What Is Taking Someone For Granted?
Over the weekend, Susan Sarandon gave an interview to the Telegraph. It was her first lengthy remarks on her relationship with Tim Robbins. Susan said that after her first marriage, she decided she would not marry Tim Robbins. The reason? "I've always liked the idea of choosing to be with somebody. I thought that if you didn't get married you wouldn't take each other for granted as easily. I don't know if after twenty-something years that was still true."
After 20 years together, what is taking someone for granted? I think there must be a fine line between taking someone for granted and having them be there for you. Plus, it also seems that if there are children involved there also become routines and that you assume one person will do something while the other person does something else. I think whether it is marriage or just living together or even dating that both people have to make an effort. Maybe that is what she means. You have to work at relationships to keep them alive and not stagnant. I think sometimes after so long together it is easy to forget the reasons why you got together in the first place and you need to work on reminding each other on why you did.
When you have tried all you can and given all you can give, its sometimes best to let go as not all things can be worked out...
ReplyDeleteI think she means that he did her wrong and made her feel old when he turned 50 and let his hair go grey without coloring it -- she's some 15 years older than him. He got too comfortable, forgot that she's the hot older momma with the young guys still drooling for her, and dumped her life partner of 20 years for a ping-pong player a third her age. Okay, so I'm cranky. I think that's exactly what she means though.
ReplyDeleteThere are two simple rules for a long marriage: don't get divorced and don't drop dead.
ReplyDeleteYa know, I can't help but thinking that staying together for 20 years and having kids and not getting married eventually is taking someone for granted (I'm old school). There have always been rumors that Tim was not very nice to her.
ReplyDelete...this from the guy that's been divorced how many times? ;)
ReplyDeleteGood for them for sticking out as long as they did...time to move on
ReplyDeleteThey always struck me as an odd couple and not because of the age thing or the liberal hippie thing (I actually like that about them) but if I were told that he was in the closet the whole time or whatever, I wouldn't doubt it.
ReplyDeleteGood one RocketQueen =D
ReplyDeleteI have to say, I don't feel sorry for her. She is supposed to be a Queen beyotch, as she has grown older. Yeah, some people can do that in Hollywood, but really, what has she done that's interesting in a career choice? Thelma? Dean Man?
ReplyDeleteI remember a NY Post blind from some years back that had Tim Robbins written all over it. And it certainly made clear that he was taking Sarandon for granted.
ReplyDeleteInteresting about Tim R. I remember those blinds about him, also. So if that was the case and she was over him finally, that's life.
ReplyDeleteI am all for an older woman having a fling like she's having with her Ping Pong guy, but then again, she is investing in his business,which always blurs the lines in a relationship--like, would he be as interested if she didn't have the cash to pony up? or the fame? and if she's thinks he's going to be around when she hits 70, well...I kind of doubt it. That's the way it is for women, sorry to say.
meh. couldn't give the most minimal of craps about these two.
ReplyDeletewhat were the Tim R. blinds about?
ReplyDeleteI must have missed those ....
I think you can take someone for granted in a long term relationhip whether you are married or not. I just think it's harder to get out of the situation IF you are married.
ReplyDeleteI just kinda figured they fell out of love...?