January 26, 2013
This B list celebrity recently got engaged. She hated the ring though. Had her boyfriend return it and she is having one designed that she will pay for and say was designed by her boyfriend. Jeweler has been picked and will be mentioned in return for a substantial discount. Apparently the boyfriend has been really hurt by all of this.
Kelly Osbourne
I don't feel sorry for him. If he is still loser enough yo marry someone after they show their true colors, then he deserves anything he gets. I'm sure he likes that she is a muppet celebrity, so he gets to deal with the diva and materialistic attitudes in exchange for C or D list celebrity.
ReplyDeleteis she still engaged?
ReplyDeletePoor man
ReplyDeleteCool your jets Haters!!! My friend owns an upscale jewelry store and this happens all the time when bride is not consulted about engagement ring.
ReplyDeleteTexas Rose: yeah, it would be awkward, which is why my husband and I "chose" together (read : he stood around while I looked at rings, then pulled out the credit card when I'd decided)
DeleteShe's the one who has to wear it "forever" (read : the duration of their relationship)
How does this sort of thing happen? Didn't he ask her what she wanted?
ReplyDeleteTopper - Sounds like he didn't.
DeleteFriend was told by his wife on what ring to get her.
ReplyDeleteAs soon as she got to work to show off the ring, she found out that a coworker also got engaged. And coworker's ring was more expensive.
Friend's wife made him return the ring and get one twice as much.
They're no longer married. (She was cheating on him during the entire marriage; he couldn't figure out why she kept getting promotions upon promotions. Turns out she was having an affair with the boss from Australia.)
I know that people probably do this sort of thing fairly frequently, but if you know your boyfriend is hurt by this, why would you go ahead and do it anyway? Oh, yeah, because you are a spoiled brat.
ReplyDelete+++ exactly. plus I don t wanna know when my bf proposes me. what s the charm if you know by picking up a ring?
DeleteLaura: my husband proposed first. We then chose together. He even admits he doesn't have a clue, which is why gifts are things he's remembered I've liked. The one time he went out and bought me diamond earrings (they're round cut, not at all my taste) I never said a word, and wear them often enough so he doesn't suspect. An engagement ring however, is different.
Delete@ texas rose...
ReplyDeletenothing to do with hate...
the ring is a gift and a personal gesture, that you should not necessary have to "discuss" / (consult as you put it) with the bride.
this goes against the very wows in good and in bad choices i will be at your side - and wear that ring - instead of buying and consulting to assort it to whatever else, especially when a strong reason is to show the "girlfriends" the piece and brag about.
in "true love" the ugliest something becomes the most beautifull thing ever. and there is no care in the world about what others say, it is absolutely loved as it is.
it would be interesting to see how many of exactly these consulted ringbuys end more frequently in a divorce than others.
criticizing the very big sign of love and commitment ... nice. i reckon she will be long gone before the "bad times" have a chance to even come close.
Steph, your friend's wife wouldn't happen to be working for a tech company in Toronto, would she?
ReplyDeleteOsbourne is again with her fiance with long beautiful hair and hagain has the same engagement ring
ReplyDelete+1 @unknown, well said.
ReplyDelete@unknown ITA.
ReplyDeleteits funny, I work with a lot of Europeans who have tiny engagement rings. They are horrified seeing these big gaudy rings on American women. They don't subscribe to the notion that a man's loves is equal to the size of the ring.
ReplyDeleteBut if you want a specific ring and the man can't afford it and you can. It's better to just go out and buy it yourself.
I had a family member that wore a CZ ring and nobody knew it was fake women would gush over it.
Who cares. Love isn't pressed carbon, it is much more than that.
Amen timebob.
DeleteThe reason why American women have huge rings is because of that stupid "two months salary "benchmark created by the jewelry ads. 'Scouse me but I would find it ridiculous to wear a diamond that large.
Frankly I wasn't super thrilled with my engagement ring being a simple solitaire but god bless the man he got the cut right and he's just an amazing human being so I'll keep both as long as the gods continue to bless me with such good fortune.
I think that the woman should be in on the picking from the beginning, after all, it's something she's going to wear for many years to come. It's exactly that overly romantic notion that the woman must be surprised and swept off her feet in the proposal that makes this sort of disappointment bound to happen.
ReplyDeleteI dunno, if she really hates it then I think it is fair enough that it gets changed...she has to wear it (possibly for a long time!). I think maybe she went the wrong way about things, but I get the sentiment.
ReplyDeleteMy Gran HATED her ring, but she didn't say anything because it was passed down and they couldn't afford a different one. But she got a new one for their 50th anniversary - my grandad said if she had told him sooner, he would have replaced it sooner, because she has to wear it and look at it everyday so he wants her to love it and feel comfortable.
We designed our rings, my engagement included. Over 20 years married. Theoretically, you will be looking at it for the rest of your life so why not have it the way you want it.
ReplyDeleteShe's lucky someone cared enough to but her a ring...ungrateful b---h
ReplyDeleteI didn't love my engagement ring when my husband gave it to me. The diamond was much larger than what I wanted, and the ring itself was too big for my finger. BUT...I never changed a thing. It was a gift from him. Period.
ReplyDeleteI asked for an upgrade from my husband after ten years together and he turned it into a huge fight. I was extremely hurt. now I only wear my wedding band. can't even look at the ring without getting upset abut the fight
ReplyDelete"I think that the woman should be in on the picking from the beginning, after all, it's something she's going to wear for many years to come..."
ReplyDeleteUm, isn't EVERY piece of jewelry given to you something that the buyer expects you to have for years? I mean, if a relative gives you expensive earrings, isn't it assumed you'll have them for years? Do you consult with everyone that gives you jewelry?
It would mean more to me that it was from him than it would having a ring to impress other people.
@awkward
ReplyDeleteHaven't talked to him since he remarried.
If this person is Chinese and has a Spanish first name, then we may know the same person...
Like mother, like daughter.
ReplyDelete@Jodi - not in the same way. If a relative give you expensive jewellery you can get away with wearing them every now and then, for special occasions or if you know you will see them (if they match what you wear!). (Also, my family would understand if I didn't like it and give me the receipt - they wouldn't be hurt, because they understand people have different tastes).
ReplyDeleteAn engagement ring is something you wear EVERYDAY. And if you decide not to one day (especially if you are a celeb) people notice and ask you why.
No surprise. The special part of the engagement is WHO you are marrying. Getting a gift that's deemed "not good enough" or "wrong" is ridiculous. It's a GIFT. You don't tell someone what to buy you. So rude and crass. Don't care if its done all day, everyday, it's in poor taste. I would hope that a gift from the man you love would be special enough that you never wanted to take it off. Even if it was made from macaroni. On another note. Kelly always looks like shit. So I can't imagine a ring would take from her appearance. Ugly outside and apparently inside as well.
ReplyDeleteOsbourne has shown time and again that she is a shitty, entitled, little brat. This reveal is no surprise.
ReplyDeleteCan't stand her. It sounds like he couldn't afford what she wanted so she got it herself.
ReplyDeletePatty I like that idea, both of you designing both your rings for each other, men get short shrift with the whole wedding ritual being some bride-centric as it is.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand if you really thought you knew the other person and their tastes and you had picked out or designed something you thought they would love and wanted to surprise the other person it would be hurtful if they didn't like it and especially if they were a bit cruel about it.
I like surprises since one gets so few pleasant surprises in life but sometimes tastes really do differ and yes some rings are really ugly. But you have to think if you don't know your partner well enough to select a ring do you really know them that well? That said some men are just clueless about that kind of thing. The women's job is easy. I like the Celtic style rings even for the groom.
However I have no sympathy for the betches who are more concerned about having the biggest diamond or most expensive or most bragworthy ring, that has nothing to do with love. That is one of those red flags to reconsider the marriage. She may be the type that is never satisfied.
I used to work for a jeweler, and I can tell you that couples came in all the time, together, to choose a ring. A lot of thought goes into choosing a ring, including budget.
ReplyDeleteIf your fiance gives you a ring that you really dislike, I don't see a problem in finding something that you do like. Is it really better that you should wear something that you dislike, for whatever reason, just so you won't hurt his feelings? That's ridiculous. I think if someone is spending that kind of money, they would want you to love it.
Also, as far as wearing inherited pieces that you're not crazy about, you can have them redesigned. Lots of people do this.
I hate wearing rings and don't wear my wedding ring all the time. I get questioned on why I am not wearing it, but men don't always wear their wedding rings so why should women have to? Also, I only have the engagement ring, the thought of another band drove me crazy. Meanwhile, my husband's gained some weight and is unable to get his ring off.
ReplyDeleteMy ex-husband (then boyfriend) and I were browsing rings & as we were perusing I said I wasn't a huge fan of the anniversary style 3 stone look...his answer was I'm the one who buys it, I'll pick it out. Lo & behold I ended up with an anniversary band type 3 stone ring. I decided it didn't matter bc of the gesture. 12 yrs later, I realized thay yes it does. The other person should take ur likes & tastes into consideration in buying something that you are looking at every day, all day for many years. My current boyfriend has asked & shown an interest in what types of jewelry I like. Sometimes a bad ring is a red flag.
ReplyDelete@ Valerie Takacs. wow. Just wow. Your ex sounds like a control freak. I've come across the, "I'm buying it, so I get to pick" type a few times, and I run away as fast as I can. The little gestures tell you so much about a person...
ReplyDeleteI had a first date do this recently with coffee. He wanted me to try a particular type of coffee at a upscale cafe. I said I wasn't a fan of that type of coffee (really, really dark) and wanted to order XXX medium roast coffee instead. I swear to effing god the jerk ordered the ultra dark coffee for both of us and uttered those very words to me. I didn't like the coffee and told him so. Ended the date after the coffee and that was that. It's a little thing, but it told me volumes about how important my opinion was to him.
*shrug* I just don't see why everybody's panties are in such a judgmental wad -lol Get the ring you want -who cares?
ReplyDeleteWhen my husband proposed, he did it with a ring I HATED. It had nothing to do with not spending enough. I don't like big and flashy and gaudy. There was nothing I could like about this ring, ever. He brought his 9 yo sister to a jeweler that was closing and trying to liquidate. When he eventually asked why I was crying so much, I broke down and told him how much I hated it.
ReplyDeleteYes, his feelings were hurt, but so were mine, just for the the fact that he seemed to have no clue as to what I liked.
We finally decided to get a new one after I almost lost my finger(slight exaggeration) because the ring had this weird hook thing that a solitaire ring would fit into, and it would catch on everything.
When we were getting his ring, we got the one that he "fell in love with as soon as he saw it."-his words
What TeeTee said x10000. The experience is different for every couple. Some women want to be surprised about the ring and have the man pick it out alone, some don't care or would want to have a say. Whatever works. My husband and I designed my setting together and he picked out the diamond without me. Yes, when he proposed I wasn't totally shocked by the ring, but the most special and thoughtful part of his proposal was when he got down on one knee, told me I was the one, and asked me to spend the rest our lives together, NOT where he did it, NOT when he did it, and NOT what was in the ring box. He wanted me to have a ring that I loved and that was that. It was romantic and perfect and we've been married for 7 years and counting.
ReplyDeleteI didn't even have engagement ring,I couldn't have cared less. Before someone else says it, I did have school ring, lol
ReplyDeleteMy husband handled it perfectly. He had a diamond set in a solitaire setting, and used that to propose with. After I said yes, he explained that we would go together to the jeweler, and I could design the ring I want. The cost of the solitaire setting went toward the ring design I wanted, so it was no additional cost to him. I got a gorgeous ring that I love wearing, and he got a great wife. Well, I got a thoughtful, sweet husband too. Win win.
ReplyDeleteOh, and the diamond came from a ring that had been inherited from a relative, so he was really entrusting me with a part of his family. That trust is worth more than all of JBlow's engagement rings put together.
ReplyDeleteThere are a lot of difficult discussions that have to be had during the course of a marriage. If ring preferences are not something you can discuss openly, honestly, and respectfully before the marriage, whether before or after seeing the ring, then good luck with the rest of it!
ReplyDeleteMy engagement ring from my ex-husband was a heart shaped solitaire diamond. It wasn't huge or anything, but just looked tacky.
ReplyDelete(Nothing about me says heart shapedjewelry.
at.all.in.any.way.ever.)
The setting was so freaking tall that I was either cutting/scratching myself or my ex with it and breaking off prongs. So not only was it not my personal taste, but not suited for someone even semi active.
I currently wear a band of small diamonds which is nice & flat. I don't have to worry about damaging it or hurting myself or others with it. Its perfectly suited to me, just like the man that put it on my finger.
No judgement on Kelly on this from me.
As they say, when you wallow with pigs you get covered in shit.
ReplyDeleteIf this is how it really went down, the problem isn't the ring, it's the way she handled it. It doesn't bode well for the relationship that she doesn't care about hurting his feelings.
ReplyDeleteDo what you need to do - treasure it because he gave it to you or exchange it because you don't like it, but do it in a way that causes the least pain to him. Caring about and looking out for his feelings, that's called love. Something tells me Kelly Osbourne wouldn't know it if she tripped over it. I do, I've been with my partner for 20 happy years. Trust, compromise, respect at all times, don't sweat the little things, lasting relationship - sermon over, lol!
I worked for diamond importers. I never understood young couples coming in and spending $10,000-$15,000 wholesale on engagement rings. I got engaged a few weeks after graduating college. My husband had relocated to NY and had student loans, an apartment, and suits to pay for. I was very happy to have a solitaire with the promise of resetting it as soon as we were able to do so. Two years alter I picked out exactly what I wanted and had my stone reset in a band of diamonds. People make way too big of a deal over the engagement ring. The people I know who had the biggest, ostentatious rings ended up divorced a few years later.
ReplyDeleteLutefleck: then you'd agree with me that it's not the size but the cut, the clarity and most importantly, the love & commitment it represents.
DeleteMy first marriage I had a large (by middle class standards) ring. After a nasty divorce, I lost all interest in the 'diamond is forever' notion. I found a wonderful man and when we married I only wanted a gold band with our names and dates on it. We are still going strong after 13 years and three kids.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Rach. My husband and I met in college. After he relocated to NY he actually asked my father for my hand in marriage, lol. My mother said they wouldn't make any wedding plans until they saw a ring on my finger. I explained he needed money for clothes and rent, but my parents insisted on seeing a ring. Like I said, I worked for diamond and gold importers. Had they given him a few months to save I would have had something bigger, but it wasn't important to me. He made up for it by letting me pick out a nice piece of jewelry every year from work. Had I known what gold was going to do I would have bought more.
ReplyDeleteWhen my sister got engaged I sent her to a diamond dealer friend of mine. Her soon to be husband spent over $6,000 wholesale for a ring. That marriage lasted less than a year.
When my brother got engaged 8 years ago I sent him to the same diamond dealer. He picked out a perfect stone, slightly over a carat. He brought his girlfriend back with him to look at the stone, and she gave him a huge argument. She wanted at least two carats, because that is what her sister had. She didn't care about the color, cut, or clarity. She wanted BIG. I should add she was 38 at the time. She should have been thinking about applying the money to a bigger place to live, since they were going to try to have kids immediately.
A ring is just a symbol. I could be walking around with the biggest cubic zirconia on my finger and no one would be any wiser.
Fat nonentity cow!!!
ReplyDeleteFat nonentity cow!!!
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