It has been almost 15 years since Christina Aguilera has seen her father, but that has not stopped her from talking about him before and now. Christina has always claimed that her father abused Christina and Christina's sister along with their mother. Christina's dad says he did hit Christina's mother but not very often and claims to have never abused the sisters. You know, I think when you abuse the mom and the kids see it or know about it, it is the same as abusing the kids. You might not be hitting them directly, but you are hitting them indirectly and it messes them up. Yes, it is no excuse for the amount of lipstick Christina wears, but I think a lot of who she has become is a result of what happened back then, so I think it is abuse.
Christina told Latina Magazine that she is willing to try and repair her relationship with her father. I think tat is pretty noble of her. They must have caught her at a weak moment because I would keep him out of my life.
See this troubles me because I always ask do absentee/abusive parents seek their now famous kids out of genuine love or to cash in on their fame?
ReplyDeleteThat photoshop doesn't even look like her at all.
ReplyDeleteI feel for her, and hope everything goes well with the situation.
MontanaMarriott Where did you see anything in this about him seeking her out? All it says is she would like to have lunch with him and meet him again.
ReplyDeletePretty mature of her if you ask me.
I admire her for giving him a chance, but if he's a dickwad I hope she cuts him off.
ReplyDeleteLet's just hope he talks her out of wearing leggings on a daily basis.
the father's statement is classic abuser denial. he says he didn't hit her OFTEN? hitting once is too much, duh.
ReplyDeleteand having to watch someone be abused is abuse. sounds like he hasn't learned anything.
Christina, STOP it with the meemaw white Grandma hair already!! It does you no favors.
ReplyDeleteI used to be in the business, so I kinda know some things...and I worked with someone who knows her on a professional & personal level. This person was a BIG WIG...so I know he was telling me the truth, especially since I would answer calls for him from people like Simon Cowell.
ReplyDeleteXtina isn't lying. She was sexually abused by her father for years. The person who I knew was the person who helped get her into therapy for it. She was in therapy 3 times a week, which is why in the beginning of her career, she was such a mess...not that she isn't now...but she was worse.
Well there's ALL her problems gathered into a neat little bundle. If she can deal with all that, I think we will see a new lady emerge, strong and powerful.
ReplyDeleteI think she is just yapping about it for attention. To get herself MORE magazine covers.
ReplyDeleteI think she is just yapping about it for attention. To get herself MORE magazine covers.
ReplyDeleteIf this man did sexually abuse her she should never see him again. In fact, when he's finally dead, she should go and piss on his grave (sorry...spoiler alert...just watched an episode of Shameless! LOL!)
ReplyDeleteWhat a scum bag. It makes a lot of sense if that is the case in that victims of abuse like that have a very difficult time overcoming it, no matter what their professional successes may be.
I do feel for her and hope she is doing this to make herself a stronger person, but this man deserves nothing.
P.S. Enty I totally agree with you-an abusive husband IS an abusive father. Just look at the Powell case. It makes me crazy to see courts allow custody to wife beaters because they've never beaten the kids. If a man can beat his wife, he will be his kids too. And the emotional scars that come from seeing our mother abused carry a lot of harm as well. (This works both ways, actually, male or female abusers are the same)
be careful about advocating urinating on a dead person....
ReplyDeleteNo Christina. Just no.
ReplyDeleteShe's a hot mess, but I still like her. She's unapologetic about her talent, for one thing. Women nowadays are taught to be demure at all times and downplay their abilities, and at least she knows she's a diva in the TRUE sense of that word and isn't self-deprecating about it. I hope she cleans herself up and has a long career, because she really does have an astonishing voice.
ReplyDeleteThat said, she might have been mature enough to get married, but I'm skeptical if she was ready to be a parent. No matter how much money you have, or how many nannies are at your disposal, it can't be healthy for your kid to see you drunk off your ass half the time.
I didn't watch the Voice last season but picked itup after the Super Bowl, and it shocked me by how charmed I was with with her.
ReplyDeleteI hope she can get healthy, and have a happy life. I really do.
Fathers and Daughters. When you have your garden variaty assbite father, those daddy issues can haunt you for life. But to be abused like she was... I just can't imagine.
Hopefully she is in a place where she can emotionally safely confront him for some answers. And hopefully she can walk away less damaged than when she meets with him.
Maybe her rage at him is so deeply embedded that it's the basis for her current behavior -- and a professional has warned her that if she has the chance to confront him, she should do it. Her kid's well-being is at stake here.
ReplyDeleteAlso -- some abusers don't see hitting a kid as abuse (they'll cloak it as punishment or training) and will acknowledge having hit the wife only because it can be proven and so they can't deny that.
ReplyDeleteWow. Well this information makes me like her and root for her even more. If I am to believe all of the gossip about her, she has made some very fucked up choices re: parenting, but I still want to see her succeed. I've always been struck by Christina, even from the Genie in the Bottle days. She is hella talented. She always goes and screws it up in some way - i.e. - National Anthem mishap. But, I jsut hope she gets it together. It seems like she still needs counseling.
ReplyDeleteMight cause her to drink even more. bad idea.
ReplyDeleteshe always looks disconnected from her kid too. like he is annoying her. no love.
ReplyDeleteIf she was abused by him and it sounds like she was at the very least mentally abused....It might do her a world of good to see him and tell him she is no longer afraid of him. Call him out on his lies, tell him off and leave.
ReplyDeleteIt's possible her father is a psychopath considering the things he did to her. Those folks are brain damaged and never change. There is no cure. Nothing can be gained by her meeting with him, IMO. I just don't think she needs this. Nobody does. She needs to be with normal people capable of love.
ReplyDeletemaybe she just needs more inspiration to write songs? i just don't see this as being productive.
ReplyDeleteI assume she wants to meet him in order to barbque and eat him.
ReplyDeleteMy daughters and I went through a similar situation (physical violence) and I got us out. My youngest has nothing to do with her father at all. My oldest has, after a long estrangement, allowed a relationship to develop since the birth of her son.
ReplyDeleteShe flat out had a conversation with her father in which she confronted him with everything he ever did. And I mean everything. She pulled no punches. What did she have to lose? He listened, which was a lot more than I ever expected, and actually apologized for the things he did. They have gone on to build a relationship, and he dotes on my grandbaby. Which makes my stomach turn, but whatever makes my kid happy works for me.
It's taken a lot of work, plus the fact he lives 800 miles from her which makes the relationship easier for her to handle. I have to give it up to her, really, because I wouldn't piss on this man if he was on fire unless I knew it would sting.
The hard part is listening to her talk about it -- I can forgive what he did to me, for MY sake, not his, but never...NEVER...for what he did to my girls.
But that's my problem. I'm happy to see her work through the issues and have mad respect for her. She's a stronger and better person than I am.
Blessing to Christina and I hope she can work it out. It sure explains a lot about her.
I imagine it must have taken a lot of courage for Christina to decide to see her father again & hope that she decided this after careful consideration. I wish her all the best.
ReplyDeleteI agree, Enty. I don't think I could ever forgive abuse...especially not sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteFirst, that cover is awful...she looks terrible. Give up the heavy make-up and white hair; it's just not working anymore.
ReplyDeleteWe never hear much about her father, but it's well known that he hit her mother. I had never heard that he had physically and sexually abused Christina, nor her sister, so this is news to me.
I worked with her dad. Now, I KNOW looks and attitude can be VERY deceiving, but he was a soft-spoken, kind man, who, mostly, stayed to himself. He was well liked by everyone. I was completely shocked when I found out who he was and even more shocked to learn that this seemingly docile man had physically abused his wife. To my knowledge, he is still working at my previous place of employment.
I in no way condone what he did – abuse in any form is unacceptable – but I hope she does meet with him and can possibly come away from it with some sort of closure.