16 Comments on "Are You Turning Into Your Dad?"
I could only wish to be half the person my Father is. He is my hero and admired by many.
The Mum is a different story. If my kids want to get a reaction out of me they just have to say I'm acting like Grandma and I straighten up real fast!!
@AKM if it helps, my husband cut his father out of his life completely 20 years ago. He's never regretted it. Only you know for sure how you feel, but some people are just too toxic to ever let back in.
@AKM, I didn't know I had a sister, but knowing my dad it wouldn't be out of character.
He's dead now, but I've spent a lifetime trying to not be like him.He had some good traits, organized, good worker and boss…fascinated me that he treated the people outside the family a hundred times better than he treated us.
At the end I forgave him and even liked him as he was too ill to be his ornery self anymore.
I hope not. I don't want to be a racist, sexist, homophobic, emotionally distant, problem-drinking, arrogant, and possibly narcissistic personality disordered man. Or, you know, a man at all, since I'm a chick.
@Meanie, my kids are already getting the terrified look on their face when I point out "this" (pointing at me) is what they will look like in 30 years.
@Lucas, that's my official plan (wrt to both parents) and so far it's working. Whatever my mom did in 99% of parenting situations, I do the opposite. Never knew my dad, so that one's a no-brainer.
Nope, I'm not a vicious, drunk sex pest.
I hope not, he's dead!
@Gayeld – Ha!
@Patty. Me too. Every morning when I finally manage to stumble out of the bedroom.
No, wait, Mom lives with me. Nevermind.
@Patty: I don't mind turning into my Mom, but I have been seeing my maternal G'ma when I look in the mirror. That I mind!
Why not. All us ladies turn into our mothers eventually. Gawd…I'm starting to see her in the mirror too.
I surely hope not!! 😉
Good for you, Lucas!!
In some ways yes, unfortunately. But I actively fight back against a lot of what my dad is. My unofficial parenting plan is to do the opposite of what my father did in 87.3% of situations.