I have seen women who were going to get married sue their prospective future husbands after being dumped. Generally this is because of the cost of the dress and if her parents foot the bill for the reception and deposits and what have you. This is the first time I can remember a groom doing the same thing, but one has. Steve Silverstein says his ex owes him $50K for unpaid bills and the day they broke up she took a little more than that from their joint bank account of which he says about $20K is his. She did give him his ring back. Steve's former girlfriend is also a former employee of Hooters who moved to California after the split. The NY Daily News found her there and she says she doesn't owe the guy anything.
Sue her ass!
ReplyDeleteWhat's good for the goose is good for the gander so she needs to pay up.
ReplyDeleteSue her ass again!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat's a Gander??
ReplyDeleteA gander is a male goose!
ReplyDeleteMy advice to young Steve:
ReplyDeleteget down on your knees and thank the deity/ies of your choice that you missed this bullet. Things could have been far, far worse with Miss Hooters had you married.
Then go out and find a woman with some integrity and character. If all your friends and family warn you (and they usually will with the cray cray ones), believe them.
The guy needs to let go. And regain some self respect.
ReplyDeleteSue that bitch! Then sue her again for pain and suffering!
ReplyDeleteAnd then call me, 'kay?
How did a Hooter's employee amass that kind of savings?
ReplyDeleteShe was probably offering more than just chicken wings to patrons.
DeleteGood for him! She sounds like a real treat. I'd want my 50K back, too. @Figgy - I like your advice.
ReplyDelete@Patty - I don't think SHE did, I think HE did, and she took it.
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely with @figgy on this 'un.
ReplyDeleteHave a friend who worked at hooters all through college - she paid cash for college, cash for a bmw, never had debt and made close to 6 figures a year. If you are at a good location, you can amass quite a good savings. I had NO idea this was possible until meeting her.
ReplyDeleteTime to rent a billboard to warn other men about that gold digging bitch.
ReplyDeleteIt's pretty easy to make lots of money serving. Pretty sure I make more than most of the people I serve.
ReplyDeleteBut that doesn't stop them from thinking they're "better" than me.
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From this photo he looks pretty dang hot, too. Poor guy!
ReplyDeleteI hear ya, Sue Ellen...been there, done that, and I shall NEVAH forget the assholes and poor tippers. Some of them are my neighbors, too, and I'd be hesitant to call the cops if I saw the butt-end of a cat burglar hangin' out their window...
ReplyDeleteMatter-fact, they all still look down on me even though I'm now (ten years running) a fairly lucrative business owner.
Half my friends still wait or tend bar. In a resort area it can be a good living.
\off soap box now :)
Sounds to me like his pride was hurt and he's trying to get back at her. He just needs to grow up and move on. We've all been hurt and disappointed at one time, but that's part of life.
ReplyDeleteWhy does "former employee of Hooters" have to be written? So we can know she's a bad person? Maybe she screwed him around, maybe she didn't. But she's probably a whore so let's lynch her.
ReplyDeleteSue the cray cray bitch! I can't stand women who think common decency doesn't apply to them because they are hot...and I'm a former model so I'm no troll.
ReplyDeleteJudge Judy needs to hop on this stat!
ReplyDeleteWhere are all the open-minded people? We've only heard his side of the story. Maybe she dumped him because he was an ass.
ReplyDeleteI don't think we should pass judgement till we hear what she has to say.
@selena
ReplyDeleteMmmhhmmm. I have no debt and pay cash for my tuition, and once I am done school I don;t have to keep working a serving job as well as a career because I took out loans that I can't afford.
Personally, serving during school is one of the smartest things you can do. I work 2 days a week.
hahahha. Oh boy, I am loling over here thinking of all the snotty looks I've been given over the years.
It doesn't matter where a person works, no one should be able to take the money and run. Good luck buddy.
ReplyDelete@surfer
ReplyDeleteI think that the himmmm debacle blew up this site and we no longer have what we used to have. Being that the comments/commentors were the saving grace of this site, it shouldn't be too long before it turns into a cesspool like the others.
After reading the article the guy seems to have sour grapes and is trying to recoup expenses he paid for rent etc.. during the relationship. You don't get to decide you are owed money after you pay the bills and have nothing in writing saying otherwise becuase you got dumped.
ReplyDeleteShe isn't a gold digger and sounds like she saved herself from a lunatic. Good for her.
Even if he was an ass, he doesn't deserve to get ripped off. Team Steve!
ReplyDelete@Sue Ellen - you're probably right about the comments.
ReplyDeleteAnd congrats on doing so well. I know you've worked really hard.
TimeBob did we read the same article? Cosign Figgy!
ReplyDelete@Sue Ellen,
ReplyDeleteActually there are a few notables that I am not unhappy to see have moved on to greener pastures. I don't notice nearly as many flame wars on here myself lately. Kind of refreshing ;>
One thing I've learned from my own personal experience: No matter what women say or how they feel about you or the situation, they will ALWAYS take the money. Never seen it fail yet!
ReplyDeleteWell Robert let me introduce myself. I walked away from a situation where I could have made a fuss about assets but I didn't. It was just better to walk away.
ReplyDelete@Lurky Loo
ReplyDeleteOh, I agree with you. I think the world is better off with those people. I'd name names, but I'm afraid they'd return like Lord Voldemort if I do.
@Surfer
Thanks, but I don't really have a choice if I want better for myself. No one really hands you things in life unless you are rich, which I am definitely not.
I actually have a friend who is in the same boat as me and it bothers her that she doesn't get the advantages others (read: rich) get. I feel the opposite way. I feel better about myself knowing that everything I have I got on my own. It wouldn't feel right if things were handed to me.
@Robert, stop being a bold stump!:)
ReplyDeleteRobert steps on his dick. Thanks, Robert! You sound like a hard- core man-hating feminist, but in drag. Savor that visual.
ReplyDeleteAgree with all the posters saying that being a Hooters girl, waiting tables in general, is in no way a character indictment (it's a +) and it shouldn't have been included in the story as a factor for consideration. That being said, sue her ass. They accrued the bills jointly for their wedding and she should share in the debt and not scamper out of state and leave him to pay. It's good she gave back the ring, though.
if this were a woman we'd be all "you get yours girl!"
ReplyDeletea bit sexist to not show him the same support.
Theresa- i can guess that your friend didn't claim ANY of that money to the taxman and she better hope they don't wonder how she paid for her assets in cash. if she is making that kind of money off tips, she's selling a lot more than wings. not to call your freind a ho..but that seems a bit far fetched. I only know strippers who can do that.
Lessons to be learned here. No joint bank accounts until you are in fact married. I don't know what the unpaid bills are, I guess stuff that is wedding related, did they have an agreement on who would pay for what?
ReplyDeleteHe should sell that ring, and consider himself lucky. She clearly didn't want to marry him.
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ReplyDeleteIF she left him with a ton of bills and took more out of their mutual savings than was due then by law he is entitled to recoup those losses. It matters not whether it's man or a woman. And yeah a lot of us would be you go girl but then tell a man to take the high road. Let's be fair about it.
ReplyDeleteRobert...Both times I have left my live in boyfriend I never took a dime and left most my stuff behind (house, business, art we collected). Not every woman will take the money. However I find it incredibly coincidental that one of my exes only dated whore who fucked around on him. Even though I never did I'm sure that's what he told everyone. The common demonimator was him.
My grandmother was a professional server and people LOVED Blanche. She had a following like you would not believe. Waiting tables is something everyone should have to do once in their life to see what it's like on the other end.
Congrats to all wait staff, being a former, I truely appreciate everytime waiters who do a great job.
ReplyDeleteAs for Jax, that's pretty narrow minded thinking. Its pretty easy to clear over $500 in tips just working a wine bar in a decent location - AND be honest about it too.
I'm sorry, while she legally might have been able to take everything from the joint bank account, it's just shady as hell to dump and run like that.
ReplyDeleteWho knows what the true story is? But taken the majority of the money from the bank account the same day you break up is shady. Particularly if there are, in addition to those amounts gone, bill to be paid.
If she really was supposed to pay all or part of those bills and none of that money is 'hers', he's down a 100k. And honestly, I think the people that call off the wedding should pay for its cost. Usually, except for when, you know, shouldn't. :)
No comment on working at hooters except I HATE that place.
there are actually 3 sides...his, hers, and the truth.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting reactions. I agree that mentioning she worked at Hooter's is irrelevant. Having worked in the hospitality industry for 25 years I can attest to the fact that the public as a whole is one big bad of douche!
ReplyDeleteShe gave back the ring, that was the right thing to do. She calls off the wedding, it's his, he calls it off, it's hers.
As for the rest of his claims, agree again that there is only one side presented. Unless he can prove that she contracted with him to provide payment, he really doesn't have a case. Having made that statement, if you are planning a wedding with the intention of providing some of the cash, then if you call it off, you should pony up some of the cancellation costs. Then again if you are in a another state well...nananananana
Upon reflection, that statement may have been a little hasty, but, as I said, I was referring to my own personal experience. Feeling a little pissy today, I guess.
ReplyDeleteThat's what u get for hooking up with a skank
ReplyDeleteI think this guy needs to cut his cut his losses and consider it lesson learned. He might have had big huge alimony payments down the road if he'd married her...just sayin.
ReplyDelete"Waiting tables is something everyone should have to do once in their life to see what it's like on the other end"
ReplyDeleteI wholeheartedly agree with this statement. I will NEVER go back to waiting tables, but I was pretty good at it back in the day...*L* Not buy a car with cash kind of good, but you can usually live off of your tips and use your actual wage for rent and bills...depending on where you work, of course.
I need to hear her side of the story to say how I feel about this...
ReplyDeletethey were stupid to have a shared bank account with that kind of money before they were actually married.
ReplyDeleteHe should get back his money if indeed she took part that was not money she earned and I think they should split the cost of any wedding expenses if she cancelled.
I agree with those who have said that everyone should have to work in some kind of service job once in their lives--either food service or retail or some kind of dealing with the public. It makes you a much nicer person dealing with people--and it is VERY hard work--physically and mentally.
Years ago Studs Terkel wrote a book called *Working* he interviewed people in the most mundane and unusual jobs.
ReplyDeleteOne was a waitress, she aspired to be the greatest waitress her patrons had ever had every shift she worked.
She loved to set down the dishes without a hint of noise, to keep the cup filled, to serve without interrupting, reading her story was fabulous.
As my dad told us again and again "A job worth doing, is worth doing well". Not his originally I know.
Del Riser -- I had an acting teacher who told us that; she said it's a matter of personal integrity that you do each job the best you can, whether serving or acting.
ReplyDeleteFor those who are criticizing this guy; the news reports I saw say the $ are way past $50K, that this is the second time she's cancelled on him. Let's just say I'm curious to hear her side of it.
She's certainly within her rights to break up with him, but I'm taking a rather dim view of her cleaning out the joint bank account like that. It would be interesting to hear both sides of the story, and find out what the truth actually is...but yeah, sell the ring & keep the money. Perhaps they both dodged a bullet w/this one?...
ReplyDeleteRobert - No worries, we all have those days.
ReplyDeleteThere's not enough information. Why did she break she break it off?? Enty is right. How many women sue men when they break thing off?? Clue to all women who are left at the alter: sue the dick.
ReplyDeleteRobert..Yes, we all have good days and bad days. To be concillatory says a lot about a person. Thank you.
ReplyDelete@Sherry and Amartel: Thank you!
ReplyDeleteI don't think her job has anything to do with it. They went into an agreement about an event, obviously without a contract. The event was paid for by _____. The event doesn't happen. She decides to clean out their checking account.
ReplyDeleteLegally....not really sure there is much to stand on.
Well, I am a waitress, too, and I am TOTALLY AWESOME at it. All I have to do is flash my bra a little, and the tips just pour in! And frankly, I AM better than most of the idiots I service--lol meant "serve" there! I'm practically a lawyer after all, what with all my certificates and sociopolitical expertise from studying Wikipedia and such. I'm too good to deal with the riff-raff, like this girl I saw once passed out on the street late at night. Her fault--she shouldn't have been drinking! Anyway, the fact that I'm like 35 and still serving others shows how much I really love it! I can take all the smole breaks I want, plus I can eat any of the corn dogs or wings or varmint chili (yum!) I can sneak out the door (but technically that's stealing, so don't tell my boss ! lol). Yeah, everyone should give this life of luxury a shot!
ReplyDeleteWhy was he footing the bill for the wedding anyway. If she had Hooters $ she could have at least gone in halfsies. Can't say I blame the dude for suing BUT is it really stealing the money if they had a joint account?
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