I think it helps initially but personality and smarts soon come into play. If you're beautiful but dumb and mean, you can only get so far. At least that is my take on it. "I don't care how beautiful she is, someone, somewhere is sick of her shit!"
Speaking from experience, yes. I have had multiple instances in which people have been rude to me, and then had a sudden change in tone when they have met me in person. Just this morning, a man let the door to a building shut behind him, and then after he looked at me, he perked up and began holding the doors.
I don't know, I think it depends on the character of the beautiful person. Anyone who becomes invested in their own attractiveness and relies on it is going to suffer mentally once it starts to fade.
Yes yes yes yes yes!! I am living proof. I was "young & beautiful" (as I like to say) years ago. What a world of difference after having twins & gaining weight. I think I'm still pretty, but definitely don't have the hot body anymore. No one even helps me get a bag into the overhead bin! Not that I need help, but they used to jump at the chance!
Yes it's a proven fact that more attractive people get more perks. I was once pretty cute but now that I am an older woman I have to depend upon my smile and sparkling personality to get any favors.
I have a male friend who is drop dead gorgeous, very fit, blue eyes, pretty sexy. He's just like that episode of 30 Rock, he constantly gets stuff because of his looks and he seems fairly clueless about it. He gets upgrades from airlines all the time and he thinks it's because of his status but other club members get turned away. He gets free drinks all the time, discounts on clothes, all kinds of stuff.
yep. people dressed nicely are paid more respect too. its human nature. we like symmetrical faces too. its all been studied. and its pretty fascinating...
Not at all. People are always shocked at my life. I had one person tell me that they were "shocked at the facade" it appeared that I had, simply because I'm an attractive person. I know that it's basically one of my only good points.
Yes, but it's a false value. Age will render the beauty useless then character will come into play. My mother was a beauty, and aging has been very hard on her. It was a lesson for me to really put effort into myself as a whole person.
Look at Demi Moore for what happens to aging beauties who do not have anything else going on.
Only when they are comfortable with being beautiful. I have some beautiful friends that continously struggle with the attention they get. They think it's because something is wrong with them because if your gorgeous people hardly ever tell you because they think you know. If that goes wrong in adolescence, you end up confused all you life and people think you're arrogant.
Its funny, when i hear of someone having a problem, and then i see they are attractive, i used to automatically think how can that be? He/she is so pretty/handsome. Which is wrong. So i think it helps very much to start, and people respond well to you, but pretty people arent immune to heartbreak and misery, as I once thought they were.
JK, I think it's funny when 'beautiful' people complain that they can't get dates because their beauty is intimidating to others. I find your humility lacking, therefore rendering you, um....unbeautiful.
It depends. If you're talking about doors being opened for you and the like, then yes.
If you're talking about being taken seriously in the workplace, then no. Everyone's always wanting you to get them a cup of coffee, or talk about how their wife doesn't understand them and all that crap.
@Topper Madison I was just going to say the same thing.
Also, they can be reverse discriminated on too. It might be tougher to get a job depending on the person hiring. The pretty person might not be taken seriously, the employer could be jealous or think they'd be a distraction
Yes, in many ways, however, it's like being rich, you never feel like anyone *really* loves YOU. The people that are drawn to you are so hard to trust.
The people that I think have it best are the "really cute." No one is threatened by them, yet they are very attractive, and they generally age well. I suspect they attract better prospects than the "beautiful, too."
I have often wished I could have experienced being that kind of gorgeous. Fortunately my husband thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. But without his glasses he's legally blind so I don't really believe it. ;)
Yes, but what's really interesting is how EXTREMELY gorgeous people are treated. I mean, like the top .5% in looks.
Story: I was traveling in Costa Rica years ago, and met a couple of other women and we went to the Monteverde Cloud Forest. Two of us were nice-looking but not extremely so (tho at the time I had a fantastic figure). We got up and went for breakfast and were talking with a bunch of guys, also backpackers.
Well. Then the third woman came down. She was Swiss, and hands down the most beautiful woman I've ever met in person. Just luminous, like you couldn't help staring.
The moment she walked in all the men were falling over her trying to get her coffee etc. She didn't even respond, just grunted at them. They continued.
I had to laugh because I'd never seen anything like it. Yes, we nice-looking women got attention for awhile, but when this stunning woman walked in, we ceased to exist. ;-P
I KNOW they do. I am unfortunate-looking and have always been limited and missed out on so many choices and opportunities in life due to my looks, always being overlooked and passed by.Everyone knows that good looking people just breeze by in life and are always given top priority for jobs and everything else. Life comes easy for them but life is very cruel and difficult for the ugly.
Absolutely. And it starts in childhood. The boy I Nanny is absolutely beautiful, and I know he got away with a ton of shit (before I started working with him) because of his looks.
From personal experience, I also agree. I know there is a lot of stuff men have offered to do for me throughout my life that would not have happened if I were fat, and/or ugly.
Yes I think they do, but if they have an ugly personality it can eventually overshadow things (a bit).
I used to be "invisible" because I was extremely overweight. Then I lost 170 lbs. and suddenly doors are opened for me, I get asked out, I get special favors, etc. BUT I also think it is because as the weight came off I took more pride in my appearance and started looking people in the eye and engaging people in conversation. A lot of it comes from the confidence I believe.
I don't think so. I was never really pretty, just well-groomed, when I was young. So I had to develop other characteristics in order to survive and thrive: a sense of humour, empathy and intelligence.
Not that I am getting old, I feel that I am aging more gracefully than my friends who were prettier in our youth. I am not trying to hold on to some faded beauty that I never really had. In some ways, I look better than ever. My once oily, pimply skin is now smooth and unwrinkled. My frizzy hair has relaxed and thinned out, and the salt-and-pepper colour gives the same effect I used to spend a fortune for on highlights and frosting.
Not necessarily. Where I work (auto factory) if you're attractive and take care of yourself, other women resent you and guys seem to think you're fair game even if you're married (and you wear your wedding ring and they KNOW your husband!)! Of course, I'm just speaking hypothetically.....
A bit. Sometimes it can work against people in a professional capacity. It's certainly no guarantee of personal happiness or everything coming easily, even if it's coupled with me being a nice/good person.
Life does NOT come easy to beautiful people, and to the unnamed and VERY bitter person who made that assumption: grow up and do something about your life if you are this miserable. Looks CAN help you open doors and it absolutely CAN make many things easier, but there are a ton of problems that go along for the ride. I've been beautiful and I've been ugly, and I had an equal amount of problems, just a different set.
If you have a good attitude and a smile on your face it certainly helps, also. I know of beautiful, unhappy people, and average/not so good looking people who are as happy as could be. They have learned to work on their other attributes and after a while people pick up on those, not their looks.
Go to any high school reunion and you see the "beautiful" people sitting off in their own little corner while everyone else is mingling and having a great time.
yes. it does fade with time. but ladies, it all comes back with a shirt that shows you have big boobs.
my 12 year old has learned this (she's really cute). i had a parent teacher conference this year because she's right on the edge of failing math. her counselor was there too. i was telling them how this child uses her looks to avoid doing school work. one of them said, "well she's SO cute!" and the other agreed. yeah, nobody is tht cute. you need to pass 6th grade math. and, she was still chosen (by teachers) to be on the schools leadership counsel, even though one of the requirements is nothing below "B". just how life is.
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ReplyDeleteAbsolutely.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately yes.
ReplyDeleteyes and it proved by the science
ReplyDeletehttp://www.businessinsider.com/is-life-better-for-beautiful-people-2011-11
Without a doubt...
ReplyDeleteTo some extent. When I went through my beautiful phase, I was shocked by people who thought my life must be easy because I was attractive.
ReplyDeleteOf course they do. We worship the things that fade and are unimportant while the true value a person has rests solely on the inside.
ReplyDeleteYes. I'm a fairly attractive woman, and I generally have it pretty easy when it comes to interacting with strangers.
ReplyDeleteYes, but you also need to be well-groomed.
ReplyDeleteI think it helps initially but personality and smarts soon come into play. If you're beautiful but dumb and mean, you can only get so far. At least that is my take on it.
ReplyDelete"I don't care how beautiful she is, someone, somewhere is sick of her shit!"
Absolutely.
ReplyDeleteYes. In every avenue of life, the way is more easily paved for beautiful people. Everyone wants to be around them, be liked by them.
ReplyDeleteOf course I do.
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from experience, yes. I have had multiple instances in which people have been rude to me, and then had a sudden change in tone when they have met me in person. Just this morning, a man let the door to a building shut behind him, and then after he looked at me, he perked up and began holding the doors.
ReplyDeleteDuh. Otherwise more ordinary people, smart people, good people would be celebrities, I think. Not just the pretty/handsome ones.
ReplyDeleteYes, we do.
ReplyDeleteYes, but it also brings a lot of heartache, so double-edged sword.
ReplyDeleteI don't know, I think it depends on the character of the beautiful person. Anyone who becomes invested in their own attractiveness and relies on it is going to suffer mentally once it starts to fade.
ReplyDeleteYes of course they do.
ReplyDeleteYes yes yes yes yes!! I am living proof. I was "young & beautiful" (as I like to say) years ago. What a world of difference after having twins & gaining weight. I think I'm still pretty, but definitely don't have the hot body anymore. No one even helps me get a bag into the overhead bin! Not that I need help, but they used to jump at the chance!
ReplyDeleteYou even have to ask?!?
ReplyDeleteYes it's a proven fact that more attractive people get more perks.
ReplyDeleteI was once pretty cute but now that I am an older woman I have to depend upon my smile and sparkling personality to get any favors.
Yes...I do.
ReplyDeleteUltimately, no. Beauty fades, and if that's what you've relied on your whole life then you're left with nothing.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely 100%
ReplyDeleteI have a male friend who is drop dead gorgeous, very fit, blue eyes, pretty sexy. He's just like that episode of 30 Rock, he constantly gets stuff because of his looks and he seems fairly clueless about it. He gets upgrades from airlines all the time and he thinks it's because of his status but other club members get turned away. He gets free drinks all the time, discounts on clothes, all kinds of stuff.
ReplyDeleteYes absolutely, but it fades with age, and is dependent upon personality, brain, charimas and character as well.
ReplyDelete@Tempestuous Grape, I agree.
ReplyDeleteJoan Collins once said that "Being beautiful and aging is like being born rich and slowly getting poorer."
Yes.
ReplyDeleteOf course they do ... I mean WE do!
ReplyDeleteyep. people dressed nicely are paid more respect too. its human nature. we like symmetrical faces too. its all been studied. and its pretty fascinating...
ReplyDeleteYes, without s doubt.
ReplyDeleteYes. People are nicer to beautiful people, but their lives aren't necessarily easier. They do get lots of free stuff, though.
ReplyDeleteThen why has it been six months for me to find another job?
ReplyDeleteNot at all. People are always shocked at my life. I had one person tell me that they were "shocked at the facade" it appeared that I had, simply because I'm an attractive person. I know that it's basically one of my only good points.
ReplyDeleteYes, but it's a false value. Age will render the beauty useless then character will come into play. My mother was a beauty, and aging has been very hard on her. It was a lesson for me to really put effort into myself as a whole person.
ReplyDeleteLook at Demi Moore for what happens to aging beauties who do not have anything else going on.
Definitely a better and easier life being pretty. I used to get away with a helluva lot when I was young.
ReplyDeleteOnly when they are comfortable with being beautiful. I have some beautiful friends that continously struggle with the attention they get. They think it's because something is wrong with them because if your gorgeous people hardly ever tell you because they think you know. If that goes wrong in adolescence, you end up confused all you life and people think you're arrogant.
ReplyDeleteIts funny, when i hear of someone having a problem, and then i see they are attractive, i used to automatically think how can that be? He/she is so pretty/handsome. Which is wrong. So i think it helps very much to start, and people respond well to you, but pretty people arent immune to heartbreak and misery, as I once thought they were.
ReplyDeleteYes, we do.
ReplyDeleteJK, I think it's funny when 'beautiful' people complain that they can't get dates because their beauty is intimidating to others. I find your humility lacking, therefore rendering you, um....unbeautiful.
Not at all. I really think Taylor Swift is just that much more talented than Miranda Lambert.
ReplyDeleteIt depends. If you're talking about doors being opened for you and the like, then yes.
ReplyDeleteIf you're talking about being taken seriously in the workplace, then no. Everyone's always wanting you to get them a cup of coffee, or talk about how their wife doesn't understand them and all that crap.
@Topper Madison I was just going to say the same thing.
DeleteAlso, they can be reverse discriminated on too. It might be tougher to get a job depending on the person hiring. The pretty person might not be taken seriously, the employer could be jealous or think they'd be a distraction
of course.
ReplyDeleteof course.
ReplyDeleteYes, in many ways, however, it's like being rich, you never feel like anyone *really* loves YOU. The people that are drawn to you are so hard to trust.
ReplyDeleteThe people that I think have it best are the "really cute." No one is threatened by them, yet they are very attractive, and they generally age well. I suspect they attract better prospects than the "beautiful, too."
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ReplyDeleteIs this even controversial???
ReplyDeleteYes, I do have it easier. I kid, I kid, but yes, I absolutely believe good looking people have it easier.
ReplyDeleteFrankly, in my profession it's harder. I find people regularly assume I'm an idiot. But that's fine I love being underestimated.
ReplyDeleteI have often wished I could have experienced being that kind of gorgeous. Fortunately my husband thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. But without his glasses he's legally blind so I don't really believe it. ;)
ReplyDeleteI think they do to a point. People will eventually get past your looks if you are an ass or an idiot.
ReplyDeleteYes, but what's really interesting is how EXTREMELY gorgeous people are treated. I mean, like the top .5% in looks.
ReplyDeleteStory: I was traveling in Costa Rica years ago, and met a couple of other women and we went to the Monteverde Cloud Forest. Two of us were nice-looking but not extremely so (tho at the time I had a fantastic figure). We got up and went for breakfast and were talking with a bunch of guys, also backpackers.
Well. Then the third woman came down. She was Swiss, and hands down the most beautiful woman I've ever met in person. Just luminous, like you couldn't help staring.
The moment she walked in all the men were falling over her trying to get her coffee etc. She didn't even respond, just grunted at them. They continued.
I had to laugh because I'd never seen anything like it. Yes, we nice-looking women got attention for awhile, but when this stunning woman walked in, we ceased to exist. ;-P
I KNOW they do. I am unfortunate-looking and have always been limited and missed out on so many choices and opportunities in life due to my looks, always being overlooked and passed by.Everyone knows that good looking people just breeze by in life and are always given top priority for jobs and everything else. Life comes easy for them but life is very cruel and difficult for the ugly.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely. And it starts in childhood. The boy I Nanny is absolutely beautiful, and I know he got away with a ton of shit (before I started working with him) because of his looks.
ReplyDeleteFrom personal experience, I also agree. I know there is a lot of stuff men have offered to do for me throughout my life that would not have happened if I were fat, and/or ugly.
It is sad, but it is truth.
Yes I think they do, but if they have an ugly personality it can eventually overshadow things (a bit).
ReplyDeleteI used to be "invisible" because I was extremely overweight. Then I lost 170 lbs. and suddenly doors are opened for me, I get asked out, I get special favors, etc. BUT I also think it is because as the weight came off I took more pride in my appearance and started looking people in the eye and engaging people in conversation. A lot of it comes from the confidence I believe.
Congrats to you!!!! Wow!
DeleteI don't think so. I was never really pretty, just well-groomed, when I was young. So I had to develop other characteristics in order to survive and thrive: a sense of humour, empathy and intelligence.
ReplyDeleteNot that I am getting old, I feel that I am aging more gracefully than my friends who were prettier in our youth. I am not trying to hold on to some faded beauty that I never really had. In some ways, I look better than ever. My once oily, pimply skin is now smooth and unwrinkled. My frizzy hair has relaxed and thinned out, and the salt-and-pepper colour gives the same effect I used to spend a fortune for on highlights and frosting.
NOW that I am getting old, not "not"
ReplyDeleteBlergh!
Not necessarily. Where I work (auto factory) if you're attractive and take care of yourself, other women resent you and guys seem to think you're fair game even if you're married (and you wear your wedding ring and they KNOW your husband!)! Of course, I'm just speaking hypothetically.....
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ReplyDeleteA bit. Sometimes it can work against people in a professional capacity. It's certainly no guarantee of personal happiness or everything coming easily, even if it's coupled with me being a nice/good person.
ReplyDeleteHa, I didn't mean to put a 'me' in there!
DeleteLife does NOT come easy to beautiful people, and to the unnamed and VERY bitter person who made that assumption: grow up and do something about your life if you are this miserable. Looks CAN help you open doors and it absolutely CAN make many things easier, but there are a ton of problems that go along for the ride. I've been beautiful and I've been ugly, and I had an equal amount of problems, just a different set.
ReplyDeleteIt is an edge, but if you don't have it you don't have it.
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ReplyDeleteIt's a double edged sword ..
ReplyDeleteAfter reading some of these responses it's very obvious that the phrase "beauty is subjective" is true. This works in everyone's behalf.
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I love the George Costanza quote "Beautiful women..you never see them lifting anything over 3 lbs"
If you have ever lifted anything over 3lbs, you are not beautiful according to George.
Personally I love being with an attractive person. At the end of the day if they have nothing to offer conversation wise..those looks fade fast.
If you have a good attitude and a smile on your face it certainly helps, also. I know of beautiful, unhappy people, and average/not so good looking people who are as happy as could be. They have learned to work on their other attributes and after a while people pick up on those, not their looks.
ReplyDeleteGo to any high school reunion and you see the "beautiful" people sitting off in their own little corner while everyone else is mingling and having a great time.
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ReplyDeleteyes. it does fade with time. but ladies, it all comes back with a shirt that shows you have big boobs.
ReplyDeletemy 12 year old has learned this (she's really cute). i had a parent teacher conference this year because she's right on the edge of failing math. her counselor was there too. i was telling them how this child uses her looks to avoid doing school work. one of them said, "well she's SO cute!" and the other agreed. yeah, nobody is tht cute. you need to pass 6th grade math. and, she was still chosen (by teachers) to be on the schools leadership counsel, even though one of the requirements is nothing below "B". just how life is.
Not at all. I'm a perfect 10, and my life sucks! LOLOL
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