In one of the most bizarre family court filings of which I have ever heard, Kelly Rutherford requested a judge keep her soon to be ex-husband from potty training their two year old son. According to TMZ, no reason was given for the request which had other requests in it about making a pool safe and secure. I understand the part about the pool. You don't want your child to accidentally drown. I do wonder if it is the same home she and her soon to be ex shared while they were married and why she didn't think it was important to keep it secure at that time, but I am more concerned about the potty training part.
So, when the dad is visiting with his son, he is supposed to what, only keep him in diapers? What if the boy wants to go and use the bathroom? Is the dad supposed to say no, because the judge says you can't? Does the dad have some kind of bizarre toilet training habits like letting the kid run around naked peeing in the corner like Verne Troyer or that recent blind item I posted? Maybe the dad sits on the toilet when he goes number #1 and Kelly doesn't want that, or the other way around? This is so confusing.
Does Kelly just want to be able to claim that she was the one who potty trained her son? I am just really curious as to know the why. Does anyone have any good idea why a dad wouldn't be able to help, and how on earth this is even possible to implement.
maybe she's not potty training him yet and doesn't want this guy to either. maybe she doesn't like the way he's doing it if they HAVE started potty training.
ReplyDeletemy friends with kids this age don't get hardcore about it at 2.
Maybe dad is a bad aim.
ReplyDeleteDad might be gung-ho about training the kid before he's ready. A lot of parents do that because they don't want to change diapers anymore, which can be very stressful for the child.
ReplyDeleteagreed. i know a few people that really were hardcore trainers before the kids were ready and its hard on the kids. i still feel bad for one of them.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a little girl, my beloved Nanny would say, "Oh my, he sits down to pee, doesn't he?" which I never understood, until I looked at this picture here.
ReplyDeleteElsieFire - hysterical. I've never heard that saying before. May I use it?
ReplyDeleteMikey, you may, but always follow it up with the obligatory, "props to Lorine". It would make her happy, RIP :>
ReplyDeleteHuh. I've never heard anything like this before.
ReplyDeleteCould this be a step toward denying him visitation or restricting him to monitored visits? (If Dad can't train then the kid either can't visit or has someone else with him.)
Which makes me wonder if something really wrong happened here.
Thanks ElsieFire, it's too cute!
ReplyDeleteMy husband I disagreed on potty training time line. He would talk to his brother who had his son potty trained at two then get it in his head that our daughter had to be potty trained too (don't get me started). My favorite was when he would get her dressed in underwear, not tell me then leave for work. I loved it when she peed all over the floor then laughed her ass off. Precious. He would struggle with her and they would fight over her going potty in the potty because she wasn't ready yet. I favored a much more relaxed approach, waiting until she seemed mature enough. Worked better my way.
ReplyDeleteI am curious too...
ReplyDeletePotty-training is a big & stressful step for a child, so maybe she just doesn't want the process to begin during an already stressful time in the child's life. It's hard to get the timing of potty-training exactly right, so maybe she is worried about creating further stress for the kid. That being said, if the kid WANTS to go potty, he shouldn't be stopped from doing so.
ReplyDeleteIt's entirely possible the father has some control issues, rather like my mother did when she was trying to train me all those years ago. From what I'm told, she forced me to sit on the thing for hours until I would have no choice but to go. If Kelly R's ex has similar 'issues' then I would be making he same request.
ReplyDeleteSounds like Rutherford is a using what ever she can to make the divorce process as painful as possible for everyone involved.
ReplyDeletesounds like she is just being a bitch
ReplyDeleteThis happened to me...I tried potty training every few months for a day or two. My son wasn't interested. When he went to his dad's for the weekends his dad was pressuring him to use the potty and not letting him wear diapers. When the baby came home to my house after the weekend he held it in for so long to avoid the potty that we made trips to the hospital and he ended up with a catheter.
ReplyDeleteThe doctor asked me to ask his father to lay off and let the boy work it out himself. Stress-free.
It's not the dad's fault, but they don't see the stress the child is under when they see them every two weeks. If that is what happened, it's an understandable situation to want to avoid.
Maybe he has untreated anger issues and potty training a baby could certainly be a trigger! Seems like there is more to this divorce than we know.
ReplyDeleteThat poor kid.
ReplyDelete"Let's celebrate our eyebrow waxes and insanity with cupcakes!"
There's certainly more to this than we know.
ReplyDeleteIf parents don't live together, it's SO much easier for the non live-in partner to follow the custodial parent's lead. At any rate, I just feel sorry for little Hermès to be having to deal with two such fuck-nuts.
ReplyDeleteThat said, after two unsuccessful months, I used the 'Dr. Phil' method of potty training (27 month old daughter), and it WORKED! Color me surprised!
"Big girl" undies and party hats, all the way. Oh, and stickers on the potty as a reward system. She LOVED it! LOL!
Okay, I'm fascinated by this whole divorce. They met and then married something like 3 months later. Had a baby then began divorce proceedings when she was only 2 months preggers with baby #2?!?! My question is, what happened between being so in love that you want to have a baby with someone to filing for divorce... all within 2 months.
ReplyDeleteOr, maybe they knew they wanted to divorce but, like one couple I know, wanted to have 2 kids instead of one so went ahead and made one even tho' they knew the marriage was ending?
Or, maybe she knew she wanted out and decided she'd get more child support $ if she had a second kid with him (I think I recall reading that he's super-wealthy)
Cuz, for reals, I cannot fathom it: what happened between the two of them to make this relationship so short-lived and the split so terribly acrimonious?