Tyler Perry And Oprah
Did you watch Oprah yesterday? Tyler Perry was on and discussed all of the sexual and physical abuse he suffered as a child. It was unreal. I am amazed that he has overcome everything he went through to become who he is today and to me he is someone who should be admired for discussing what happened, how he deals with triggers from those events and how he has overcome. He is an inspiration.
When he was 10, he was sexually molested by the mother of his friend. "I hear arguing from the living room, she comes in... We were in the bedroom. She throws him in the bathroom and says, 'You need to take a bath and go to bed,' and she tells me to go home, and I go to the door to try and unlock the door... and I couldn't unlock it. She lays on the sofa and spreads her legs - I didn't know she was wearing lingerie at the time - and I said, 'I have to go home...' And she lights a cigarette and she takes the key... and I come over to get it and she puts it inside of herself (vagina) and she tells me to get it, so I get the key but I feel my body betraying me...because I felt an erection. She pulled me on top of her and I was inside of her, so my first sexual experience with a woman...that was it."
Later he talked about how that experience came up again later in life.
"I was so awkward...I didn't know there were these triggers...I was with this girl and we were about to get into it (have sex) and she locks the door - click, click, click - I wasn't able to make the connection, so she's wondering what is wrong with me; I'm wondering what is wrong with me...I could not perform. I went from being stimulated and ready to go to not being able to perform. There is this next situation, where I'm with another woman that I really, really cared about...and she comes in the room, one day sex is great, the next day lingerie...it's, 'What is this?' And I never made the connection to this."
He also was molested by a man who out his hand down Tyler's pants. Tyler talked about his dad beating him with a vacuum cord and how once he blacked out for three days because of the abuse.
