Probably a little afraid of the monthly magazine curse, Drew Barrymore's interview with InStyle as she talks about her fiance' is really, really tepid. I mean lukewarm. Like I wish it was hotter because it is cold and I really want this shower to be hot. Drew says the right things about Will Kopelman but she could be talking about her dog too. Seriously. Read the quotes and see if you can fit dog into the quotes. If you are not a fan of dogs, then fit cat, although, I am not sure cats really like to take group trips. Fish? Meh, they do not really participate enough. It is more of a "hey, look me at swim around in circles," kind of relationship rather than something interactive.
"He's lovely." Definitely dog worthy
"He's very very nice. It's really positive. I'm super happy." Definitely a dog. Probably one that has just been housebroken.
"It's just the best. We go on group trips and spend holidays together - there's a lot of love." Definitely a dog.
Where is the mush and the romance? Is this how she wants to walk down the aisle for the third time? Where is the couch jumping? At least if Drew did it you know it would be real.
The nail in the coffin?
"It's funny, when I was younger, I used to say I'd hate a flat line - that I want the ups and the downs, the roller coaster. But I'm actually really enjoying the flat line."
Yeah, read your significant other that line and see if they feel loved.
"It's funny, when I was younger, I used to say I'd hate a flat line - that I want the ups and the downs, the roller coaster. But I'm actually really enjoying the flat line."
Yeah, read your significant other that line and see if they feel loved.
I can't hate her for this. I"m the same way. I'm not overly gushy about my husband to the world. And when he decided to settle down and get married his words were "I've had my fun. Now I'm ready to stay in one place and be bored to death".
ReplyDeleteAnd as awful as that might come off to some people I understood what he meant and completely agreed. We both lived a crazy 20s. We traveled alot, hung with some very interesting people and saw/did alot of things most people don't get to. We got to the point we were ready for the "flat line". She doesn't mean flat line like dying in a hospital flat-lining. She just means secure and stable. What's the problem with that?
After the life Drew has had, I'll bet a flat line sounds pretty damned appealing.
ReplyDeleteI think that's also why Britney wants to settle down with her boring ex-agent, too.
I don't blame them.
She'll get bored of the flat line after a while.
ReplyDeleteI can see the appeal in that after so many failed relationships I suppose. We'll see.
ReplyDeleteIsn't a "flat line" what doctors say when a person dies on the operating table: "He's flatlined."
ReplyDeleteI know my hubs would have dropped me like a bad rash if I ever told him that before we married---now he wouldn't care. He would think it meant he could take a nap. Actually, I feel bad for Drew's fiancé now.
She should sound more in love, but I get where she's coming from. I had years and years of excitement - both dating and non-dating. I liked the ups and downs of dating new people, really REALLY liking them, and then getting bored with them. Every new relationship was 'omg, I am SO into this guy' - eagerly waiting for the next date, and not thinking of anything else. But guess what? It never lasted. I'd get bored with them after 3-6 months.
ReplyDeleteReal love, long term love, isn't 'omg, omg, omg' every moment. It is just *normal*, not a series of extreme highs and lows. The love that grows out of everyday things is deeper and more meaningful than the extreme 'omg' that burns off.
The only part that sounds strange to me is her saying that they take group trips. Why is that necessary to say - shouldn't she be traveling just with him, and have that be what she enjoys?
I totally get it. When you hit your mid-30s, you don't need a ton of passion or drama anymore. I'm not with the person I expected to be - my heart doesn't skip a beat every time he enters the room - but there's a lot to be said for mutual respect, trust, comfort and responsibility. Might sound as boring as owning a pet to some, but my priorities have changed. Good luck, Drew!
ReplyDeleteThis doesn't sound good at all. I understand the point that people are trying to make about the mundane being welcome in a relationship (never for me,but to each their own & yes, I'm 33) but that is not who Drew is. She's the queen of gush & butterflies. I think she's trying to marry a mature man who doesn't give her fireworks, but is a catch on paper because that's what "grown ups" do. He wanted to take it to the next level & she didn't want to lose him. I know a lot of women who've done this, it worked for some, not for others. Not that marriages are perfect by any means, but the most some of my friends can say about their new husbands is "he's nice".
ReplyDeleteI agree with those who have mentioned that perhaps Drew IS happy with a calm, safe relationship that isn't so up-and-down. Drew and I are the same age, and we've had similar crazy love lives, and I know that I'd be very happy with a little routine and stability myself. So, hopefully this one takes for her. She's always seemed like a sweetheart, so good for her.
ReplyDeleteMaybe the "group trips" is a reference to trips with her and bestie Cameron???
ReplyDeleteWell, considering she's been whirlwind married and divorced twice, maybe she just doesn't want to gush too much about this one. I understand what she means, but perhaps "flatline" was a poor choice of word...*L*.
ReplyDeleteI am in the process of separating my life from my "flat line" person. Ugly and painful. I'm not ever going to settle again for less than my soulmate. I'd rather be alone.
ReplyDelete@Jesse - Sorry for the end of your relationship. Hope things get better fast!
ReplyDeleteAgain, I don't get why we are taking Drew Barrymore's engagement seriously. she's a serial monogamist, who goes for long-to-mid-term relationships.
Her engagement does not mean in any way that she will be getting married.
BTW, her fiancé is kind of a hottie! A Metrosexual hottie.
This post made me giggle....
ReplyDeleteBut I'm in complete agreement with Bnl1016 & RocketQueen!
With her, I'd be more on guard if she was couch jumping.
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ReplyDelete@Jesse - So sorry, that Totally Sucks. Been in your situation. Realistically, you are looking at a minimum of two years emotional recovery time. Make good use of it by wallowing, kicking, screaming and using the down time for grieving. It makes the healing all the better once you emerge from the fog.
ReplyDeleteDrew, you are an ever-morphing woodnymph and he is the flavor that suits you best at this particular phase in your life (aka what grownups are supposed to do).
Yes, jumping on couches isn't for everyone.
ReplyDeleteIt's all that gush and over-the-moon-ness that had me feeling inadequate about my relationship for years. Friends would say, "Oh you just KNOW when it's right" and gush about their hot romances and I'd wonder because I wouldn't KNOW anything for sure. Just that I liked being with him. But it isn't all rainbows and butterflies, it's day to day life, all better with him than without him. When my gushing friends' relationships ended and they suddenly were very bitter about the one they'd been so sure of before, and I found out Tom Cruise's couch jumping could have been (ahem) compensation, I realized I had something REAL even if it was painted in more muted tones. Consistent and stable is better than on and off, unpredictable and rollercoaster.
I wish Drew well. It sounds like she may be maturing. I hope so (but I also thought that Justin Long would be the one, so we'll see).