I read a really good article today in USA Today about how Heidi Klum and Seal were showing the world how bad their marriage was by all the overt PDA they always displayed in public for the cameras. You know, I think the psychotherapist interviewed for the article made some good points, it is the people that are projecting something publicly for consumption that are having the most issues. If you are a bickering in public couple all of the time, doesn't it seem to you that those are the people that always manage to stick it out for the 50 years. The annual vow renewal for Heidi and Seal should have been a red flag. Apparently doing it so frequently show they were having to try and get back on track every year. So, according to this theory this means that Goopster and Chris Martin will be married forever and Will Smith and Jada will split any day now. Oh, that already happened. You thought they were still together? They reconciled? That all the rumors were just that?
Woo hoo! "Inside" ENT scoopage!
ReplyDeleteBrangelina are the prime example of this. How many details of their supposed hot sex do we hear all the damn time?
ReplyDelete@pr787 - as much as it pains me to admit it, I think Brangie are legit. Wacky, but legit. That doesn't mean that functional relationships don't have some serious dark corners in them but I think those two will probably stick it out for a bit longer.
ReplyDeleteI have always wondered about the "renewing vows" bit, but I figured I was being petty. LOL guess not
Celebs and their publicists are always making a big phony "show" how "perfect their lives are and how "happy" they are when it's really just a ruse and the more they deny any problems basically just confirms that the rumors are true.The more they go out of their way to make everything look "rosy" the more problems you know there really are.
ReplyDeleteSo true PR787 and the whole making out/sex in the limo on the way to the awards years back...
ReplyDeleteBy this reasoning, are we to assume that Sting and Trudy Styler never have sex?
ReplyDeleteI always thought it was sweet that they renewed their vows, thought it was because they had money to blow and it's always fun to throw a party!
Their split-up made me sad but I'm officially tired of hearing of it.
But thanks, Enty, for the Will & Jada bit!
ReplyDelete...and this is why i knew the inevitable would happen.
ReplyDeleteI always kinda wondered about the annual renewal bit.
ReplyDeleteJust please tell me she's really as nice as she seems? Hard enough knowing that maybe the singer of one of my ALL time fave songs (Kiss from a Rose) is not so sweet. ;-)
Figgy - they could both be sweet, just wrong for each other.
ReplyDeleteI pointed out the other day that it seemed she was pregnant more than she wasn't during their marriage. That could have been why they lasted as long as they did.
ReplyDeleteI never understood the yearly renewal either. Frankly, I'm not of fan of renewals, and hate being invited to them, but maybe it's just me.
ReplyDeleteI've been going with the "excessive PDA is suspect" theory for years. You know who else always does it? The Travoltas. Enough said.
ReplyDeleteStill sad to see them splitting up.
ReplyDeleteI thought they were genuinely happy.
So, does this mean that people that post their undying love for their spouses on Facebook are really fighting every minute IRL? ;)
Enty, My parents fought constantly. My mother could seethe like the best of them. If one said "black" the other said "white" just because.
ReplyDeleteThey died 5 weeks apart.
Philippa: Thanks for sharing, your little story moved me. Reminded me of my parents. They died 5 years apart though, but they fit your description perfectly.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to make a blanket assumption that all outwardly happy couples are perfect and vice versa. This happened, it's sad.
ReplyDeleteAs for Angie bragging abou having sex with Brad in the limo, who here wouldn't? I'd be live blogging it on Facebook.
Sorry, "aren't perfect.". I can't go back and fix typos when I comment using my phone.
ReplyDeleteMe too, Anita.
ReplyDeleteI don't know about Heidi and Seal... It is just so strange that it happens days before he drops his album. Were they cynical enough to do plan it like that? Or is it just a coincidence?
philippha, so noted!
ReplyDeletefussing/bickering, without physical violence and verbal abuse, can help fuel passion. me and my gal bicker most work week mornings.
if she would just put on her makeup in the guest bathroom, i could enjoy my shower in peace and quiet!;)
I forgot which columnist said it, but they said something to the effect of...Watch when celebrities renew their vows or have too much PDA. It usually means their relationship is on the rocks. It happened with Josh and Fergie one time. Josh was supposedly caught cheating on Fergie, and the columnists said that they would most likely end up renewing their vows...and they did.
ReplyDeleteLOL @ Anita.
ReplyDeleteI would say i am surprised about Heidi and Seal but honestly i am not. they lasted longer than most and i hope things work out well for the both of them.
As for Angie she used to brag when her and Billy Bob would have sex too. And i am probably one of few people who actually like Angie and Brad together and think they will last (at least for awhile longer).
i want brad and angie to make it, but something tells me that they will not. :(
ReplyDeletei do think that they'll hang on for close to another decade. let's face it. being together funnels a shitload of money into their purses.
i agree w/ the overcompensation view...but then, i'm not big on having to prove anything to anyone or show off how great something is. if something is wonderful, it just is...you don't have to 'prove' it to anyone. it'll naturally reflect itself in what you do, what you say, and how you act.
ReplyDeleteit's similar to those people that have to state how classy and educated they are. if you have to say it, chances are...ya know?
still tho, am sad about this break up...i really liked them despite their schtick.
Brangelina stay for the image and the money that it brings to them. Please, who really believes she is into him and not banging one of those nannies?
ReplyDeleteRemember when they sued News of the World couple of years ago? Well NOTW wiretaped so many celebs, I think they knew about things that would destroy their image they try to sell so badly. But NOTW couldn't admit how they got the info.
My first thought was about Brad and Angie, too. Interesting so many of us are on the same wavelength...
ReplyDeleteI don't think all happy-seeming couples are hiding problems, but I totally agree with the theory that someone who needs to advertise his devotion probably is trying to convince himself that he's devoted.
ReplyDeleteI don't even think this is a new concept. "The lady doth protest too much," a famous quote from Hamlet, covers the same idea -- that the more passionate the argument (or, in this case, declaration) someone gives, the more likely it is that the opposite is true. Shakespeare was onto something, there.
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ReplyDeleteI am sad about Heidi and Seal though as others said the PDA was probably a give away as to what was really going on.
ReplyDeleteJust MHO, but I am not really seeing Brangelina in it for the long haul. If you look at their pictures Angie always seems to be clinging to him like a little kid looking for his approval. Brad either puts on a game face or looks off in the distance. Something is keeping him there and I don't think it is undying love and attraction. I think he worries about those kids if he was to leave her. Mental stability is not her strong suit, or at least hasn't been in the past. I am not convinced it is in the present...I think she puts on a good show as to what she thinks people want to see. She is an Oscar winner after all...
Thanks for the reveal, Enty. We are hosting the CNN debate on our campus this week and I needed that boost to get me through today. Back to seating charts ...
ReplyDeleteI agree that sometimes excessive pda is a front. I've seen it happen to couples I know. You can't ever trust a gusher! ;)
ReplyDeleteLurky Loo, I agree. I think Brad stays for the kids. Angelina reeks of instability.
ReplyDeleteI thinks sometimes excessive PDA is a front, and sometimes not. Nothing groundbreaking here. Personally, my ex and I bickered for 9 years before I finally left. People thought we'd be one of those couples that would be together forever, arguing the whole time, but I was miserable. Conversely, my current guy and I are pretty happy, and we hold hands, snuggle in the restaurant and give small kisses all the time. Of course, I'm no celebrity and have nothing to prove to the public.
ReplyDeleteExcessive PDA annoys the fuck out of me, but so do bickering couples.
ReplyDeleteAll I know is this: if I were a friend of Heidi and Seal, and if they expected me to attend a vow renewal ceremony every god damn year it better be an amazingly fierce party, and the booze and food and music must be AMAZING. Especially if you expect me to listen to you drone on and on each year about your undying love for each other AND bring you another freakin' gift. And then to find out, it's all been a sham. I would be pissed.
Me three, Anita.
ReplyDeleteI think the Brange have worked out some kind of working relationship and are in it for the long haul. It might not be a conventional relationship like the ones we have, but I think it'll work for them for some time to come.
I've been in relationships where we never bicker and relationships where we bicker all the time. Can't stand the latter.
i agree with @pr787: if i follow well,Brangelina is over since 5 years
ReplyDeleteOne of my (many) annoyances is the facebook friends who constantly post "I have the best husband in the world" or "my spouse cleaned the whole house, washed the dog and cured cancer today", but never post the "God if he leaves his GD socks on the bathroom floor one more time...", lol. And I don't know how many single friends are always posting how they have the greatest boyfriend and he's my soulmate, etc... and two weeks later they have some vague post about heartbreak and disappointment. So yeah, I think that they're are truly happy couples, but people need to be more honest about what happy is. It isn't always smiling and celebrating. Sometimes being happy is just reflecting on the fact that you've made it all these years without killing each other.
ReplyDeleteDavid & Vicky Beckham are culprits of this showy love too. Their empire especially in the UK was built on them as a couple and how perfect they are. But time and time again there have been stories about his numerous affairs that says the opposite about their perfect love. Even their nanny said he was terribly cruel to her behind closed door. Celebs never learn cause they have hope that the majority of people will not see through them.
ReplyDeleteIt's not just celebs. I have friends who are fighting in private but on Facebook it's all "Love you babe" and PDA when we're out.
ReplyDelete@MAC - Yes, exactly. I would much rather hear annoyances about leaving the socks out, than here 10 times a day how much X loves Y.
ReplyDeleteI remember an interview a few years ago with Seal & he said the secret to their success was the fact that his relationship with Heidi came first, kids last. Maybe he just said it wrong, but it struck me as selfish. I actually cringed & then thought to myself, "Is that what it takes to have this fantastical sexual partnership?". Kinda glad I didn't take that route.
ReplyDeleteThe vow renewal thing is just damn annoying. Nothing wrong with the act, just keep it private, which would have so more authenticty & genuine spirit.
Weren't they supposed to be doing a reality show where they travelled around teaching couples how to have a great relationship?
ReplyDeleteWonder if that's off now.