I need to go back and check the blind items because in there somewhere is a Terrence Howard item and it does not make for a pretty picture. Michelle Ghent filed for divorce from Terrence nine months ago, but yesterday filed papers seeking a restraining order against the actor. He must be still doing something to her to have her run to court like that. Terrence says that she is doing it because she has items she wants to sell to a third party and that since he refused to pay, she did this.
Michelle says that barely one week into their marriage, Terrence started physically abusing her. That sounds like a great honeymoon doesn't it? She alleges that he punched her in the face and threatened to throw her over the balcony. For the entire time they were married he would slap her and threaten to kill her if she ever told anyone what he was doing to her or any of his other private business. My question is why on earth she would put up with that for a year. She should have bailed out of that during that first week.
she stayed for the cash, simple as that. i don't even know the laws of divorce in california, but i'm sure she got more money the longer she stayed.
ReplyDeleteI love him as an actor, but ... I don't think he should date. Why?
ReplyDeleteThe butt-cleaning stuff, for starters. Remember he was all on and on about how women had to use moist toilet paper, because, well. Because. It was weird.
His chastity and celibacy. Celibacy is good. His wasn't. In interviews, he said that he would prefer to date casually and not have sex, but sometimes he was forced into sex and afterward he felt dirty and used, abused and filthy, degraded, cheapened.
He is a very sensitive and beautiful man, but when he has to soil himself by coming into contact with the human body, he doesn't get out of the experience well. He shouldn't date. He shouldn't marry. I think he should figure out what's going on in himself.
He always seemed like a jackass.
ReplyDeleteAnd isn't he the one with the back story of having a father convicted of killing another father while waiting in line to see Santa years ago?
I am so sick of enty always asking "why didn't she leave sooner?" it is insulting to the victim. We all wish she had been able to leave sooner. But asking why she didn't snacks of ignorance and victim blaming
ReplyDeleteHa! Smacks not snacks :)
ReplyDeleteSounds like someone with some bad issues.
ReplyDeleteI hope he stays away from women.
Aah, Mr. Baby Wipes himself. Clearly, this guy has issues. I hope you find those blinds and reveal them soon.
ReplyDeleteAh, Nellie -- "snacks" was clearly a reference to Enty's post about being in line with potsmokers buying Hostess cupcakes, no?
ReplyDeleteNellie I agree I'm too a little disappointed with the ignorance of the "why didn't they leave" it's not always easy and some victms never leave while others do and happy to hear she did
ReplyDeleteExactly, Barton.
ReplyDeleteShe probably stayed because she wanted to make the marriage work. Sadly, some leopards just don't change their spots.
ReplyDelete"My question is why on earth she would put up with that for a year. She should have bailed out of that during that first week."
ReplyDeleteGee, what a lovely example of victim blaming.
My question is this: if some omniscient "entertainment lawyer" had knowledge of this marital strife months and months ago, why did he choose to write a lame blind about it instead of telling the authorities?
If you're anonymous, aren't you protected from litigation, anyway? Why not just name the bastards who are beating their wives? What do you have to lose?
I find it interesting how whenever something scandalous happens in Hollywood, you say you need to "dig through" your old blinds because you knew about it before anyone else. Yeah, RIGHT.
his brother lives down the street from where i work so whenever he's in town you see him around. my husband used to manage a retail store and he'd come in often. usually around holidays and again in the summer.
ReplyDeletehe's the biggest ASS ever. his brother's neighbor was a co-worker of my husband and terrence used to park in his yard, block the driveway, etc. and then yell at the neighbor when he had the nerve to ask him to move the car. he just thinks an awful lot of himself. and he treats everyone else like the little people. not surprising.
He probably talked her into staying because, well, he's an actor -- he performed like someone who regretted his actions. He knew it would be embarrassing if his bride split, and everything's about him. Remember he punched a musician backstage at a Broadway show he was doing ("Hot Tin Roof" with James Earl Jones, I think?). Oh, and he complained about doing 8performances a week. Real pearl, this one. I suspect his role in "The Best Man" was typecast.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but any adult person who allows themselves to stay within a hurtful relationship is responsible for THEMSELVES. Period. That's not victim blaming, it's YOU ARE AN ADULT AND IF YOU DECIDE TO STAY WITHIN THE BOUNDS OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS HURTFUL TO YOU, IT'S YOUR FAULT. YEP, THAT'S RIGHT!
ReplyDeleteAbusers have a tendency to break down the other person emotionally as well as physically. I have seen it happen and it is heartbreaking, but it doesn't meant that victim is at fault.
ReplyDeleteTerrence Howard is the biggest JERK in Hollywood.
ReplyDeleteHate this guy with a passion.
@ Tempestuous Grape, it's not that black and white.
ReplyDelete@ Trollslayer, I kind of love you.
If a man is psychotic enough to beat a woman, do you think he's cool and level headed enough to let her just walk out the door? No. It's a control thing. He will threaten her every which way, threaten her physically and emotionally, make threats against her family, make threats about destroying her carreer, friendships, etc. And restraining orders don't mean a damn thing.
I hate when someone questions why the woman doesn't just leave. It shows a lack of empathy. Walk in their shoes, then you'll understand.
@ Anita_Mark: Bravo!!
ReplyDeleteHe's so weird and creepy. His need to control is pretty obvious. I'm glad she was able to get out and be reasonably safe. I hope he falls in a sinkhole.
ReplyDeleteWhat Anita_Mark said!
ReplyDeleteI have read so many weird things about this man, he completely weirds me out. I keep wondering if maybe he went through some childhood trauma or something - he seems to have an awful lot of issues.
You don't really see Terrence in a lot of stuff and hopefully it is because he's such an ass and no one wants to work with him.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, sometimes you stay because they apologize and promised never to do it again. You love them and hope for change and sometimes you just hope for a good time to escape. May take a few days, may take a year. A timeline only those involved know for sure.
I remember the Baby Wipes incident. He denied saying it and I thought, "Okay, I'll let it go." Then there were stories about the way he handled negotiations for Iron Man 2 and I thought, "Hmm, he still sounds like an ass." And yeah, there were blinds that suggested this guy has a nasty temper. Anyway, all that to say I totally believe Michelle and if it comes out as true, I hope she takes him for half of everything.
ReplyDeleteAsshole.
Sick to death of victims being blamed. I had an emotionally and verbally abusive first husband, I was in my 20s and you do get broken down mentally. It took me 3 years to leave, and he did stalking stuff after we broke up. He didn't put that we had separated on his tax return so the Tax Office thought I had lied on mine and I had to jump through hoops to prove I hadn't. He put my address down on the electoral role for an election, again I had to jump through hoops to get his name removed, even though he had broken federal laws. Finally, he didn't change his address at the hospital and they sent me a letter for him. I rang them up and the receptionist was fabulous and changed the address straight away. The doctor I spoke to was worried about him getting future letters. I told her if I received any more correspondence I was burning it in the back yard.
ReplyDeleteI agree with anita_Mark, its not as black and white.
ReplyDeleteIn my previous hell, the abuse started as small little digs - fully aware of what was happening - or at least I thought..when I did leave months later - the people who witnessed it told me I was curling into the fetal position, all the while I thought I was sitting there strong and straight backed.
and @ Tempestuous Grape I get what you are saying. I am certainly not proud of that time in my life, nor do I ever want anyone looking at me with pity in their eyes...I would have said/shouted the same thimg you said prior to that relationship, unfort it didn't end that way.
btw, this should settle things once and for all for people who think "Enty" is a woman ;)
ReplyDeleteHe is one sick crazy scary dude.
ReplyDeleteI remember a recent blind that Enty said he would have just told outright if not for his concern over the woman's privacy. It was about an abusive relationship and that the woman had already filed for divorce, but something terrible had happened, I forget the details (my memory is horrible)
ReplyDeleteAnybody else remember what I'm talking about? If that's the one it's not as if Enty knew about abuse and let it happen; he posted that after she had already left
Sadly RocketQueen, I've known women to say that exact thing. I have some "black and white" male and female friends who cannot see anything in the gray zone. I have a hard time with "black and white" people.
ReplyDeleteGood point, anita...good point. I guess the problem is with women who've never been through something like this.
ReplyDeleteLike other posters, I stayed with a guy who beat the crap out of me one night. Or rather, went back to him. Looking back it seems crazy, but my head was in a weird place after it happened and he really did convince me that it was my fault. People who've never been there just. don't. know.
Nellie said...
ReplyDeleteI am so sick of enty always asking "why didn't she leave sooner?" it is insulting to the victim. We all wish she had been able to leave sooner. But asking why she didn't snacks of ignorance and victim blaming
THANK YOU. GODDAMN there are some ignorant peoplearound here *shaking head*
I have not been able to watch him in anything since the whole misogynstic baby wipes interview.
ReplyDeleteI now even call the SOB by nickname Babywipes. He makes my skin crawl.
If only it was so easy as to just walk out the door. Unfortunately, it's not. Detailing the reasons isn't going to change certain people's minds because evidently, they just don't get it. And unless you've been there, done that, you really have no right to open your mouth and prove your ignorance by blaming the victim.
ReplyDeleteGo through the experience of someone threatening your life and the life of the people you love with insanity in their eyes and total control of finances. See how clear you think when you've been through even a week of this shit. Then talk to me.
The abuse sneaks up on you and you have no idea until you are in it!! And then you somehow have to sneak your way out of the relationship. You cant just up n leave an abusive person, you have to do it in a certain way once you've realized what's going on.
ReplyDeleteThere is a study that was conducted on animals (this was before PETA would have shut that shit down)
ReplyDeleteAnyways, it was conducted by a renowned social psychologist. He was looking into a phenomenon called 'LEARNED HELPLESSNESS'
He found two things:
When his assistants would squeeze mice then put them in a tub of water, they would give up very quickly and simply sink to the bottom. The random group of mice NOT squeezed, when put in the water treaded longer and up to 24 hours straight in an attempt to live.
2nd study revealed dogs being shocked electrically. The dogs eventually gave up, layed in a corner and just stopped protesting the shocks. When the assiatants eventually opened the cage to set the dogs free, they didnt even try to leave.
Both studies (while abhorrent to animals) show an example of how being mistreated changes us to the point where we are more apt to just take it and not try to leave after awhile. We learn helplessness.
- So simply asking why didnt she leave the situation? is to ignore the social psychological process that is actually happening to these victims. And it simplifies a complicated situation. And it futher adds pressure and blame onto someone who has already seen enough shit in their lives.
ReplyDelete@ tempestuos grape, while everyone is certinatly entitled to their opinion i think you should really look up what domestic violence is before you make such ignorant comments it also in a way justifies the abuser's actions as ok. it also sets the progress that d.v. victims have made in the last few years,
ReplyDeleteI also used to think like tempestous grape - why don't they just leave... until I met my former mother in law. My former partners husband beat her and the children and told her if she ever left he would kill her. He did some horrible things. She finally did, but 25 years on is still terrified of the man (who has now "found peace"). I found it hard to believe they were the same man. But eventually little things would happen, nothing serious, but noticable, once to my own mother, proved to me that deep down this was a very bad man... And just saying own it and walk away is not THAT easy.
ReplyDelete^ sorry former partners father!
ReplyDeletebtw, this should settle things once and for all for people who think "Enty" is a woman ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry, Rocket Queen, but behaving like an insensitive asshole isn't a male privilege.
By reading countless comments over the years not only on this gossip site it is quite obvious that, sometimes, the worst enemy of a woman is another woman.
I know the following comment will earn me a lot of eye rolling from certain commenters, but I have to remind all of the people who are or aren't sympathetic to female victims of physical abuse that it all starts with a certain mindset towards women and that the whole abuse often starts with verbal attacks towards these women. If you're systematically taught that you're worthless by being called a slut, whore, bitch and cunt you start to think that you deserve every abuse that's coming to you because, after all, you're just a slut, whore, bitch and cunt.
It's such a pity that, just like the police who only reacts if someone gets physically attacked, women mainly tend to side with other women only if the misogyny culminates in physical abuse and not prior to that. It's really sad that the hurt is only being taken seriously if wounds and scars are visible to the human eye.
I get what Rocket Queen was trying to say, and I don't think she was condoning EL's misogyny.
ReplyDeleteThis blog is full of comments like "why didn't she leave her abuser?" and "eat a sandwich" and thinly-disguised blind items about women who've endured abortions and miscarriages. I agree that the world is full of women who disparage other women, but I've NEVER gotten a female vibe from the blogger himself. I think he's totally sexist in a way that only a privileged and clueless man can be.
It bugs me when people claim that the blog has gone downhill in terms of content and quality, and then follow that by saying "EL must be a woman."
Yes Mina, I already addressed that in my last comment going back and forth with anita_mark. You skip ahead without reading follow up.
ReplyDeleteI get what Rocket Queen was trying to say, and I don't think she was condoning EL's misogyny.
ReplyDeleteI didn't think that, either.
I just remember that once in a while for some time now passive-aggressive comments of longer commenters like Rocket Queen are being posted to mock the people who once dared to question Enty's lawyer persona or were asking themselves if that blogger is really a man or a woman. If I still knew the entry from back then in which all of this went down I would link it here. It was ridiculous how ape-shit the blog elders went when I and others contemplated that the Enty back then sounded like a woman. I was a new poster back then and had thought that this was some kind of fun game among the commenters. That it was encouraged to guess the blog writer's real persona. Boy, was I wrong! Questioning Enty's real persona was the cardinal sin on here (still is) and don't get me started on those dubious donations to fund dubious projects, but..ssshhh...
I still remember that Lioness70 called me a troll because, in her mind, I had to be a troll because I did not have a blog back then. Hilarious craziness, I can tell you!
There are still a lot of people on here who feel the need to act like the blog's gatekeepers and think they have the right to tell others how to talk to Enty or what to think of that blogger. If it gives them a sense of importance I say let them.
Yes Mina, I already addressed that in my last comment going back and forth with anita_mark. You skip ahead without reading follow up.
Well, I don't see any back and forth, only anita_mark commenting and you responding to it, but I guess you have to resort to hyperbole to get your point across.
I just wanted to make clear that it's total nonsense to think that only men can be misogynists. We only have to read the comments on this blog to realize that.