What is your definition of a single parent?
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Thanks Liddy! My son is awesome. We hope his father finds the peace in death he couldn't find in life.
BTW, she married a great guy when I was grown and they have been married for over 20 years! She finally got her happily ever after : )
Agree with audrey…I am a single parent. My ex is also single parent. And we co-parent our son. Fortunately, my ex is an amazing dad. He sees our son twice weekly and every other weekend. Bonus, he voluntarily pays child support, splits preschool tuition and clothing costs.
A single parent is one who is no longer with their partner for what ever reason there may be. Child support and visitation with the other parent are cool, and may indeed be co parenting but when I crawl into bed at night I am alone–so therefore, I am a single parent.
Wow, I feel for son and wish him good health. He's lucky to have you.
My sons father never once participated in visitation, never voluntarily paid child support, (semi-regular garnishments the past 5 years or so) and has never sent a birthday or Christmas present. Never paid for his glasses or sat with me while my son was having any of his 7 surgeries… Last week he died of an overdose. Nothing is different except now there are no chances for him to make it right. My son is 15 now. I am a single parent.
One parent doing 90% of the heavy lifting. The other skips merrily away. Fuck You Dad.
Thanks RobotBabs. One of the hardest things I've had to do it teach him the law of diminishing returns. That lil bugger will beat a joke to death. He is 7, so he has time to figure it out.
And Count? You're awesome. Keep showing up for your kid. You have delivered some amazing snark – a quality I hope you have shared with your offspring.
This is interesting. Some are basing the defenition on how the parent is affected and others how the children are affected. I guess I'm looking at this from the kids' point of view. A set of parents may both be single adults but being raised by a "single parent" infers a lack of something. If a kid is getting everything they need from a 5/2 split or a 4/3 or even every other week then their parents are both raising them.
A parent who is not in a romantic relationship with their kid(s) other parent. This could be due to divorce, single parenthood by choice or one being widowed. There really is no other definition. Single parent= parent who is single i.e. not in a relationship.
@TVJunkie: I got my tractor running last weekend. I think I have to take the carb apart before I mow again though.
Raw Deal? Yeah, it sucks. I just keep pluggin along, getting my ducks in a row for when he is old enough to flee.
The parent with primary custody and care of the child who is no longer with the other parent of the child and is currently unwed. I consider single parents even when visitation and child support are involved
An individual raising a child or children without emotional or physical involvement of the other parent in the children's lives. Otherwise it's called co-parenting and no co-parenting is rarely equal. Economic involvement isn't a given either way.
What Fancy said…I was raised with a single mom. No dad and no support from anyone but her. Her parents were poor and couldn't help so she did it on her own and somehow we all turned out to be decent human beings who care about other people. God bless her!
Me. I have a 24 year old daughter, she's never met her father as he left before she was born. He never paid a cent in child support. I raised her on my own and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Ignore the lawn mower thing. I don't know how that got pasted there! Sheesh!
Count, I hate to hear that. Even though I'm a mom, I get that dads get a really raw deal & it can be really unfair. Even if you fight for custody, then they think you just don't want to pay support.Oh no! Time to get a lawn mower??
TV junkie, good for u. :^)
Some people don't realize what single parent really means. Any help that the SO gives means that they are taking responsibility. When couples split life goes on. Finding a comfortable balance between moving on and taking care of your children can b difficult. I'd rather have a ex who had little time and money to spare but was invested than a completely absent one…
Single Parent – unwed parent.
I hesitate to qualify it with Primary Custody, because that would mean I am not a parent, since my kid doesn't live with me. That would be false though, because my kid gets more parenting in the 2 days every other week he is with me than in the time he is with his mother.
I agree, Fancy! I am divorced, get child support & live with my kids & BF. The kids' dad lives about an hour away & gets them every other weekend, even though I have full custody. (I couldn't keep my kids from their dad.) I have never thought of myself as a single parent, even though I am single – even before I started living with BF.
If you are receiving child support, the children visit the other parent on a regular basis, the other parent participates in the child's activities, you can depend on the other parent to take the children in the event of an emergency or scheduling conflict – then you are a co-parent.
I think of a single parent as someone whose children live with them full time, they have no assistance or visitation from the other parent, and no significant other in the household with them.
A parent that gets no financial or emotional support from the other. The other parent DOES NOT HELP AT ALL…
Too difficult to define?
A single parent can be anyone who carries the burden by themselves
One parent under a roof taking care of the kid or kids. God bless ya. I lose my mind when The Hubs has to travel for work, although the perks of sleeping in a snore-free zone and watching all of the trash TV I want while drinking in solitude is quite glorious.
Agree with Reno, mom or dad raising kid or kids without help of other parent.
A mom or dad raising a kid alone.
When only one parent lives in the home with the child(ren).
A mother or father raising children without the other.
A man or woman with a child that has not been married.
A parent without help in caring for their child(ren).