Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Kim Richards Relapses
According to Star Magazine, Kim Richards has fallen off the wagon. They won't say she was drinking because no one saw her drinking. This all happened at one of the birthday parties Paris Hilton threw for herself. You know, because she has to have enough of them to feel like she is actually still loved. By the time she reaches 40 she is going to have to throw at least 50 of them and probably have to pay people to attend them and then will hand them a present when they walk in the door which they can then give to her. Wouldn't that just a better system all around? Instead of hinting or suggesting, just buy what you want and hand it to the person in your life or the people at your party. People are already making the effort to come to your party. Why not get something you like and give it to yourself. Anyway, Kim's gift to Paris was to be obnoxious and slur and wobble all over a nightclub while groping and fondling the male go go dancers. "I used to be in the movies. I was a big star. I hate my sister. I love my sister. I was in movies." Yeah, my quote. You could see it though right?
I've struggled with sobriety and it ain't easy. I can't imagine having my relapses reported in the media, that would SUCK SUCK SUCK.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree, Hunter. I am struggling right now with my sobriety (haven't relapsed, but man, do I want to.) and it's bad enough when your family and friends know, but the whole freakin' world? I'm cringing at how that must feel.
ReplyDeleteOh, yeah...I wanted to be Prudence when I was little.
Stay strong Reese. Treat yourself well.
DeleteStay strong meanie reese!!! You can do it!!
DeleteI'm just now starting to work on sobriety and it IS hard. I feel bad for Kim because everyone is watching her like a hawk, just waiting for her to mess up.
DeleteBest wishes hopes dreams and prayers for all my friends struggling with addiction. I know u can donit!!! Mb not perfect, but as best u can. Im rooting for you!!!!!
DeleteOh, Prudence. You should have married me in 1972, when we were 10, and then none of this would have happened.
ReplyDeleteIt sad to see yet another child actor gone astray
ReplyDeleteAnd i'm supposed to care because????
ReplyDeleteMy husband is a recovering alcoholic, and I think all families of alcoholics live with this fear. It happens so often...I read this and feel nothing but sorrow for her. and I hope she has someone to help her now.
ReplyDeleteI had to Google "Prudence," because I know her as "Tia." ;-)
ReplyDeleteStay strong, CDANers in recovery! You're worth it.
Long time lurker, first time poster.
ReplyDeleteMy husband was the kindest, most loving and funny person I've ever met. We were married 5 years and have a beautiful 2 year old. Addiction is the worst kind of struggle. They don't want to be the way they are or do the things they do. My husband wanted with all of his heart to be sober, but he just couldn't 'get it' . He passed away in September.
I feel so sad for Kim. She needs to battle this off camera.
I'm making a Caipirinha in Kim's honor, with a double shot of cachaca. You go, girl!
ReplyDelete@Cara - Welcome, and I'm sorry for your loss. Many blessings to you and your daughter.
ReplyDelete@Cara...welcome to CrazyLand. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I needed that little kick in the ass to realize I don't want to go back down that road. Thank you for that. Peace, light and love to you and your little girl.
ReplyDeleteAKM...thank you. ;)
Stay strong, all of you!!! Talk it out on here because there seems to be many people who will help you.
ReplyDeleteI am a loyal RHBH viewer, and the bits with Kim make me SO uncomfortable. She seems like such a lost soul.
Last night on WWHL, guest Sarah Silverman kinda alluded to the fact that Kim is not well, but Andy Cohan totally shut her down. Anyone else see that? And, I must say I loved the vibe of the show in Austin. Andy Cohan is the worst host ever, though.
@cara, welcome, and i send many hugs to you and your daughter.
ReplyDeleteabout kim -- is alcohol the only thing she struggles with? was the pill situation just swept under the rug? ( i know they said it was prescribed to her by doctors, but it was still a significant amount of medication to consume)
@Meanie- If you need real strength to stay sober, watch this e-book made for my son. This is the only way he will know his daddy. So sad. I wish I could rewind time and show this to my husband.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pMoHjdyNcQ&feature=youtu.be
@Cara H - hugs to you and your boy. as someone who often makes bad decisions with alcohol this really hit home.
Delete@AKM - yes, TIA! I loved Witch Mountain sooo much.
ReplyDelete@Cara, hugs to you & your girl. I'm so sorry.
@Reese, chin up, girl! :)
T. E. - I agree. The pill story dished out in the last epi was all kinds of WTF?
ReplyDeleteStay strong all of you struggling with sobriety... And @Cara - my apologies to you - I hope you and your daughter are okay.
ReplyDelete@Susan - I agree with you. The scenes with Kim are awful, and it makes me sooooo uncomfortable. I haven't seen WWHL yet (too late for me, but I actually love Andy Cohen). I do think he, and the rest of the production crew, keep her on the show for selfish reasons. She needs to stop filming. Watching Kim in Paris was so uncomfortable - then hearing her "explanation" to Kyle was even worse.
Kim was such a mess in that Paris episode, making the other HW's wait 40 minutes while she got ready and then she had a meltdown in the van while they were in the cooking class. And then when Kyle had the grand opening of her shop she pulled her away to chat about it-- talk about worst time ever! I didn't buy her explanations about getting the pills mixed up.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why she's on the show. She brings nothing to the table, she makes everyone uncomfortable, she's an incoherent bore. Kim must have a sex video footage of Andy Cohen with barnyard animals, otherwise WHY IS SHE ON THE SHOW?
Good thoughts to all who struggle with addiction (and a special good thought to @Cara).
ReplyDeleteThat said, I have to admit I had no idea who Kim Richards is until I wiki'd her. Still wish her the best.
Cara. Thank you so much for sharing that e-book. I'm so very sorry, honey. 6
ReplyDeleteI'm super emotional right now and having such a hard time at what is traditionally a very difficult time for me. My son, Jason, would have been 35 years old. He lived for only 21 hours and 32 minutes. I never got to hold him or all the things that a mother does. I tried to hold him in his casket but my Mother pulled me away. I kind of wish she hadn't but I understand why she was upset.
I got pregnant my first time at age 14 and decided to not get an abortion. For years, I thought it might have been better if I'd gotten an abortion. I no longer feel that way. I don't think my life would've turned out much differently. In fact, getting pregnant and having all that trauma turned me off of sex for another 3 years.
I've only once been to my son's grave and now...I'm a thousand miles away and really wish I could go. I'm thinking of getting a small bouquet and going to the beach...that would be Nags Head or some place.
Watching that tribute makes me realize...I want to remain sober. I want to live. Again, thank you so much for sharing. <3
Thank you to everyone else for encouraging me. <3
Much love Meanie, I'm fortunate to get to have you as a part of my life even when it's just these small things of FB, WWF, and CDAN. You are an inspiration sistah!
Delete@Cara - I watched a few minutes of your video. What a lovely tribute, and what a beautiful family. Hugs to you and your son. (I'm sorry I assumed "daughter" earlier.)
ReplyDelete@MReese - Oh, many hugs to you to, darlin'. Life is out there, and it can be so good. You are worth it, and you can do it. One day at a time.
ReplyDeleteI knew she was going to relapse, right after the nose job and the pain killers she was given. She was also on something when she was in Paris. She was in and out of being Lucid. What's also funny is...even though she was on the wagon at one point...she still slurred as if she was drunk, yet wasn't at all. I wonder if she got slight brain damage from all the years of drug and alcohol abuse.
ReplyDeleteI wondered the same thing. Maybe she has a bit of "wet brain"?
DeleteMan, the things we do to ourselves- myself included.
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ReplyDeleteI had to delete my comment after reading what you guys wrote above. I loved Kim Richards as a little girl in Escape To Witch Mountain. It's so incredibly sad looking at the woman that she's become in that picture. To those that are struggling with sobriety, hang in there, look in to 12 step meetings. Take life, one day at a time. There is help out there, it's embarassing I know, but there's help! As most of you probably know, I married someone that is an alcoholic, who'd had multiple d.u.i's, he'd been sober for eight months when we were married, but quickly began drinking very heavily again right after we got married. I left him 3 weeks ago, because he'd been blacking out a few times a week, drinking constantly. He'd scream, yell and throw things, push, shove, kick, slap me and prevent me from leaving. I've been going to Al Anon meetings everyday, working on myself. I can't say enough good things about going to meetings. It helps to get perspective and understand the horror of addiction. I guess we're all just doing the best we can. I had to get out of my situation, I tried to stay and work things out with him, but he was unwilling/unable to get help, and I couldn't stick around and be abused physically and mentally anymore. I agree that talking things out on these boards is so helpful, and the camaraderie is life saving. You guys helped me with your encouragement when I couldn't talk to anyone else about what was going on. It was incredible to read: "leave, you don't deserve that, he won't change, that's not ok, etc." Thank goodness for CDAN. You were really here for me during a time of terrible darkness and pain. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your Son, Reese. Hang in there, things are going to get better, just hang in there!
ReplyDeleteReese - You are so loved and appreciated here. Please know that you are worth your sobriety and all of the gifts a long life has in store for you. I'm sorry for your deeply traumatic loss. I hope you can find a healthy ritual to help you find some peace with it.
ReplyDeleteCara - Thank you for sharing your story and for being so strong for your son.
Anna - Keep working what works for you. You've made a HUGE leap forward in your life. Keep the momentum up!!
ReplyDeleteI leap out of bed every morning now, hungry for life. But I relapsesd several times when I did manage to clean up. The good news is that using after beginning recovery is not much fun. For me, it was one-time buys and then using up everything I bought and then coming down and thinking how horrible it was. It was nothing like the 18 months of intense polysubstance abuse that capped off my addiction chronicle.
ReplyDeleteRelapse is part of recovery and should be viewed as such. The good news is that people recover. You don't have to use. You might be one of the lucky ones who survive the disease of addiction. My health is wrecked from the drugs, but I will probably live into my 70s, and I look good. That makes me happy. Love yourselves, people with addiction experiences! You've got to love yourself enough to stay alive.
Barton is right; addiction is a chronic disease.
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ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your struggles, @ Reese. Stay strong... warm thoughts your way :)
ReplyDeleteIMO Kim was the most famous of the bunch when the show first got going. I wanted Prudence's hair when I was young. Kim is really sad to watch and Andy seriously needs to stop using her and let Brandi be the shock factor.
ReplyDeleteI would like to send my very best wishes to those who are struggling
I wish Kim had her own show focusing on her sobriety and how she deals with the users in her life. I think it would be good for her to be out of Kyle's shadow and expectations.
ReplyDeleteShe is a good soul and deserves so much in life, as do all of you who shared your stories. Blessings to each one of you.
Ugh, I am dealing with a loved one who got into some trouble. I learned through what has been going on, that she has an addiction. It is frightening. I'm angry, but just heartbroken more than anything. I know and love her, and this is not her. So many things are coming out that I did not know, that just makes me ill. She is dealing with the legal system, but when she is out, I am so hoping she goes to rehab. I know she can get through this, I just want her to realize that she can too.
ReplyDeleteLove and best wishes to Reese and Anna! You must be incredibly strong women. Xoxo
ReplyDeleteWho thought it was a good idea to take Kim into a club? Didn't Paris have another party she could have invited her to? A family luncheon, perhaps? It's a shame she doesn't have more support.
Congrats to everyone doing their best to live a better life. I, too, know addiction & how sneaky it can be.
ReplyDeleteThere seems to be 2 types of addicts: the kind that will destroy everything around them (stealing from loved ones, crashing cars, etc)and the other kind suffers in silence.
As far as Kim goes--she is a privileged addict who lies about her use and shamelessly appears on reality tv. I have my doubts exactly how "sober" she's been at all. If she's on medication that alters her mood that much, definitely a narcotic.
And addicts don't accidentally mix up their pills. Geez kim. If you're gonna lie, try for better excuses.
Cara, so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and best wishes are with you.
ReplyDeleteTo all who are dealing with addiction, whether struggling with it yourself or dealing with a loved one, I am thinking of you. Stay strong, you are worth it.
My dad was an alcoholic. And still my mom sent me to him everyweekend. We were in so many accidents, Im terrified of cars and driving because of it.I finally broke down one day and said at 11 daddy i wont see you anymore because he got a lil physical with my stepmom, that he gave his life over to christ and was sober for almost the next 16-17 yrs. To this day its the purest sign of love ive ever experienced. He stop cold turkey for ME. I try my hardest not to judge, But if you have something, someone to live for..you have to stop. Do it for your children, they love you unconditionally
ReplyDeleteALSO, ANdy gives me the major creeps. I feel the housewives/bravo shows are now just material so he can have his own lil show and guest and be fake famous
ReplyDeleteCrazyCatLady, Cara, Reeses, Barton and others my kind words to you all. Interestingly I went to dinner with a friend who devotes her time to helping others stay sober but she was so busy talking about herself I never got the chance to bring how I, too, struggle.
ReplyDeleteI've relapsed as well and with my losing my job it's gotten worse. I know I need help. When I went through this earlier (Labor day weekend), Sunny and Texshan and others were so very supportive and I feel like I've let everyone especially myself down.
I know how very, very hard it is to be sober and wonder if I ever will be. I hate being an addict but that's what I am. I suspect, Cat, that you're in the same boat as me but just weren't as candid. Hugs to you. I hope you and I can find the strength to get and stay clean.
Barton, I cannot imagine leaping out of bed. I would love to wake up and feel good. I have only myself to blame on this.
Sorry to be so confessional everyone.
I don't know much about addiction Sherry but I do know the first step to changing anything is to have the desire to change. You sound like someone yearning to be free and I pray you will be one day. Stay strong in your desire to have a different life.
DeleteI don't know much about addiction Sherry but I do know the first step to changing anything is to have the desire to change. You sound like someone yearning to be free and I pray you will be one day. Stay strong in your desire to have a different life.
DeleteCara, your video made me cry and feel so sorry for you (and your precious son) loss. What a loving tribute. I am mourning in my heart that you are both going through that.
ReplyDeleteSherry, it's okay. Don't be so hard on yourself. You realize it's not something you want to do, one day at a time just..don't. You have the strength. You really do.
@Sherry, you are not letting anyone down. I'm a daily longtime reader and I've been rooting for you since Labor Day wknd. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Addiction is hard. Life is hard.
ReplyDeleteI found that my own shame around addiction, especially after a relapse, would send me into a spiraling emotional space which I couldn't handle, so I'd use again. For a long time (okay, still) I could barely handle any type of external stressors without falling into a pit of anxiety and depression which are big-time triggers for me and many addicts. You just lost your job. This is an especially trying time for you. Be kind to yourself.
This is a new way of life for me too and while I'm not exactly leaping from bed each day I do feel much better and hope to feel even better than this with time.
I'm in your corner, Sherry.
Relapse is part of recovery.
ReplyDeleteThanks ABlake, Seahourse and MLE. That actually helps.
ReplyDeleteWho is Kim Richards?
ReplyDeleteAndy totally shut Sarah down when she implied Kim was off the wagon.
ReplyDeleteKim needs to get off Bravo. It is not good for her to have to play out her life and troubles on camera. Same for Sonja Morgan--I saw a video of her this week where she was drunk out of her mind. Not everyone is made for this kind of stuff.
Andy doesn't care about the people on his shows. He really is a horrible person.
ReplyDeleteSherry, you've got lots of friends here! You seem like such a fun, sweet, person. Try not to dwell too much on who you have let down. When it comes to what is going on with my family member, I know I don't even care about whether or not I have been let down. All I care about is seeing her get healthy. I wish she could see how wonderful she is.
You have been able to get up and dust yourself off before, you can do it again. I have faith on you. You aren't alone!
I have never heard that relapse is part of recovery so that makes me feel like less of a loser. I presume you can't continue to use that as an excuse however. One should be all you (me) can allow.
ReplyDeleteOur tendency to beat up on ourselves is part of the cycle that makes us vulnerable to addiction. When I cleaned up, I quit drugs and booze and played video games and exercised a lot. I had to learn how to make each day just what it was: a space between waking up and going to bed, in which I could do what I had to do, what I wanted to do, and what I could. Love yourself and learn to be with yourself, and tolerate your boredom and guilt by recognizing they are temporary states of emotion that will rise and fall. And good luck!
ReplyDelete@Sherry; girl, you can do this! I know it's hard and I know it's scary. I'm sorry you're going through such a time...ANY of you all going through he mill. Hang tough, people.
ReplyDelete@Barton: thank you for your wise and encouraging words. They mean more to me than you'll know...or being an addict, you probably do know. I didn't jump out of bed (!!) but I went out for a walk and hung out with the cows up the road. I know that sounds kinda crazy, but it was quite soothing.
Thanks to all for your lovely words.
@Andy Cane <3 even though you're thrashing my ass in WWF. ;)
Reese, you are brave and thoughtful as a poster here, I will be thinking of you and sending you strength. You break my heart when you talk bout losing your son, hugs to you tonight.
ReplyDeleteCara, thank you for sharing that tribute. What a gift you have given your son! I am sorry for your loss and hope for the best for your future, and your sons.
Sherry, this life thing is a journey and please don't be so hard on yourself. I remember Labor Day, and was so worried about during the storms back east last fall. You got through that, and I know you are kind and strong, don't forget that.
Anna, I am proud of the steps you have made in your life, thank you for keeping us updated!
And I judge Andy Cohen for letting Kim come back after last season. Anyone can see she should be no where near the cameras as she fights this fight. And the poor soul has no one in her life to stand up for her, it's hard to watch.
Sherry,
ReplyDelete"I presume you can't continue to use that as an excuse however."
But every day's a fresh new day, right? Even those of us who don't have issues with substance use/abuse often need a fresh start. It's okay. We all do the best we can, every day...start over, try again, and keep moving. And I love Barton's take on it.
I've thought of you since you mentioned that you were struggling last year. Clearly you have folks here in your corner, sweetie. Keep on keepin' on, and many hugs to you.