Matt Sandusky is one of Jerry Sandusky's six adopted children. he is the first to come forward to say that he was molested by the former Penn State football coach. Matt Sandusky was ready to testify if Jerry Sandusky testified on his own behalf. I wish he would have come forward sooner so that maybe even more charges could have been brought against Jerry Sandusky. I have to admit that I can read very little about the case or the trial because it makes me so sick. I don't understand what it is that makes people want to molest, but I know it is a very dangerous thing to have and I don't think it ever gets better. I don't think there is any form of rehab that works for it at all. Child molesters scare me more than serial killers or just about any other criminal. I don't think there is hope for serial killers either. Pretty much everyone other than those two categories I think can be rehabilitated or at least the possibility of it. One of the boys testified he had been molested over 100 times by Sandusky. 100 times. That is crazy. And to think he was just one boy and that the entire football program and community was just offering up these boys to him.
Sick fuck.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad they didn't make this man testify. It sounds like he had a very troubled childhood --and the defense rested quickly when they heard he had come forward.
ReplyDeleteI hope Jerry goes to a prison where they really hate guys like him.
This guy and Woody Allen were allowed to adopt. Why?
ReplyDeleteLala, and yet gay couples aren't. Fucked, ain't it?
ReplyDeleteBeing from the area, this is all I've heard about since this whole thing went down months ago. Its disgusting and I pray that the jury finds his sick ass guilty.
ReplyDeleteI am also from the area. This man is a horrible human being and I hope the jury renders guilty verdicts on all counts. The victims are so strong and brave to come forward. I am absolutely disgusted the news has interviewed a female Sanduskt supporter and presented this area a pro Sandusky. I want everyone to know that most of the people in this areaa want this man to pay for his evil behavior.
DeleteI was wondering if any of his kids would come foward. This scum just needs to meet his maker. There is nothing else for him.
ReplyDeleteI was molested by a friend's stepfather at her 11 birthday slumber party. I was also 11. The guy kept us awake, telling us 'scary stories', one of which I later found out was the plotline for Flowers in the Attic (yep, he told us a ghost story with detailed info about incest). The fucker waited until we were all asleep and then came downstairs, did his business, then went back up to his room. I fled the house, ran in my nightgown to my grandmothers house, and they called the cops. Found out that I was not the first of his daughter's friends he had done this to. Put him behind bars for what was supposed to be 25-30 years - he served 7. Was pumping gas with my then-6-year-old daughter a few years ago. I looked over to see who the creeper was staring at my daughter - it was him. He was like 3 feet away from her. Had a nervous breakdown. I suffer from severe PTSD because of what that sick fuck did to me. My sex life with my husband will ALWAYS be fucked up because of that sick fuck. I suffer from anxiety, paranoia, and severe self-esteem issues, because of that sick fuck. And yet, that sick fuck gets to go to the movies, attend concerts, stand next to little girls at the gas station, and indulge in whatever online fantasies he so wishes. Our justice system is absolutely flawed when people are serving more time for smoking pot than guys like that sick fuck. The only upside is that every time I had to face him in court, he had been beaten to a bloody pulp by the inmates in county lockup. They really, really hate guys like that. Sorry - Rant finished.
ReplyDeleteEm, take comfort in knowing you did the right thing when you fled this sicko's house. You saved other kids from him. No one can understand unless they have been in your shoes.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for what you had to go thru Em!
ReplyDeletePlease don't apologise Em. It took great courage for you to tell and great courage for you to share. My thoughts are with you.
ReplyDeleteSweet Em, know that you are not alone. So, so sorry. Hugs and peace to you.
ReplyDeleteOh Em, I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. Stay strong - you should be very proud of yourself for what you did.
ReplyDeleteWhen this made headlines last year, it was noted that Sandusky's daughter-in-law went to court to try to prevent her children from sleeping over at Jerry's house. Did anyone not wonder why she felt the need to go to court? This was Matt Sandusky's wife, so clearly people knew something about this particular situation. Maybe he changed his mind about testifying after listening to all the victims.
I haven't spoken to my family in years because I found out my father has quite a bit in common with Jerry and my mother is a lot like Dottie. I went to the police but they couldn't arrest him because his favorite victim, a close relative, moved to a different state and will not testify against him. I long for the day that he draws his last breath.
ReplyDeleteWow Em. I'm very glad you weren't afraid to have a child of your own and it's obvious you care for her as every child deserves. I see you turning your horrific nightmare into awareness and protection of your child. I'm glad you made it through.
ReplyDeleteEm, I'm so sorry to hear you went through that. No child should have to endure both the abuse and the difficult process to justice afterward.
ReplyDeleteIt must have been incredibly difficult for his son to come forward, but hopefully now he can heal.
Pedophiles deserve the death penalty and I'm a pacifist who believes killing anyone except this scum is unethical. But pedophiles never change. What they do is worse than any crime.
ReplyDeleteEm - I'm so sorry you had to endure that as a child, and I'm sure relive it all over again when stories like these arise.
ReplyDelete3 more charges were dropped against Sandusky, so he's down to 48 - still good enough for a few hundred years behind bars. I hope beyond hope that he's put into general population where they'll gut him like a fish in less than 6 hours. Realistically I know he'll be in solitary.
This sick individual truly believes that he helped those children, and that their lives got worse because they stopped seeing him - not because of the damage he caused. He truly believes he was showing them love. Beyond reprehensible.
I spoke to some prison employees today in the area. Their belief is that he will be in general population based on protocal. Whether or not that is the case I don't really know. Regardless, he is going to be a 'trophy' rape for those already incarcerated. I hope he has a prolapsed anus in a month. I know that is disgusting, but so is this pig.
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There is one thing that makes me crazy and that's when children are abused.
ReplyDeleteThe emotional and physical long-term effect on these children makes me very angry, and I wonder if this just starts the cycle again.
I know I would kill someone if they ever laid a hand on my nephews or nieces. I'm always telling the kids not to trust adults because they're adults, not to be afraid to say no to an adult, and never keep secrets with an adult.
Em-very brave of you to share your story.
Now I want to know did he tell his adopted mother ? And did she lie under oath.
ReplyDeleteWhen I hear the word "molested" I don't know why but I only think of touching. Maybe I'm confusing it with "maul". Sandusky ass fucked tiny little kids as they screamed bloddy murder for help that didn't come. And then he fucking ejaculated on them. I'm just going to put it out there, If I'm with a guy and he decides to surprise me and put it "there" before I'm ready it hurts SO bad that once I literally saw stars and passed out. When you relax you're ok but oh my god I can't even tell you the pain and the possible tearing and bleeding. To a little child who just wants to play with his toy cars or watch Spongebob and then gets so excited when he asks and mom lets him have ice cream after dinner. Evil Evil fuck.
ReplyDeleteFirst I am soooo sorry that happened to you Em. You are a very strong woman and have amazing courage to come forward.
ReplyDeleteSecond all these sick fucks need to get the most horrific terrible painful deaths! There is nothing that makes me more angry than hurting a child.
I think we should take note of just how God-damned UGLY this asshole is, too. Ugh!
ReplyDeleteNot a rant Em...thanks for sharing your story so people can understand the repercussions of sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that happened to you. *hugs*
Em-you are brave Brave BRAVE! I don't even have the guts to tell my story as an adult anonymously on the internet never mind as a child in court. Some of us don't feel we can ever tell.
ReplyDeleteI live close to this area and let me tell you there is very little support for Pervy Uncle Jerry, as we like to call him. Its no shock that Matt has come forward with allegations. There have been rumors for months now about it.
I'll tell you what-I would love to see Sandusky get off scott free, walk straight outside those courtroom doors. And right into the arms of the waiting lynch mob. Believe me Real Justice would be done in about 60 seconds. A cell is too good for this animal.
Thanks for sharing Em. You are a strong woman. I'm glad you have a understanding husband and a lovely daughter.
ReplyDeleteHis wife had to know. She chose to ignore it and I wish they could prosecute her for failing to do anything to stop the abuse.
He will be passed around the Prison like a frisbee at a picnic. Any one who knew that he was doing this in the Penn organization should be tried as an accessory.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, we need a vigilante hero. Our justice system keeps failing us. I'm so sorry Em. There is no word bad enough to describe a child molester.
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ReplyDeleteI hope they put this guy away forever. I can't imagine that they wouldn't with several victims testifying. however, if they don't get him this time, they can bring charges based on the adopted son's accusations I hope.
ReplyDeletevery sorry for all of the victims who've posted today.
Ditto re vigilante. Where is our real life Dexter?
ReplyDeleteMoosefan (I'm probably gonna get flamed for saying this but) you what really gives me the red ass about this whole debacle? There may not be support for JS but people are still saying Joe Paterno did all he could. NO! Doing all you could would be picking up the phone, calling the police. Not just leaving it up to Campus Security. When will people get that this is a Major cover up? It was about protecting a football team for gods sake! Nobody wanted to rock the boat. They knew it would be a shit storm. That's why JS was pushed to retire. Sorry for the rant everybody.
ReplyDelete@AuntJess - preach it, sister! This horror story was swept under the rug to protect JoePa and his empire. They ALL need to go down as accessories to child rape.
DeleteSo sorry you had to go through that Em! Big hugs.
ReplyDeleteHis attorney didn't even put on a defense; just went through the motions briefly. I'm pretty sure JS will die in prison.
ReplyDeleteI agree with those who fault Penn State as being equally culpable. Sandusky was only half the problem, and is being made the scapegoat for others who knew, so it's STILL business as usual. Morality is dead.
Much love to all the victims who posted today.
All pedophiles and molesters should be killed, they can never, ever be rehabilitated. They think they have done no wrong and their innocent victims pay every day for the rest of their life. Prison Justice is not enough~ kill them all.
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ReplyDeleteEm & Tempestuous Grape - I'm so sorry for what you've endured. Thank you for having the courage to share with us, and with others.
ReplyDeleteI'm a pretty laid-back pacifist, and I'm always the one who says that the death penalty is a morally repugnant option for justice. For this guy though? Zero fucks given. I hope they throw him in general population. The guards would be taking bets as to how long he'd live rather than protecting him, and he fucking deserves it. He deserves to hurt, to be hurt, and anything else that's coming his way. When it comes to someone who gets his jollies by raping little boys, no punishment is too much. I hope this scumbag dies miserably and alone, and then burns for what he did.
"...the entire football program and community was just offering up these boys to him."
ReplyDeleteEnty, I'm a longtime fan, but you really need to retract this statement. I live right here in State College, and I can assure you that the overwhelming community opinion is that this perv is guilty and deserves the worst possible punishment that the law allows (and we wish they could grant an exception to the "cruel and unusual" part!). For you to make such a sweeping accusation and throw an entire community into the boiling pot is irresponsible and unfair to the thousands of folks here who had nothing to do with this atrocity. If indeed some university officials knew and covered up knowledge of Scumdusky's actions, then they too should and will be charged. The multiple ongoing investigations will get to the truth about who knew what and when. I am hoping that you just wrote that out of anger and frustration without really thinking it through. Please re-read and re-think that last sentence in what is otherwise an excellent and accurate post, and retract or rephrase it, please.
Awwwww, Em and T Grape.....wish I could come and give you both a huge loving and supporting hug each. You are survivors so don’t lose sight of that. You have both been so brave and humanity owes you both for having the courage to step forward and put an end to your suffering and helped prevent other victims from being abused. Paedophiles totally believe that their ‘love’ for children is no different from a man’s love for a woman. Hanging is too good for them.......but it pees me off that they have a free comfortable cell and three meals a day.....when the rest of us have to work for everything we have. I’d like to see how these men would cope if their cell was infiltrated by a gang of hormonal, furious housewives with knives!
ReplyDelete@ Em I hope that you have made peace with your situation.
ReplyDeleteAs for Mr. Sandusky, I am certain the inmates will await you with open arms in the prison showers.
A few things:
ReplyDelete1.) Em, thank you for your courage and for sharing your story.
2.) No doubt his wife knew what was happening. My husbands grandmother was regularly molested by her father and her step mother knew it. She never stopped the abuse, not once. This is a despicable breed of woman. Where was her motherly instinct to protect a child? The one abuse victim claimed he screamed and no one helped him. How didn't she hear this?
3.) We really do need a Dexter type vigilante to wipe these predators out. There is no rehabilitation. No hope that they will not molest again. Whats the point of putting them in prison?
4.) Jerry Sandusky will never go to jail. This supreme coward will kill himself before he gets put in a cage with dangerous men who don't like his kind. I guarantee that.
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ReplyDelete@Just Browsing, you have a very valid point. I speed read a lot of these in between doing other things and missed that. Throwing the whole community into the mix is well beyond unnecessarily and unfairly inflammatory.
ReplyDeleteJust browsing- I thought that last line was pretty shitty too. While there are a few people that should be smacked for what they did (or more accurately, did not do), it seems that they majority of people believed that he was a good man that was really helping.
ReplyDeleteThe top of the "what the hell were you thinking??" list - wife, penn state officials and the Mccready fellow. That Mccready really irritates me - he saw something awful and instead of taking immediate action, he went home to daddy and cried??? That makes no sense to me.
Thank you billybob & Cara...I appreciate the kind words. :)
ReplyDeleteI deleted my comment because I felt very uncomfortable the moments following. The anxiety was just too much for me today.
That's your right to do so grape. Sending good vibes your way. Take comfort in knowing we're all here for you and respect you snd your story :-)
DeleteWow, you guys. I honestly didn't realize I needed to get that off my chest as bad as I did, and I'm not trying to be sappy, but all the kind words mean A LOT. As someone pointed out, this Sandusky thing has really, really brought up a lot of angst and memories. I was sickened and pissed about the situation to begin with, but then the trial has absolutely left me reeling, knowing what these men taking the stand are going through. To sit in a room, with essentially an audience, and be forced to explain in painful detail how someone mortified and humiliated you, body and mind, while that person's hired thug verbally eviscerates you is an experience that I could never explain quite right. It rips you to shreds. These guys, I'm telling you, no matter how old they are or how long it's been, are going through some crazy tough shit right now, and I love every single one of them and hope they come out the other side not too terribly scathed. They have my utmost respect and so do the rest of you ; )
ReplyDeleteThe man (a stranger to me) who broke into my house and raped me at gunpoint and beat the living shit out of my face is finally facing trial, after DNA linked him. I'm due to testify next month and I'm TERRIFIED of what.you just described. :(
DeleteHugs to you Em...I'm working through my intimacy ssues as well with my husband. Our childhood shapes who we become and it's hopefully not going to be a lifelong struggle for any of us. The best comfort I can offer is that the cycle will certainly be broken with our children. We can learn from our experiences and be sure of that. But it should've never had to have happened in the first place, to any of us.
ReplyDelete@yawn - I so hear what you're saying. It will be worth the struggle to raise kids free of those demons.
DeleteT grape, I get you completely. I can't even say the words "I am a sexual abuse survivor" out loud. Its too real. Actually that's the 1st time I've ever typed it. And I don't think I could do even that if it wasn't for everyone here being so supportive and positive.
ReplyDeleteThe verdict should be read today. Lets all hope that justice is served. It'll be a huge win for all the abused kids. Hopefully it will give other people the strength to come forward.
ReplyDeleteSending all the survivors here much, MUCH love and supportive hugs. Your strength amazes me.
ReplyDeleteHe will probably be put in solitary because of how high profile this case is.
ReplyDeleteAnd I am so sorry for those of you that have gone through all this.
My parents raised me not going to sleep overs, not going to friends' houses, basically, it was just house to school. And we never went over to our cousins houses because usually my aunts and uncles would have a friend of theirs living there.
My mom was raped by her half brother on her way here to the US. She couldn't do anything about it because he would just leave her in Mexico, where she knew no one. She told me that she would get headaches and he would give her birth control pills and tell her they were headache pills.
She told her aunt once they got to US land. Boy, did he get a beating. She was the 'rich' aunt. The only reason he wasn't blacklisted from the family was because my mom told him to never come near her again. I understand why my parents never trusted anyone with us children.
I think he died soon after. I'm not sure though. We don't speak of it. We do think however, that before my mom, there were other family member victims of him.
First of all, big hugs to Em & T Grape. And fellow State Collegian Aunt Jess - about that lynching - I'll run to Lowe's and buy the rope! Ashlea, you are mistaken about Scumdusky committing suicide rather than going to jail. The judge has already stated that if convicted on any one of the counts, JS will be immediately taken into custody, notwithstanding any appeal. Amanda, I'm not sure about him being in the general population cells. He would probably be placed on suicide watch and therefore in solitary. I hope that there is a group shower in hell waiting for him.
ReplyDeleteFirst off, Em, tam, and Grape, my heart goes out to you for the abuse you've suffered. Stay strong!
ReplyDeleteJust Browsing - With all due respect, you have to realize something. The rest of the country saw the "demonstration" at Penn State the night Paterno was relieved of his duties, and we saw a passionate community who didn't give a squat about the victims. The more details that came out, the more it appeared that the coverup spread far and wide throughout the football program, the university administration, the board of directors of Sandusky's "charity" (namely, a JUDGE who didn't make him post bail), law enforcement, and there were even whispers that a coverup went all the way up to Pennsylvania state government. The opinion of much of the country is that the precious college football program at PSU and Paterno ruled supreme and that the rest of the community was circling the wagons, making sure nothing would touch it. I realize it's unfair to you as an individual, but to the rest of us, it looks like the entire community complicity endorsed all this by its silence and/or participation in the decades-long coverup.
I always tell religious folks this when one of their own commits a heinous crime in the name of their particular god... that person is speaking for you unless you speak up as a group and make your voices
known that you don't endorse this behavior.
To the rest of the country, your community has been silent on this matter. And I promise you, unless the jury comes back guilty on every single count, the vast majority will continue to feel that way.
Personally, I am disappointed the Big 10 and the NCAA didn't suspend Penn State from their respectively organizations. The breadth and depth of Sandusky's - and PCU'S - crimes would certainly justify such a punishment.
@Little Smoke - love the point you made about religion - ITA.
Delete"All pedophiles and molesters should be killed, they can never, ever be rehabilitated. They think they have done no wrong and their innocent victims pay every day for the rest of their life. Prison Justice is not enough~ kill them all."
ReplyDeleteA very, very small number CAN be rehabilitated with meds that kill the sex drive and INTENSE therapy. I'm going to get flamed for this, but I'm a social worker, so I feel urged to educate here and share my own views. So...
Many of these people were victims themselves. Does that excuse their acts, especially since they know the pain that comes from being a victim? Absolutely not. But it reinforces that what we learn, we do. Granted, some sex offenders were NOT abused themselves. That's absolutely true as well. But many have been. They are ALL sick, no matter why and no doubt about it WHATSOEVER, but many DO have remorse. Many DO know that they've done wrong. Many have this sick, dangerous compulsion, and they DO want help to squash it. Those of us working in social services HAVE seen it.
The majority of sex offenders, like those with, say, Cluster-B personality disorders, will NEVER change. You ARE correct about that. No meds, no therapy...nothing can make them productive, healthy members of society. Their brain chemistry, for one, is "not right," to make it simple. But those of us who are social workers have to live by the Code of Ethics that tells us that they still have to be afforded human dignity, and to me, that completely bars the death penalty, for one. Just saying "kill 'em all"? Far too black-and-white.
And I am sorry for all who have been affected by sex offenders. Truly it is insidious, to put it mildly.
Seriously - all of you survivors - major hugs and love. I'm fairly new to this site, but I LOVE it and everyone who comments - you're all so witty and brainy; I feel I'm among snarky, awesome friends. It's so easy to sit at a computer, reading people's typed words, and forget that we're all actual humans with real life experiences, both amazingly good and horribly sad. I can't say enough wonderful things about those that chose to share a bit of their lives with us today - I speak from experience (although different than yours) when I say I know how hard it is to open up and share past horrors, and you're all amazing and loved and supported.
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You guys are so brave to speak of this. I was molested twice, by two different people. Then, offered around by my ex husband at his whim. Sometimes it seems like I've been a victim of sexual assault my whole life. I've never admitted that before. And I hate the word "victim". I have two girls and I am ever-vigilant that they don't suffer the same indignities I did. I don't date and I won't get married until they're out of the house.
ReplyDeleteThis bastard... there are no words. And all those that enabled him to carry on... there is a special place for them, too.
AKM - I hope you won't get flamed, genuinely, but I can't have that kind of compassion for them. To me, as an adult standing back and looking at my own situation, as well as many others', this isn't as simple as a "sickness". This doesn't deserve that kind of generalized, glossed-over term. They are a THREAT and DANGER to the human beings around them. But it doesn't just stop there. No, they're worse than your average THREAT and DANGER, because they target children. You know, those little people who are not only physically incapable of fighting off their abuser, but also frequently mentally unable to do so as well. Compassion is important, and I'm very glad that you have so much in your heart, but I can't help but feel sorry that some of that is being wasted on child abusers.
ReplyDelete@Little Miss, I think there may be a crossed wire in the terminology. There's the Penn State campus community, and then there's the College Township community surrounding Penn State. It was mostly Penn State students who demonstrated in support of Paterno, but even among them the majority of students didn't, and they criticized those who did.
ReplyDeleteCara call the Whambulance for me too lol I love all you guys.
ReplyDeleteJesse D we are all survivors. I sometimes think those of us who've lived thru the abuse have an invisible tattoo that only other abusers can detect. Stay strong. You're raising your girls right. Teaching them, loving them, protecting them and each other. That's all we can do.
Just Browsing Here take my ATM card ropes on me. So I wonder how many of the jurors tried to get on the panel just so they could make sure this beast gets what he deserves.
AKM-again kudos for your compassion and your professionalism. I'm glad there are people like you out there. But to me they are all animals that should be put down.
@Em Cue Em - Thank you for being respectful and fair. I didn't technically say I DID have compassion for sex offenders, actually. The ones who have been victims/survivors in their own rights? Yeah, I suppose I have a bit for them.
ReplyDeleteIt's just that as a social worker, we STILL have to work with them, if our jobs entail it. And we can loathe what they've done, and want to lodge a dagger straight into their eyeballs as we sit across a table from them, but we STILL have to have that professional front. It can be VERY hard. Believe me.
And the death penalty versus life incarceration...as my favorite professor pointed out -- although I was already anti-death penalty, so it didn't sway me -- "If we kill off these people, how can we talk to them and even attempt to figure out the "whys" here? The reasons, the psychology, the biology...all of that is untapped and GONE if they're dead." Something to think about, no matter what side of the issue you're on.
I don't want to sound trivial but does anyone know what Tea Leoni has to do with the trial? She's been in the court room apparently and reporters were tweeting about that.
ReplyDeleteI have 2 boys, now 18 and 12 and they both were never allowed to spend the night anywhere expect on a very rare occasion their grandparents house. They also were never allowed to go to a friends house or have friends that weren't cousins over to our house. When my oldest turned 16 I started allowing him to have his 2 good friends come over/spend the night/and he could go to their house and spend the night too. Too many sick fucks out there, I never wanted to risk when they were young (up until high school) something happening to them that would scar them FOREVER. Molesters make my blood boil and I know there is a special place in hell for those SICK SICK people.
ReplyDeleteBrave survivors, thank you for sharing your stories. It takes courage. Sending you love and peace.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the poster who said JS should be released to the general public. I would love to see him get a beat-down as soon as he leaves the courthouse.
To all of you survivors, thank you for being so brave and sharing. Sending hugs and sweet thoughts your way!
ReplyDeleteIf only a victim's father had walked in on him and been able to use deadly force to stop him like the case in Texas. But this monster chose boys who didn't have fathers or boys whose father was him. He can never walk free again, and he will be the recipient of endless unwanted shower sex in prison.
ReplyDeleteI'm not so sure this headline is a good idea.
ReplyDeleteSandusky's adopted son told the Grand Jury in this case that he was never molested by Jerry.
To those of you who have spoken up, you are braver and stronger than you will ever know and I hope you find peace. While I have never been in the above kind of situation, when I was 16 I went on a double date with my bestfriends and her boyfriend with one of his very good friends. I went to the bathroom at his house and he followed me in and was waiting on me. You can imagine what happened next. My bestfriends and her boyfriend heard me screaming and he actually had to break the door. I was so ashamed and embarrassed I refused to tell anyone. The only people who know about it are those who were there. My husband whom I have been with for 13 years doesn't even know. I lived in a small town and would run into him often as we had other mutual friends. But he never associated with my BFF or her bf again. They refused and stuck by me. We never spoke of it except for her boyfriend apologizing cause he felt responsible. He swore he would never let that type of thing happen to me again. And to his credit he never did, he would walk with me to bathrooms and things like that at parties or where there were guys at. For a long time I felt guilty I never told an adult. I feel like I'm bouncing around explaining this so I'm going to stop. Point I'm trying to make is I envy those of you who were able to talk about it and confront it head on. I wish I had an ounce of your backbone and wish you all the best in life.
ReplyDeleteOn a diffrent note, my husband works in law enforcement and I can tell you without a doubt if he gets put in general pop he will get what he deserves. Those who abuse children and the elderly are searched out. And in prison depending on the type(there are those that are on permanent lockdown therefore the inmates don't interact as much and there are those like a standard jail where they roam on their block till lights out) he won't make it long. Inmates are very creative and resourceful.
Big hugs to all you brave survivors!
ReplyDeleteI sometimes wish I had told, but I'm also very sure my dad would have been in jail for killing his brother.
I wish you all peace and contentment.
Assuming he is convicted, I'm sure the inmates will welcome him properly and assure him that they love him and are just making sure he
knows they are helping him fit in.
Those who abuse children and animals are the lowest of the low, in my opinion. They do not belong in society. They need to be locked away forever.
ReplyDeleteMost psychiatrists and neurobiologists will tell you that pedophiles can never be rehabilitated. If they do it once, they will do it again. Chemical castration doesn't work, because it doesn't remove the urge to commit violence. No amount of therapy or medication can stop them.
those vic's who came forward are true hero's in my book.
ReplyDeletebut be warned, this is PA we're talking about so do not be surprise if this sicko walks.
just saying
"If we kill off these people, how can we talk to them and even attempt to figure out the "whys" here? The reasons, the psychology, the biology...all of that is untapped and GONE if they're dead."
ReplyDeleteAKM, in college, I studied constitutional law ridiculously extensively for a non-lawyer, and that is precisely what occurred to me during our death penalty semester. As you say, many sex offenders can't be made better with therapy or the meds we have now, so studying every single thing about how their brains work seems to me like it would be the only way to figure out how to stop the endless cycles of abuse.
I, too, am grateful that there are people like you in the world.
God, how I hope he doesn't walk. Anything can happen with a jury. I hope the prosecution slammed an iron door down on any possible doubts.
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/06/05/the-sandusky-sexual-abuse-case-s-biggest-mysteries.html
ReplyDeleteOk - I believe the adopted son that he was abused by Jerry, but the only thing I hope is that people don't suddenly start coming out of the wood work with hopes of cashing in on this like all those women chasing after Tiger Woods.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sick and horrible man, I hope he every second he spends behind that jail cell is torture to him.
Hugs to everyone who has shared their stories today! Stand strong, all of you! Whoever said what they did about the "invisible tattoo" I think is right. I've got mine as well, along with far too many others out there. I was nearly molested as a kid (babysitters husband got creepy so I gtfo of there) and was raped twice as a teen, and it does stay with you for life. You can get beyond it, buts its always there in the past. Positive energy and good vibes to you all, and thank you for being such a supportive group! I've never shared my story beyond my bf and close family but you all inspired me to chime in also.
ReplyDeleteFinally, may Sandusky burn in hell for the harm and atrocities he has caused in his life. His wife should burn too, and all those who helped cover up.
*hugs* to all of the survivors out there--I'm not one myself, but I know far too many people who are, including people very close to me.
ReplyDeletePlease, God, let the verdicts all come back GUILTY!
I can't read these stories either b/c it's too sick and should never happen anywhere at any time but unfortunately that is not our reality in this world especially when the punishment never fits the severity of the crime. However, I have always wondered if they adopted children so that he could molest them, and of course his wife knew and maybe even chose not to have biological kids because of it. There is no fucking way she didn't know after so many years of it taking place in her house. Molested children have a sadness about them and even if these children came from broken homes or bad neighborhoods or whereever the fuck this organization was plucking these kids from, you would have seen an instant change in the child's demeanor. If you constantly see these kids with the same face and they're all getting it at your house, you know your sicko husband is doing something wrong. Besides, didn't they travel with these kids around the country and stay in the same hotel room? This bitch definitely knew and she needs to be tried as an accessory!
ReplyDeleteThere is so much sexual abuse in this world from young children to the elderly and everyone in between and it continues b/c these sick fucks manage to intimidate their victims into silence and society isn't particularly supportive especially if the accusations are made against someone in good standing in the community, has lots of money or is worshipped in the entertainment and sports industries. Sexual abuse is about power, not sex so all those external other factors and typical excuses made by the public don't play. These assholes are sick in the head and there is no fixing them or excusing such vile and violent behavior!
Have to say that I don't see this ending well. I lived in PA most of my life (not now) and pedophiles rarely get handled well. Knew a family where the grandfather had been raping and molesting the 3 year old child. The mother of the daughter and the grandmother begged the judge not to put him in prison because of his age. He received probation. Another man was raping his disabled daughter since she was a child. When she spoke up, she was over 20. Most counts were dropped by the DA and he was sentenced to 5 years in prison. He served 2 or 3 with parole then moved back in with his wife (who had begged the judge for mercy on her husband) and his daughter had to move out and live with her grandmother. Just 2 little stories from my area, and there are a lot more. Oh, and even the media is biased. Read a random rape or molestation story in the paper (if they cover it) and it's constantly referred to as 'sexualmuch relations' or something a long those lines. Never rape or molestation and they ALWAYS name the victims when possible, and rarely call them a victim.
ReplyDeleteI don't care if Enty said that the community served up those boys because I believe it's true. Maybe not knowingly, but they did. There are a few who are surprised and disgusted, those who didn't know the people involved, but PA is just one fucked up state all around and so are a lot of its residents.
Sexual relations* using a phone to write this and for whatever reason it thought sexualmuch was a word.
DeleteThinking of you Em, Grape and others. I consider you all friends and do care about you. You have my email if you wish to talk anytime. Em. Don't be a stranger.
ReplyDeleteTo those who survived Bless You! May you know that here you can tell us anything and we won't judge you.
ReplyDeleteI live in Pa and this man is considered a vile SOB. I will also say that the laws are a crap shoot. He could get thirty years and only have to serve 5 for good behavior. ---ughh Hello Lady Justice there are no children in jail. Of course he'll be "GOOD".
Personally I say we send them all to a supermax prison for life. By Life I mean until they are DEAD. I'd like to string all the SOB's up like pinatas and let their victims have at 'em but that's just my dream of justice for survivors.
Juicy, Bless you. I wishing you all the best on the trial and in life. I hope the bastard rots in jail.
ReplyDeleteI'm fairly new here but just wanted to say that im so sorry to read what some of you have gone through. I wish we could wave a magic wand and fix it all. Its just not fair what happened to you all. Em, you are so damn brave for doing what you did at such a young age. I don't know what I would have done. I think I would have been frozen with fear.
ReplyDeleteAnd Sandusky, what really pisses me off is that in every photo I see of him going to court he has this shit eating grin on his face. WTF?
To those of you who bravely shared your stories here, thank you. I can't imagine that was easy. Big hugs.
ReplyDeleteAnd Megerz - I know exactly what you mean by that grin - sometimes I wonder if he even grasps the gravity of the situation.
@juicy
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to say good luck and I'm so sorry you had and have to go through all this.
Hugs to you.
Aw man. I am so sorry to hear the awful stories here today. I wish I had something helpful to say - I'll just say that I am thinking of all of you.
ReplyDelete@Twriggy - I KNOW (sadly) that what you say is true. My hope, that this case will shed the spotlight on how cases of this sort are handled in PA. As I was told directly by a vic witness court employee, "it's been found jury's in PA do not come back with guilty verdicts for white men in child sex cases in PA."
ReplyDeleteAnd, I've written two A research paper's on the subject. It's is a very deep seated problem. ANd the thing is, the low level people like the cops, children and youth...they ALL do their job, it's the judges who fail us.
excuse my grammar above. This is a very touchy subject for me, (just check out every post on my blog) and I am in fear already that I've said far too much on here about my markings (tattoo's), etc and the people involved who are allowing this filth to persist are VERY high ranking people. Which is terrifying.
ReplyDeleteGodbless
@juicy My heart goes out to you for what you've suffered. You are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteThere's a verdict!!!
ReplyDeleteThe judge said the verdict can't be released (to the public) until the courtroom has cleared. He said he will hold any reporter or news organization in contempt.
Turn your TV to CNN.
Guilty on 45 of 48 counts!
ReplyDeleteI hope this can bring some sense of closure to his victims and that this encourages more people to come forward to name their abusers.
ReplyDelete@Em Cue Em You are a miracle. Thanks for posting that.
ReplyDeleteThank God.
ReplyDeleteJuicy, I hope you have good people around you to hold your hand through this. Good luck!
Victims of abuse don't typically feel that they are worthy of love and support. But we are. Em, T-Grape, Aunt Jess, you are worthy of being loved, protected and receiving of those who truly care for you. I thank the stars repeatedly for my best friend and also my husband for being there when I talk about the abuse(not sexual) that I dealt with. I can't even imagine what you have been through, but KNOW you have my respect in every sense of the word and each time you stand up for yourself, your children or those around you, KNOW again, that the scumbag who did what they did has no power over you and that you are so important and precious to those who know you and don't know you. YOU are all awesome!
ReplyDeleteSo much to say....Bobbi I'm so glad you escaped that experience and were strong enough to scream and fight. Hugs to you girl.
ReplyDeleteJuicy You are strong and brave. You're a fighter. You have to be just to live through that horrific night. No one can take that from you. Not some piece of shit night crawler or a sleeze defense attorney.
There are no winners in this Sandusky case. Just people trying to put their lives back together. Damage has still been done and we, as a society, will not rest until the people that harbored this monster are in the cell next to him. I'm looking at you Tim Curley and Gary Schultz!
Not to be too sappy but when I was going through my roughest time I would listen to a song by one of my favorite bands. Wounded-Third Eye Blind (I was a teen in the '90's leave me alone)It made me feel like I could be a part of something again. That I was whole and not some half used tissue. I healed and became strong again.
"Lemme break it down till i force the issue
you never come around and you know we miss you
well nobody took your pride away
i said," thats something people say.
Back down the bully to the back of the bus,
cause its time for them to be scared of us"
I think I was some sort of a magnet for abuse. I can't even begin to talk about the number of times it happened to me as a child. What the fuck was wrong with me? When I was 4, I opened the door to a delivery guy who just refused to hand over the food. Said I had to turn around and sit on his hand, and I did. I still cannot stop beating myself up for being that stupid. I never told anyone.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 10, I was molested by a tutor who unbuttoned my shirt to see if my breasts had grown yet. I was so terrified, I didn't know how to say no. A couple of months later, I was fondled by my piano teacher. These two, I told me parents about, and they were livid. And finally, when I was 14, my dad's brother tried to get me to watch porn with him and attempted to kiss me. Thankfully, I'd finally learned how to say no...
Lay it for me straight, people.... was I just a stupid child? What the fuck was wrong with me?
Honey you were a sweet innocent baby! Nothing you did "made" it happen. These sick fucks hone in on a child's vulnerability. You lived! Embrace that! You are educating-just by posting-and someone else will be saved! They will say to themselves--hey I'm confused. This person shed some light on what I feel.
ReplyDeleteShare, educate and support each other.
@Honey, you did absolutely nothing wrong! You were a child. Adults should protect children , not harm them. It was ALL their fault and nothing that you did.
ReplyDeleteOh, honey, you were just a little girl, NOTHING you did warranted the abuse you received. You, like Em, TGrape and the rest of you strong readers, are so brave for sharing your story. I keep peace and healing thoughts for all of you
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ReplyDeleteMuch love to all those brave enough to share their stories. Couldn't do it. Meltdown.
ReplyDeleteI will just reiterate people like this are NOT HUMAN. They deserve to be eradicated from the human race in the most painful and horrific way possible because they are nothing but animals - worse than animals - and will never stop.
Rape culture and toxic patriarchal institutions (organized sports).
ReplyDeleteAs a survivor of multiple rapes (more than 10 is all I can say), this whole thing has made me sick, for many reasons. I already have PTSD, and this shit has triggered me constantly since it broke in the news.
Seeing as the vast majority of pedocriminals are male and the vast majority of victims are female,
http://www.cpiu.us/statistics-2/
this case made me wonder: if the victims had been female, would they have been believed? How differently would this have played out?
It seems to me that rape is only REALLY horrible and only taken TRULY seriously if it happens to boys and men.
Women? Well, that's what it is to be female in a misogynist, violent rape culture. We exist to be used and abused by men. And, I should STFU and never, ever complain about it.
Lastly, this MONSTER should be canceled.
Honey Clover, there IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
ReplyDeleteIt's (most) men that are fucking shit.
You guys are incredibly brave and I'm in awe of you
ReplyDeleteEverything that @ Megerz said. I am not sure exactly what to say to all the victims that read here and elsewhere but that I am truly so sorry and heartbroken for you all and what you went through.
ReplyDeleteSlightly OT, but I only just discovered who Sara Ganim is after reading an article about her role in all this. The cover up, not just by school officials, but others in this community is staggering.