she loves, and it's simplistic and reductive to try to define her with a single word of sexuality.
I'm betting this will be another Anne Heche type of relationship. She will return to guys in a year or so when this coupling breaks up.
ReplyDelete@7, when I saw that scene in the theater', I remember be coming extremely body conscious of the people sitting next to me. I actually registered my body/libido rising up to consider....like a prairie dog giving the beady eye, lol
ReplyDeleteI'm betting this will be another Anne Heche type of relationship. She will return to guys in a year or so when this coupling breaks up
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She is not 'gay' in any sense of the word.
I always found Maria to be beautiful and classy and this article has proven that she truly is.
ReplyDeleteI can understand everyone's point about wanting to be label free but it does seem a bit squirrely. It's like the person wants it both ways. They want the gay relationship without the shame/Scarlett letter/ whatever of being identified as gay. So what if people think she's gay?
ReplyDeleteThe point is there shouldn't be any shame/scarlet letter/whatever attached to being gay (or bi, or queer, or straight).
DeleteGood for her for being open and not hiding her relationship - which many people in Hollywood do not do, for fear of losing the paycheck. At the same time, I personally feel the article reads like that old Shakepeare quote "she doth protest too much" by reinforcing that she is not gay. Coming out, to yourself and to the public is an evolving thing, over time she may decide she is only into women, or may continue to enter into relationships with people of both gender. All in all, courageous and should be an inspiration to others.
ReplyDeleteShe pinged my gaydar back in "Coyote Ugly". I love her, she's beautiful and intelligent and she spent a lot of time and money in Haiti after the earthquake. She wrote a piece for HuffPo about her experience there.
ReplyDeleteShe came out as a "whatever" her son's word. I like it. Whatever which if said in the right tone connotes "like no big deal" or 'evs as it should be.
ReplyDeleteI think most people who are self identify as bi either lean one way or the other but a small percentage of that group do seem to live a fully bisexual lifestyle or at least for a long time because if you are a monogamous bisexual, you may make a choice each time you enter a long term relationship unless you are Maria hanging out with all your exes. If your love for someone and your sexual attraction to someone had nothing to do with their sex, isn't that really the highest evolution of human kind? If we could extend that to other shallow or physical qualities, be the next step higher to being civilized? Not sure a Darwinian would agree or disagree though, depends on what you consider is positive human evolution.
Wow JAS, that was actually lovely.
ReplyDeleteI read the article and it was great. She's a helluva writer and seems like a wonderful human being too. I'm glad she's happy and in love with her best friend. Sounds like they all have a good relationship and are creating an loving environment for their child.
Her non-label preference aside, the simple truth is, at the moment, she is in a gay relationship. Tomorrow, she may be in a heterosexual relationship. Such is the nature of bisexuality (or any "sexuality" as those states are often fluid). We are humans; we like to label everything.
ReplyDeleteThat said, her piece was a beautiful essay on the changing nature of relationships and how those closest to you can occupy many different roles in our lives, none necessarily better or worse than the other since all have meaning and worth.
I love her son's "whatever", and I love her. I think she is an amazing actress and she is one of the good ones!
ReplyDeleteIs that paragraph in quotes supposed to be what enty says are blind items? Those aren't blind items. She's talking about reading fabricated gossip about herself.
ReplyDeleteWelcome out in the light! Hope others come out as well:)
ReplyDelete@ Amy: you are incorrect. The "reading" she is talking about is her own diary (or journals), where she documented her life at the time she was living it.
ReplyDeleteI know that some people feel defined by their sexuality, but others don't. It sounds like she did what she felt she needed to do. Honestly, if you're going to come out in this day and age, it's best to do it when you feel the time is right. Maybe in the future after more bigots drop dead (there are their kids, though :( ) people won't even have to come out because it won't be such an issue.
ReplyDeleteShe's kind of ridiculous. Look, if you don't want to be labelled as gay then don't sleep with your own gender. Because otherwise it's, you know, kind of the very definition of it. So just be gay, or call yourself bi if you absolutely must, and quit whining about it.
ReplyDeleteDidn't she say in some article that she had never really dated? That she just ended up with her son's father?
ReplyDeleteOh there is some side eye about her and Mariska Hargitay.
ReplyDeletei hope one day people can just love who they love and not feel the need to come out because coming out won't be such a big deal anymore.
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