For the past year at least there have been reports that Tina and Joe Simpson were split or had split. They were not living together and then they listed the family home for sale, so these are all signs that a marriage is not going well. Apparently when Joe sat the family down and told everyone he was gay and had a male lover two months ago, Jessica Simpson had no idea. None. I guess the I Brake For Pride Parades bumper sticker was something she did not catch. How long ago was it that Pimpa got his DUI? I wonder if this was about the same time because Jessica had all those crazy tweets one night which everyone assumed was about something big, but with Jessica, it could have just been an episode of one of her shows. You just never know. As for the marriage being dead? The couple is trying to spin it as they just fell out of love and there is no one else. So, when Joe is spotted with his new boyfriend, we all need to pretend they just started dating this week.
Regular divorce is very hard, I wish all of them the best.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad the dad gets to live as himself, though. At least he didn't die in the closet, KWIM? That's much sadder.
In all fairness, my ex-FIL came out after almost 40 years of marriage and it hit my ex-husband, his sister, and mother like a ton of bricks. (Personally I don't know how they didn't know. I figured it out within the first half hour of meeting him.)
ReplyDeleteI think some people hv gay blinders on. They cant see what is obvious to everyone. Like the author terry mcmillian? Who wrote hiw stella got her groove back? Well she too came home from jamacica with a young boyfriend she married. 2-3 yrs later, she was shocked to find out he was gay and using her! I took one look at his picture, and thought," honey, his gayness can be seen from space with the naked eye!" But she just didnt see it.
DeleteOn the topic of gays, there's a blind that CDAN readers might like at http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2012/10/dear_prudence_my_closeted_boyfriend_won_t_let_me_meet_his_friends.html
ReplyDeleteBasic summary: Boyfriend of closeted actor wonders what to do ...
Hope they can all move on with their lives and I'm glad he is being honest with himself and family.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have been married for 42 years. They're very kind to each other but ive never seen them touch in any way in my entire life. I found out he's really gay but no one else knows. It's worse than that bc he's a priest and now participates in the boy scout jamboree every few years. It makes me sick and I want to tell everyone but I feel so bad for my sweet mom who will be humiliated. These men aren't just living a lie, they're using their unsuspecting family members as part of their coverup and it's humiliating. I know exactly how Jess must feel, like a prop.
ReplyDeleteSorry katso. But because he is gay doesnt mean hes a pediphile. I sincerely hope not.
DeleteWow katsm that must be really hard on you, sending positive energy your way friend
DeleteAuntliddy, she might be referring to Boy Scout being incredibly homophobic and how supporting the org as a leader is hypocritical and really sad. I hope that's what she means, anyway.
DeleteNice picture choice, Enty.
ReplyDeleteIt's going to be a big adjustment for his family and I hope they can find some good family counseling to help them process it.
Maybe that counselor can also get Jessica to START MAKING HER MALIBU SKINNY JEANS AGAIN.
:( @kats....that must be difficult for you....stay strong....
ReplyDeleteWow katsm0711 - that's a tough spot you're in! No one else suspects and you have no one to talk to about this? I'm so sorry you are carrying this by yourself, and you should not have been placed in this position.
ReplyDeleteHe's made my gaydar ding for YEARS. I'm not at all surprised.
ReplyDeleteI guess Jessica missed that family meeting.
ReplyDelete@katsm, why does it bother you that he goes to the Boy Scout jamboree? A gay man is no more likely to be a child molester than a straight man.
ReplyDelete*karen*, katsm: Hate to be cliche but I say it's more likely he ISN'T a pedo. It's always the straight ones I have noticed. It's not about sex but power.
DeleteAnd kat stay strong. We're all rootin' for ya.
Yesterday in the Your Turn at the end, somebody mentioned how they hate when a guy married family man comes out and everyone cheers him on, when in fact he lied to his family and took years away from his wife. I think I agree with that. I know it's awful that he was closeted and didn't except himself, but he still lied.
ReplyDelete@karen - I think it's more because the BSA organization is so staunchly anti-gay that they would ask him not to participate any longer. Am I correct, katsm?
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best.
Exactly @disco. After they denied the boy his agle scout a week ago for being gay, I'm extra nauseated. I hate liars.
DeleteI wonder how Jessica will parlay this into $$$$$$.
ReplyDeleteI could be totally wrong on that one.
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone know what Jessica's Tweets were about? I don't follow her on Twitter & if they were reported months ago, I must've missed them.
ReplyDeleteThere was a family I knew from school from my hometown, they had 3 daughters, with one a year older than me, and one a year younger than me and a way young girl. I went to school with them since elementary, but in high school I had classes with the daughter a year older. She ended telling me and a few other people in class that her dad was gay, and her youngest sister found out by finding a picture of him and his bf. The parents had been divorced for awhile, but still. I look back and I feel so bad for them.
ReplyDeleteIs it just me (or the press)or are a lot of Baptist preachers gay...strange.
ReplyDeleteAs for PimpaJoe...who cares? as long as he's not interested in me, I'm good. :)
@discoflux, ahhh gotcha. Good point.
ReplyDelete@MaggieCasey, I agree with you. I know someone whose husband left her 4 years and two kids into their marriage for a man. It's been a few years now, but he has been doing everything in his power to make her life hell ever since. We kind of strongly suspect that he only married her for her money (he got private college tuition and a Masters degree paid for by her wealthy parents).
ReplyDeleteIn any case, she married for love and got mentally, emotionally, and financially screwed by someone who she has to share parenting with for another 14 years. Of course he said that he "just realized" he was gay.
Cindy, when I was young, we played "Gay or Christian?" quite a lot. Especially with rural or Southern people, the stylistic crossover is fascinating. Men on Home Shopping Network were really perplexing sometimes. I'm still unsure about some of them.
ReplyDeleteBarton you never cease to entertain.
DeleteUm, okay - so yesterday, I had to travel for work, was on the road for eight hours, and didn't see the internet or news or anything - and this morning, I came here to catch up and Joe Simpson is gay? For real? And this all materialized yesterday? I WAS GONE FOR ONE DAY!
ReplyDelete@kat - I'm sorry :( It's also not fair of him to expect you to keep such a secret from EVERYONE. If you were younger it could be terribly damaging. This girl - she's 20 - I've known her since she was a baby. Her mom was cheating on her dad AT THEIR HOUSE, and her mom would threaten her and force her not to say anything. The mom was/is also a terribly heavy drink and pill popper. One night, the girl couldn't take it anymore and said she was hearing voices and became suicidal and was put on 72 hour mental lockdown. At 12 or 13 years old. Parents don't always realize how deeply their actions can affect their children.
ReplyDeleteWhat if Michael K is the boyfriend and the reason he just moved to LA is because Pimpa Joe promised to come out, omg
ReplyDelete@seaward I think if that happened I could officially die happy. That would be gold pure gold
DeleteMichael K has WAY better taste than that. I hope.
Delete@seaward - hahahahahaha! That is LITERALLY the best thing I've heard all morning. FTW!
ReplyDeletePut me in the not surprised column. His behavior and attitude always seemed a bit off to me for a married pastor type with two daughters. He always acted like a closet case.
ReplyDeleteAmber- that sounds a lot like my parents, except it was my dad that was cheating (but also was a drunk and coke head) He would bring his girlfriend over to our house when my mom was at work and tell us she was our Aunt and they would disappear for hours, uugh. It was terrible. He would threaten us if we told our mother so it was a dark secret my brother and I shared. It really messed us up.
ReplyDelete@seaward - I would TOTALLY flip my shit if that happened. But Michael K is well over 20.
ReplyDeleteShhh disco, sshhhhh.....
DeleteHold me!
DeleteCarebear: that's horrible! I'm glad it's over now. Parents can really do a number on our little kid psyche. It's what we do with that pain, that defines us. And ya know, I'm still working thru my parental baggage. I wonder if it ever truly goes away. But it DOES get easier!
ReplyDeleteHow is your sassy mom? All better?
Oh ya, Pimpa Joe. Happy he's out. No one should have to lie for religion or family or society in order to be themself. I wish him well in his new life. I think this will be very interesting.
ReplyDeleteDia- thank you for asking, she is doing much better and spending her weekends with the baby and my other niece and nephew.
ReplyDeleteMy family is so screwed up, and I find out even more about how awful my father was thru my older brothers (who are 12 and 10 years older than me) My parents are still together which boggles my mind.
He also owes an apology to his congregation for being such a fucking hypocrite in all his anti-gay sermons.
ReplyDelete@rej - I'm sorry :(
ReplyDeleteWow Barton. I live in Texas and I've noticed how many effeminate men are also devout Christians. I also saw this in North Carolina.
ReplyDelete@auntlicky - we already clarified the boy scout jamboree issue earlier.
ReplyDeleteI've known quite a few women who married gay men and didn't find out until a few years later. One of them had 3 children with her husband believe it or not.
ReplyDeleteI have noticed that what these women have in common is that they grew up in really dysfunctional families. Meaning that from a very young age they were taught to deny what they saw taking place right in front of them. Not a huge stretch to see that they could carry this into adulthood and continue not to see what is right in front of their eyes.
@ discoflux - yes, but I could TOTALLY see Michael K lying about his age, especially if it was an obvious lie!
ReplyDeletePete. Wentz.
ReplyDeleteRyan. Cabrera.
Maybe Joe and Billy Ray Cyrus could team up?
Uhh...I mean, like professionally. Managers. Or something.
I hate that anyone would think that being "in the closet" somehow makes that person a liar. Many many people try to live normal lives and fight their sexuality to fit into the social norm, but when they can no longer stand it they come out. That doesn't make their lives a lie, it makes their future easier.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck to Jessica, Ashlee, Joe, and Tina. I hope they find a new normal.
@Himmmm - Now I have "Whoomp There It Is" by Tag Team stuck in my head, because I thought of Pimpa Joe and BRC tag teaming Pete Wentz. THANKS FOR THAT. :P
ReplyDeleteWasn't there a blind not too long ago about a celeb that was trying to keep the knowledge of her parent being gay a secret, but the hubby wanted to spill the beans?? I think a lot of the guess said it was Heidi...
ReplyDeleteI feel for the mom. She is really such a pretty woman but she looks like an unappreciated (not told how beautiful she is, nor devoured -sexually for it)woman in the face. She needs to be worshiped by a man.
ReplyDeleteAnd I didn't mean to sound crass.
Amber - I am not going to thank you for getting that song stuck in my head. *shakes fist in the air*
ReplyDeleteDamn! My parents got married, stayed married and were faithful until the day my dad died. They didn't drink or use drugs. No clue if either of them was gay (can't discount it!) but they never let on so I'm relatively unscathed in that department. Not to be flip at all, but I feel kinda...boring. L
ReplyDeleteAmber you just made me LOL.
ReplyDeleteThat photo is so perfect. It's definitely going to be a bit hard on his family but good on him for finally coming out. Sort of. Is it actually confirmed?
Well, as a person who came out after 20+ years of marriage, I think I have some insight. You have to remember that back in the 70s, there wasn't the openness there was now. People actually didn't realize they were gay or they stuffed it (how many times have you heard that being gay is a "choice"). You also married young. I married at 20 and premarital sex was frowned on at my house. So, when I actually figured out, Oh crap, I'm gay, I was well into the marriage. You can't judge what's happened in the past by what is happening now.
ReplyDeleteI know someone from college who met her ex-husband at the very beginning of her freshman year, they were together all through undergrad and medical school. They got married and were trying to have a baby. She found some messages from other men from chat rooms. He ended up leaving her because he was gay. It really really messed her up, he was the love of her life, no she's trying to pick up the pieces and trying to start dating. The problem is she does not trust anyone because she was so blindsided by her ex-husband. I feel awful for her because she is still so in love with him.
ReplyDeleteJoe said on The Newlyweds to Jessica that him and her mother had been married for 25 years. The first year was great but they have been wanting to divorce each other ever since. At the time we all thought it was just a lil humour about marriage but I always wondered about his relationship to Lane Garrison...who lived in the Simpson's basement.
ReplyDelete@JW, sorry you had to go through that. I honestly can't imagine what that would be like...except to say that ANY time you get married and you realize it's not right, it's a shock and hard to deal with. Without being too personal, how did things work out with you and your spouse?
ReplyDeleteHimmmm, I think one of our smart-pants commenters made that same connection when we first discussed this. And I think there is something to the lane garrison idea as well. And kats and rej, stay strong and know we have your virtual backs
ReplyDeleteI could tell he was gay back when they were all on Newlyweds. I wonder why Jessica didn't clue in.
ReplyDeleteSilly Girl, it actually worked out very well for my ex spouse and I. We have both been respectful with each other. We have been divorced about 10 years and we get along very well. He and his new wife spend Christmas with me and the kids as a family and we celebrate most birthdays together. He has always been very accepting of the people I was dating. His wife is a sweetie. I call her my wife-in-law. She was the one who took me to the hospital at 5:30 am for surgery and sat with me all day in the recovery room. When I thanked her she said, Hey, that's what family does.
ReplyDeleteHimmmm: What Amber said, minus the soundtrack...and now I'm never going to manage to sleep tonight, which I really need because my silly cat kept waking me up at O'God Thirty, and I'm feeling queasy to boot, damn it. Bad Himmmm! No brownie! ;-)
ReplyDeletekatsm: I'm sorry you're having to deal w/all that; even if he's not a pedophile (which odds are he's not), it would still be devastating for your poor mom to have to cope with all this if she found out. Here's hoping that whatever happens works out for the best, and hang in there, OK?
MIchael K has to be around my age, 34ish, especially with all his Jem/She-Ra references...
ReplyDeleteGood for you, @JW, that's awesome! I know someone who is in a similar situation. They all spend holidays etc, together and no one seems uncomfortable or anything. All the grandkids love it, too, because there are so many grandmas!!
ReplyDelete@Amy in MI - I'm 28 and always thought he was around the 30-35 age because of his references! His memory of Jem/She-Ra/Lady Lovely Locks is just slightly better than mine, which I always assumed meant he was very minimally older than I am. I also used to make my mom tape ALL Jem & Lady Lovely Locks episodes of VHS every week. I was that obsessed.
ReplyDelete@Maggie Casey, that was me that was bitching about the men coming out as gay after years of marriage and having children. my ex did that to me. we have 3 kids together and he is a big old "turn or burn...adam & eve not adam & steve", bible thumping hypocrite. i found out when he left his iPhone at home one day and a friend thougt i should poke around because she thought he was having an affair. he was! but not like she thought.
ReplyDeleteBut seriously what else could Jessica say...Oh, yeah I knew for years but just kept it from mom because dad made me pinky swear...lol
ReplyDeleteI grew up with a cheating dad and I saw all kinds of hints(and would tell my mom). I'm sure there were hints all over the place.