Over the weekend, Taylor Armstrong got hammered at the birthday party of 4 year old Portia Richards. It got me to wondering whether you think it is appropriate to have alcohol at party for kids, and to get drunk at a kid's party.
In the predominantly Hispanic world I'm from, it's expected, necessary (word, MBk), and fun! Of course, don't get tanked, and have lots of Capri Suns and Jarritos for the kids. Just thinking about it makes me want to go get a piƱata and rent a jumpy castle.
The kids shouldn't have access to the booze, and there should be enough sober adults to supervise the kids, and drive them home. The woman who plans the party is in her own home and doesn't have to drive, for putting up with all this, she can get hammered.
If you're going to make adults show up for small children's parties, the least you can do is provide alcohol. But don't get rip-roaring drunk, have some dignity.
But like Seaward asked, why is everything involving Real Housewives?
Yes and yes. No one wants to be there. They just show up to support the parents and maybe pinch the kid's cheeks. I'm not really sure about this situation since it is for reality tv, but in real life, I think it's okay to serve alcohol at a child's birthday party as long there are designated drivers. I would never want a parent to drive drunk with a child in the car, or ever for that matter.
i don't drink, so little different perspective. i don't think its ever appropriate to be drunk. wouldnt bother me if booze was offered, if it was a bbq w/ mostly adults (kids 3 & under) i'd probably have beer & wine.
Serve one type of alcohol and limit how much is available. I know it sucks but it sucks even worse to have an adult ruin a child's birthday b/c of their drunk antics or to send a very intoxicated parent home with a child in the backseat. Limit your guest list as well. If you know people who have a known problem with alcohol or a low tolerance as well as an inability to say no, leave them off the guest list. Hell, I leave these people off the guest list when I have grown up parties. Leave the drama at the door or you don't come in.
I think it is perfectly alright to serve alcohol to the grown ups at a kids party, but as a guest (or host for that matter) it's not OK to get hammered. Embarrassing. It's also probably a good idea to have a designated sober person, in case there is a need for driving or something like that.
First, I am so tired of all the Real Housewives posts. I've never seen any of these shows, and I don't know who any of these women are. Nor do I ever want to know who they are.
Now as to the question about alcohol, I don't think it should be served if you know that some of the adults who will be there can't handle it. I know kid's parties are boring for adults, but a kid's party should be about the kids, not the adults. It isn't going to kill anyone to go a few hours without drinking. Of course this is coming from someone who goes several months between drinks so maybe I'm the wrong person to have an opinion on this topic.
I don't think I would serve alcohol at a kids party because sometimes adults get out of hand and the last thing I would want to do is explain to a kid why mommy smells "funny". Plus, that happened to me at my 5th birthday and a drunk neighbour popped all my balloons.
Family story - my sister was about 4 and mentioned at her birthday party that she always wanted an upside-down cake. My grandmother was a few sheets to the wind and promptly turned her layer cake into an upside-down cake.
This is a funny anecdote but I think anyone who gets hammered at a little kids' party is an attention whore.
My sister always had birthday parties at late afternoon/night because it was just family and friends. If we got hammered, we slept it off somewhere in the house. No one ever got embarrassingly hammered, though. Poor Kennedy.
Enty is trying to expand the demographic, and why not. Lots of chicks and gays in that demo. And if you don't know who Taylor Armstrong is then you have missed a drama worthy of Dostoevsky.
As for drinky at the party, what MbK said. I mean mBk. I mean MBk. Hic.
I don't think it is ever appropriate to be "hammered" in front of small children in a setting such as this. For whatever reason I picture Taylor as a fall down, sloppy drunk. That being said, I think it is fine to serve some alcohol at a kids birthday party. Why do you think they sell beer and wine at chuck e. cheese?
I've been to kids' birthday parties where the hosting couple doesn't drink, but they provided beer and wine for their guests. It should be obvious that you don't get hammered, but you can't control what people do.
My BF & I have discussed whether or not it's okay to drink in front of our future kids, and we still can't decide. Never be drunk, but could of a glass of wine at dinner show a healthy relationship with alcohol & set an example for when they do almost inevitably decide to experiment?
I'm sorry, but I just don't find it appropriate to drink when you're with kids. Maybe one or two drinks, but someone is not going to know when to stop, and then you have childhood traumas like all your balloons being popped, or Grandma turning the cake upside down. Plus, aren't they going to be driving the kids back home after the party?
I guess I have a prudish outlook on drinking because I'm not fond of being drunk, and very seldom drink.
I don't think having booze a ta kid's party is a big deal. Responsible adults will only have one or two within a decent time frame. A responsible host will also work to ensure that their guests aren't getting plastered, too.
This was a case of irresponsibility in general on the part of all adults involved.
Why is it assumed that everyone is going to get drunk and drive?
Seriously, if I have to go to a kid's birthday party, you'd better give me a glass of wine. I'm not going to get drunk and if I'm driving, I'm not drinking. But good God, give me something while I'm listening to mothers drone on and on about whatever shit they talk about.
My husband and I have cabbed it to his parents place for Christmas dinner because we need to drink to survive that evening.
The weird thing is that Kyle said on a past season that she doesn't think it's appropriate to have alcohol at a kid's party. I wonder what happened - do you think Taylor walks around with a flask in her purse? Wouldn't be surprised...
I used to drink after my daughter's B-Day parties with the other moms. After hosting a kiddie party, you sort of need one, or ten. During? Kinda tacky.
OMG. I love how passionate the responses are to this question.
I have no problem at all having a drinky-poo at a kids' party. It helps dull the screeching, crying, whining and sounds of Elmo piercing my brain. Plus, it helps with answering the barrage of questions you get regarding your non-existent second child who is not on the way. Oh wait. Maybe that's just me.
I really don't see how having a glass of wine or two is going to scar the childrens of the world.
I am astonished at the number if people who "need" a drink to get thru a kids party!! And other events!! Also, when i think of kids party, i am thinking of the 1 to 4 deal with just under 10year olds, which is fiff from a backyard barbie where u also happen to be celebrating child's birthday. Totally diff vibe, and i wld offer beer. But needing a drink to sit theu kids party? U got problems, my friends.
When did it become normal for adults to hang out at a kid's party? When I was young, the only adults were the birthday child's mother and anyone there for entertainment - clown, magician, pony handlers, etc.
Why does everything lately have to be about Real Housewives?
ReplyDeleteas long as you don't finish drunk or the kids don't drink,where is the problem?
ReplyDeleteAppropriate? I think it's necessary!
ReplyDeleteAmen MBk.
ReplyDeleteIn the predominantly Hispanic world I'm from, it's expected, necessary (word, MBk), and fun! Of course, don't get tanked, and have lots of Capri Suns and Jarritos for the kids. Just thinking about it makes me want to go get a piƱata and rent a jumpy castle.
ReplyDeleteThe kids shouldn't have access to the booze, and there should be enough sober adults to supervise the kids, and drive them home.
ReplyDeleteThe woman who plans the party is in her own home and doesn't have to drive, for putting up with all this, she can get hammered.
It's inappropriate to get hammered, it's fine to serve
ReplyDeleteIf you're going to make adults show up for small children's parties, the least you can do is provide alcohol. But don't get rip-roaring drunk, have some dignity.
ReplyDeleteBut like Seaward asked, why is everything involving Real Housewives?
Only if it's YOUR kids that the party is for. In fact, it's probably necessary.
ReplyDeleteYes and yes. No one wants to be there. They just show up to support the parents and maybe pinch the kid's cheeks. I'm not really sure about this situation since it is for reality tv, but in real life, I think it's okay to serve alcohol at a child's birthday party as long there are designated drivers. I would never want a parent to drive drunk with a child in the car, or ever for that matter.
ReplyDeletei don't drink, so little different perspective. i don't think its ever appropriate to be drunk. wouldnt bother me if booze was offered, if it was a bbq w/ mostly adults (kids 3 & under) i'd probably have beer & wine.
ReplyDeleteEnty, why the hard on for Armstrong?
ReplyDeleteIt seems like you are always posting dumb crap about her, it's not even juicy stuff
Serve one type of alcohol and limit how much is available. I know it sucks but it sucks even worse to have an adult ruin a child's birthday b/c of their drunk antics or to send a very intoxicated parent home with a child in the backseat. Limit your guest list as well. If you know people who have a known problem with alcohol or a low tolerance as well as an inability to say no, leave them off the guest list. Hell, I leave these people off the guest list when I have grown up parties. Leave the drama at the door or you don't come in.
ReplyDeleteI think it is perfectly alright to serve alcohol to the grown ups at a kids party, but as a guest (or host for that matter) it's not OK to get hammered. Embarrassing. It's also probably a good idea to have a designated sober person, in case there is a need for driving or something like that.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I am so tired of all the Real Housewives posts. I've never seen any of these shows, and I don't know who any of these women are. Nor do I ever want to know who they are.
ReplyDeleteNow as to the question about alcohol, I don't think it should be served if you know that some of the adults who will be there can't handle it. I know kid's parties are boring for adults, but a kid's party should be about the kids, not the adults. It isn't going to kill anyone to go a few hours without drinking. Of course this is coming from someone who goes several months between drinks so maybe I'm the wrong person to have an opinion on this topic.
I don't think I would serve alcohol at a kids party because sometimes adults get out of hand and the last thing I would want to do is explain to a kid why mommy smells "funny". Plus, that happened to me at my 5th birthday and a drunk neighbour popped all my balloons.
ReplyDeleteFamily story - my sister was about 4 and mentioned at her birthday party that she always wanted an upside-down cake. My grandmother was a few sheets to the wind and promptly turned her layer cake into an upside-down cake.
ReplyDeleteThis is a funny anecdote but I think anyone who gets hammered at a little kids' party is an attention whore.
I'm Mexican, so of course I'm used to alcohol at children's birthday parties.
ReplyDeleteUgh - I meant kid's party rather than kids' party
ReplyDeleteMy sister always had birthday parties at late afternoon/night because it was just family and friends. If we got hammered, we slept it off somewhere in the house. No one ever got embarrassingly hammered, though. Poor Kennedy.
ReplyDeleteEnty is trying to expand the demographic, and why not. Lots of chicks and gays in that demo. And if you don't know who Taylor Armstrong is then you have missed a drama worthy of Dostoevsky.
ReplyDeleteAs for drinky at the party, what MbK said. I mean mBk. I mean MBk. Hic.
I don't think it is ever appropriate to be "hammered" in front of small children in a setting such as this. For whatever reason I picture Taylor as a fall down, sloppy drunk. That being said, I think it is fine to serve some alcohol at a kids birthday party. Why do you think they sell beer and wine at chuck e. cheese?
ReplyDeleteBeing hammered in front of children (your own or others) is a big no-way, IMO.
ReplyDeleteHoly Crap!!!! I was kidding about getting hammered.
ReplyDeleteI'll rephrase, after the party the mom who hosts deserves a drinky poo or two.
God no! Are you kidding?
ReplyDeleteI should clarify what my yes and yes mean. Yes and yes to booze, no to blackout drunken antics.
ReplyDeleteMs.Cool-liked your story. Agree with your conclusion. Housewives are the same level as Kardashians - lets lose them Enty. Please.
ReplyDeleteI've been to kids' birthday parties where the hosting couple doesn't drink, but they provided beer and wine for their guests. It should be obvious that you don't get hammered, but you can't control what people do.
ReplyDeleteMy BF & I have discussed whether or not it's okay to drink in front of our future kids, and we still can't decide. Never be drunk, but could of a glass of wine at dinner show a healthy relationship with alcohol & set an example for when they do almost inevitably decide to experiment?
It's the thing that makes Chuck E Cheese tolerable.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry, but I just don't find it appropriate to drink when you're with kids. Maybe one or two drinks, but someone is not going to know when to stop, and then you have childhood traumas like all your balloons being popped, or Grandma turning the cake upside down. Plus, aren't they going to be driving the kids back home after the party?
ReplyDeleteI guess I have a prudish outlook on drinking because I'm not fond of being drunk, and very seldom drink.
of course it's not appropriate!!! Who's watching kids, driving them home if they are bombed??? jesus, You cant abstain for 3 hours??
ReplyDeleteNot for Taylor Armstrong. She should just say no.
ReplyDeleteDepends- is it a booze cruise?
ReplyDeleteNope, not appropriate not cool!
ReplyDeleteI don't think having booze a ta kid's party is a big deal. Responsible adults will only have one or two within a decent time frame. A responsible host will also work to ensure that their guests aren't getting plastered, too.
ReplyDeleteThis was a case of irresponsibility in general on the part of all adults involved.
Why is it assumed that everyone is going to get drunk and drive?
ReplyDeleteSeriously, if I have to go to a kid's birthday party, you'd better give me a glass of wine. I'm not going to get drunk and if I'm driving, I'm not drinking. But good God, give me something while I'm listening to mothers drone on and on about whatever shit they talk about.
My husband and I have cabbed it to his parents place for Christmas dinner because we need to drink to survive that evening.
These parties are social outings for the parents thats why the nannies are there...
ReplyDeleteIn the real world I don't think it's appropriate, especially if the parent is getting in the car with their kids after the party & driving home.
ReplyDeleteBut this is BH world...I agree with MISCH, nannies are watching the kids & the limo drivers are standing by.
The weird thing is that Kyle said on a past season that she doesn't think it's appropriate to have alcohol at a kid's party. I wonder what happened - do you think Taylor walks around with a flask in her purse? Wouldn't be surprised...
ReplyDeleteThe alcohol? only if Bravo is filming the kids party.
ReplyDeletePortia is four already? One of the cutest housewife kids ever....she's a little doll.
YES to alcohol. NO to getting Frank the Tank drunk.
ReplyDeleteI dont have, or like, kids, so if I'm going to their party, you can bet your sweet aunt fanny Im getting fershnookered!
ReplyDeletePortia's last name is Urmansky not Richards.
ReplyDeleteTaylor got drunk at the White Party in season 1 (only one I saw)and was crying when Kyle was trying to put Portia to bed.
I used to drink after my daughter's B-Day parties with the other moms. After hosting a kiddie party, you sort of need one, or ten. During? Kinda tacky.
ReplyDeleteHave we really gotten to a place in evolution where we can't suck it up for a few hours and drink Kool Aid or pop at a child's party? REALLY??
ReplyDeleteAfter .. when the little people are not present and we don't need to be watchful of them .. fine. But during?? Hell no.
OMG. I love how passionate the responses are to this question.
ReplyDeleteI have no problem at all having a drinky-poo at a kids' party. It helps dull the screeching, crying, whining and sounds of Elmo piercing my brain. Plus, it helps with answering the barrage of questions you get regarding your non-existent second child who is not on the way. Oh wait. Maybe that's just me.
I really don't see how having a glass of wine or two is going to scar the childrens of the world.
I am astonished at the number if people who "need" a drink to get thru a kids party!! And other events!! Also, when i think of kids party, i am thinking of the 1 to 4 deal with just under 10year olds, which is fiff from a backyard barbie where u also happen to be celebrating child's birthday. Totally diff vibe, and i wld offer beer. But needing a drink to sit theu kids party? U got problems, my friends.
ReplyDeleteWhen did it become normal for adults to hang out at a kid's party? When I was young, the only adults were the birthday child's mother and anyone there for entertainment - clown, magician, pony handlers, etc.
ReplyDelete