A Thursday Your Turn
I saw today that Miranda Kerr said her son's middle name of Christopher is in honor of her high school boyfriend who died. They had been dating two years when he died and Miranda said she would name her son after him in some way. Would you name your child after an ex girlfriend or boyfriend?
My first love died right after high school (15 years ago) and my best friend and I made a pact that whichever of us had a child first, we would honor him. She beat me to it by a long shot and sure enough, her sons name is Christian.
ReplyDeleteBut, yes had I been first, I definitely would have.
That's a very nice way to remember a special person in your life, especially under those circumstances. I think it's lovely.
ReplyDeletehe was obviously someone very special to her, and she fulfilled a promise she made to him in her heart. good for her. that being said, i'm not sure i would do it, but that is just me, and it takes all sorts of different people to make the world go 'round :)
ReplyDeleteIf it was one of my friends, probably.
ReplyDeleteOne of my ex's...no...not because of ill feelings or anything...but I'm into unique names and most of my ex's have had blah names.
I think it is a lovely gesture.
ReplyDeleteI think its nice that she gave her word and followed through, even though no one would have ever known otherwise. Says a lot about her character.
ReplyDeletePlus, its high school. If it had been her previous guy, that might have been a little more bothersome to the father.
It's not like he was just an ordinary ex - he died. She was young and his death had a huge impact on her. Totally appropriate to give her son the ex's name as a middle name.
ReplyDeleteGood for her! I would totally do it and hope the man I married would understand.
ReplyDeleteAgree with Jordan. If my future husband wanted to name our kid after his last gf or something, then maybe I'd be a little irked. But this was high school...I think it's lovely.
ReplyDeleteas long as his name wasn't fucking BING! FFS!!
ReplyDeleteAsshole would make a nice middle name.
ReplyDeleteJust kidding. In this case, where the person died tragically, sure. If it were a breakup, no way
bahaha...Bing...what are these celebrities thinking?
ReplyDeleteWas it an ex or was he a current bf at the time when he died? I would say sure.
ReplyDeleteIf we had another boy, we would have given him the middle name of Daniel after the unborn child my husband lost from a previous relationship. He was a stillbirth named Daniel and even though he and the mother hated one another at the time (long story) he will never forget his love for that child.
My childhood friend and exboyfriend passed away. My son was born (years later), but on the same day of his death. I thought about it, because I always felt like my ex was our guardian angel (he also knew my husband). I didn't though, out of respect for my husband. His name, however, begins with the same letter.
ReplyDeleteWhile I also agree that it's a lovely gesture, I don't know that I would....not for an ex. A friend, most definitely. It would really depend on the situation and of course would have to be ok with my significant other.
ReplyDeleteI think it's lovely. And Ice Angel, I think it's really cool of you to be comfortable with naming your son after your husband's loss from another relationship. I have suffered multiple losses and the pain is intense. Good for you for being understanding...
ReplyDeleteI would if I was a child-having type, but I'm not...for me it would be; *would I name my animal after a loved one who passed away* and the answer is probably not. I just can't see calling my dog Joe, Pat, or Andrew.
ReplyDeleteI also thought it was lovely - it says a lot about her and Orlando that he was cool with it :)
ReplyDeleteA very, very close friend died while I was pregnant with twins, it hurts me to this day. When we named the boys, my husband suggested the middle name David after my dear friend.
ReplyDeleteI thought it was wonderful and love Orlando even more for agreeing to do it.
ReplyDeleteWhen I first heard about it, I was a little appalled, but after reading more about the circumstances, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's really not a bad thing at all, and says a lot about the strength of her current union, as well as the kind of person she is.
ReplyDeleteMy best male friend died at 14 and we were just at the crossroad to being more than friends when it happened. It took me ten years to get over him completely and my partner knew this and was okay with giving one of my son's middle names to him.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a nice honor for someone who clearly impacted her life. Earlier relationships influence who we are in later relationships.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it's not like he's a threat to Orlando now, is he?
@IceAngel: My father also had a stillborn son with his then-girlfriend, and they named him Joseph. Unfortunately, it turned out that she had been shooting up cocaine and that was likely the cause of the stillbirth. When my eventual stepmother discovered she was pregnant (a miracle baby, as she was a cancer survivor who had been told she could never get pregnant), my father wanted very much to name their son Joseph, but my stepmother was very put off by the notion, so they ended up naming him Noah. My stepmother (who died in a car accident) is now buried in the same cemetery as little Joseph, and my father told me a few years ago that after visiting Joseph's grave again, he was struck with a huge sense of relief at not naming Noah after Joseph. Sorry to ramble on about nothing much, but your comment reminded me so much of my dad's story.
ReplyDelete@EmCue-thanks for your story...I can understand why he was relieved at not naming him Joseph. Too confusing for certain. A middle name is fine, but it would be difficult to name one child after a lost child because no matter what that child could not replace the one who was lost. Names should be reserved for special friends, aunts, loved ones rather than what would have been siblings.
ReplyDeleteIt is nice that your father respected his wife's wishes as well. I think it's important that both parents feel good about the name they give their child.
(As long as it's not BING!!! Sorry..had to lighten the mood!)
People name their children after people who mean something to them. Obviously he had to be special for her to do this, especially if he died while they were dating. My middle name is in honor of my mother's old boyfriend who died in a plane crash. They weren't dating at the time but she had remained good friends with him and his family after they broke up.
ReplyDeleteYes I would.
ReplyDeleteNope. I would name him after my father, who meant the world to me.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a sweet gesture. My husband, on the other hand, would have a fit if I named a child for an ex, whether he is living or dead.
ReplyDeleteI figure that any name is fine as long as whomever else who has a say in naming the baby (your spouse, baby daddy, etc.) is okay with the name.
yes. especially because it happened when they were so young, the memory is always BIGGER when you are that young
ReplyDeleteI believe the person who should have the most say in the naming is the child. If both parents agree on the name, then great. Nothing like saddling a child with a freaky name, a name that is an eternal representation of parental discord, or heavy karma from inheriting a dead person's name.
ReplyDeleteAhem, like Apple?
ReplyDeleteI don't necessarily think that. The child isn't only her child, it is Orlando Bloom's child too.
ReplyDeleteHaving said that, I told my husband he could not call my son the nickname "Buddy", because that was a first boyfriend. However, he forgot that, and now I've ended up calling my son 'Buddy' sometimes. I'm over it.